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15/f
one of my very good friends is going out with another one of my very good friends. before they were going out i didnt like him any more than a friend but now that they are i have this strong attraction to him. we joke around together, for example he'll cuddle with me in front of his girlfriend and we'll just say "oh dont tell her" but she's ok with it and knows we're joking.he tries to hold my hand but im not that comfortable doing that when he has a girl friend. but ever since we've been joking around i finally realized that i really do like him but i would never want him to cheat on one of my best friends. i like them as a couple alot, they're really cute together but even when he's cuddling with her i still have an attraction to him. basically i want to make myself see him as just a friend again and i dont know how.

PLEAS HELP

Never, EVER flirt with your best friends guy! EVER! You are being selfish by risking your relationship for this guy. The fact that you liked him AFTER he started dating your best friend is a major red flag to me. You only have an attraction because you can see what he is like with your best friend, and how he is as a boyfriend now and not as a friend, and you like it. But he is obviously not so great for your best friend if he flirts with you and tries to hold your hand... think about it... He is trying to cheat on her with her best friend! How does that make him a good guy at all? Exactly. He is not. I'm sure he is sweet and has his moments, but cuddling with you in front of her? That is completely crossing the line! Completely! She might say it doesn't bug her, but it probably does. If you were dating some guy you liked, and your best friend started cuddling next to him, flirting with him, and then you see him try to hold her hand, I'm pretty sure you would be pissed as hell! So tell this guy to keep his hands off you, because he is dating your best friend and you were wrong for flirting with him in the first place. Make it clear to him that your friendship matters more to you. If you are unwilling to change the relationship between you and this guy, then you should stop referring to your best friend as your BEST friend. Because best friends do not back stab eachother. So make the choice, or prepare for the consequences. I may be blunt, but the truth is more blunt and more painful then my words are, so take that to heart. Best of luck.
~Sherah

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(Rating: 3) i'd like to stop liking him, thats why i asked the question, not to get lectured

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