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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.

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14,f, my ex boyfriend, who i still kind of have a thing for, basically told me that he still loves me on AIM. and i was really flattered and all, but he has a girlfriend that he's been going out with for 2 weeks. and a while ago he told me he had a major crush on her, and then one day he asked her out and turns out she liked him too. so now i feel really bad that he's kind of, well, trying to cheat on his girlfriend or whatever by telling me he loves me, well actually i dont know what hes doing by telling me this, and i wouldnt want him to do that to me with some other girl. i really dont know what to say to him and when he wrote me that on aim i just told him i had to go and signed off. havent talked to him since. i really like him but still i would hate him if he told another girl he loved her if he was with me. so i'm basically asking if i should like him or not -- i mean, i really do..i think about him more than anyone and he was always faithful to me when we were together and he was just the perfect boyfriend..but then i broke it off because i wasnt ready to have a steady realtionsip back then but now i am. help???

If you are sure that he never cheated on you than this could simply be a case of his never really getting over you. You broke up w/him and he very well could still have the feelings for you that he always has had. Now when you broke up w/him he did the best thing he could for himself to get over you and that is get back out there and start dating other people. I don't think he's trying to cheat on her as much as he's trying to find out if there is anything that can be developed between the two of you. He's young and inexperienced so he may not be doing things in the proper order. It could be that he's taking a chance to tell you how he feels and hoping you feel the same way and then he will end it w/his present girlfriend, but he doesn't want to end it w/her if you don't feel the same way as a he does. Why should he end it w/her if you aren't interested? He's feeling you out so to speak. What I suggest you do is let him know that you are interested in him, but you can't proceed in a romantic relationship w/him as long as he's involved w/someone else. Let him know how this is making you feel. Tell him that it comes across to you as if he's cheating on this new girlfriend. But in my opinion if someone has only been dating someone for just 2 weeks that does not constitute cheating. There couldn't possible been any true emotional commitment at this point, it would be too soon. You're still in the infatuation aspect of the relationship at this point. Simply relax and let him know how you are feeling about everything and it will all work itself out. Good Luck!

Namaste!

Lulabelle

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