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Okay, so I have this issue. I tend to block out all negative emotions - or things I see as negative - and have developed a physical habit of stopping myself from crying.
I learned and believe that crying is a good emotional outlet...but it never has been for me. I wondered if it was because there was no one for me to cry to, and along those lines I realized something else.
The only person I'm comfortable crying to is my ex-boyfriend because he made me feel vulnerable, but it didn't scare me. He made me feel like I could cry and it would be okay.
I'm a control freak - I can't stand to feel like I'm not in control of my emotions - and that gets in the way.
I'm at a point now where I NEED to find an outlet because the ones I was using aren't working. The only thing I haven't tried is learning to let go and let myself cry.
I'm almost afraid to do it, though, because I feel like there's so much built up that it would hurt to release it all, and I don't think being alone would be a good idea for this.
However, as I said, the only person I feel comfortable crying to is my ex boyfriend...We're still on very good terms, but I don't know if I can ask him to help me...but I also NEED to find a way to stop blocking out my emotions. It's only hurting me in the long run.
Any advice?
I cry a lot, because I mean I get upset a lot, and sometimes I cant express it any other way. And sometimes the tears just come, if someone says something really hurtful, theyjust come. So if you start to feel like your goign to cry, let yourself. You'll feel better. I know it may be hard, but if your having trouble crying, hang on to that one sad emotion, and just let it out.
I write in a blog online and in a paper one in my bedroom. I write about my day, about how people piss me off, or about how I'm upset. That works, or writing poetry. Poems dont even have to rhyme, just get out your feeligns as best as possible. Or go to your ex boyfriend and tell him how you feel, and cry if you need to. :[
I hope things get better.
(Rating: 5) Thanks. I used to write and all that but it's stopped helping...that's a problem, too. Lol.