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I don't know what to do and I really need advice.
My twin sister hates me. At least, I think she does. She acts like she does.
I moved out nearly a year ago into a flat with my boyfriend and since then, my relationship with everyone has improved....except with my sister. I've tried everything. I've got her round for an evening to watch movies, I even cooked a meal for her the day before yesterday. I invite her places and generally try to reach out and be sisterly.....but all she does is bitch at me.
For example, when I was there on Sunday, any time I said anything about the house (including innocently asking why there was a heap of bedclothes in the middle of my parent's bed), I got told that it was none of my business, because I don't live there any more. Then, when I try speaking to her about anything neutral, such as how work is with her and so on, she clams up. She won't talk to me and on the occasions she does, she does nothing but snap and be rude, ill mannered and.....I just don't know if I can cope with it.
It's getting to the stage where it is just easier to shut her out all together because I can't handle the way she rejects me all the time. Everyone has seen it, so I know it isn't me being paranoid.
I need some advice on how to handle it. I've tried fighting back, I've tried not saying anything..all I can do is get angry and cry.
Please help. Any advice will be gratefull received.
If you guys were close before you moved out then maybe shes upset by the fact that you moved out. Thats the obvious thing that comes to mind. I know alot of twins have a connection that they dont want broken and maybe she things that your boyfriend broke the connection between the two of you. But a year has also been a longg time to be mad over something like this. Your sister sounds very jealous by the fact that you got out of the house And that you let another person into your life and he gets more attention then she does.
You need to sit your sister down (maybe go out to eat with her) And dont let her say no. Explain to her that you have it as far as you can take it and you need to know why she is so angry with you, Why she doesnt want anything to do with you anymore, and why she has acted like your not her sister ever since you have moved in with your boyfriend.
Explain to her that you did not move out to hurt her. And that your still your sister and you care about her alot but the way she is actting is hurting you alot.
Hope this helps
kim:)
(Rating: 4) Thanks for the advice. Sadly, we have never been close (my fault, I should have specified) and she does not respond to direct confrontation but I think you may have been correct about her feelings. Thank you.