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Hey, I'm Mara. I love dancing. It's practically my favourite thing to do. I love House, R&B, pretty much everything with a good beat, and Benny Benassi is my hero; that's why my column is a shrine to him. I graduated this year and am now in my first year of college where I'm trying to pick a major. Chances are you'll see some of my Psychology questions floating around somewhere here. I'm also extremely interested in Political Science too because I, like half the people living in Canada, somehow want to change the world. I particularly want to find a cure for poverty, corruption, cancer, AIDS and George Bush because honestly, I think those are the biggest problems we have right now. I have decided that maybe I should take the time to live a little before I start though because I have a good fifty years ahead of me to fix all the issues there are. Currently my life consists of: studying, working, socializing, eating and ocassionaly sleeping. I spent practically all of my high school life being a delinquent and partying to huge extents until I discovered my brain sometime in the middle of my senior year. I still like to have a good time every once in a while but you always need to find that balance (I haven't exactly found it yet but I'm getting close). Unfortunatley, a habit that has stuck with me from school is my obsessive gossiping. I just can't stop and you know, an article in Cosmo says that gossipers are healthier people because they bond over it? Who would have thought? Anyway, I do have my limitations and I don't condone nasty, brutal gossiping and I don't gossip about anything my friends have told me in confidence or something about someone else that they have slipped to me, however, if I find you in a washroom at a random party making out with my bestfriends's boyfriend, a few people are probably going to hear about it. Actually, more than a few people will hear about it because one of my absolute pet peeves is parties where the all the bathrooms are occupied due to sexual activity or... puking activity. Sooooo what else is there to know about me? My favourite thing in the world is shopping and my worst fear is existantialism. I am OCDey in a clinical way so you can ask me questions about that. You can ask me practically anything you want except for dumb questions but I'm not going to answer them in my little column here because it's a huge waste of space when I could be writing about myself (Click 'LookIt' on my menubar for answers to dumb questions so you don't have to embarass yourself asking them and getting bitched out from me). What I can do, is offer you three pieces of truly inspirational advice. Firstly, never live your life by what others want of you, cherish yourself and everyone around you, and never beat yourself down about anything you couldn't have avoided. Secondly, donate at least ten percent of the income you earn in your life to someone who needs it. Lastly, never get into a bulldozer when you're under the influence and start driving it towards a poor freshmen (I am never going to another kegger ever again... ever). Ok, I'll shut up now. You can start asking me stuff, if you haven't hit the back button already.
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Hi. I work in a drop in centre for people with mental and physical disabilities. Recently we hired a new girl to work in a seperate job employment program, funded by the centre, but not really being involved with it. My own employer, before she left for her maternity leave, made it clear that I was in charge of the drop in program.
However- this person does not have anyone to work with in her own program, and apparantly has decided to horn in on mine. When I am working with the members, she buts in, telling them what to do and how to do it. Several times she has forced people (who may not be willing/may be unable) to do work like washing dishes. Once she was incredibly pushy towards a person who was suffering a petite mal seizure.
I don't want to have to deal with further strained relationships with my coworker. Already I feel resentful and threatened by her, mainly because she is two years younger, fresh out of college, and is one of those super-perky-isn't-my-life-wonderful-compared-to-yours kinds of people. How do I politely assert my authority without offending her?
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That’s a tough place to be. Normally, just being patient and putting up with her would be an option but if she’s trying to run your program and is doing a mediocre job at it, she’s making things difficult for the people who drop in too.
An easy way out would be to treat her like an assistant. Direct her on how to help others and maintain an authoritative position at the same time so she knows whose boss. In that sense, even if she is “butting in”, at least she’s doing it with you supervising her. Maybe she’s just bored and she’ll welcome a little leadership.
If things are still strained, you’ll just have to have a talk her. Ask her how everything is going at her new job and act like a big sister figure. If her behavior is still declining, confront her about it and find a way to nicely tell her to do her own job. Explain that your employee left you in charge but you are open to any feedback and will try very hard to incorporate it into your program but at the same time, you would prefer being in charge yourself.
Good luck with her.
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This is really good advice. Thanks for giving it!
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