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Fifteen / Female!
Hey I have this problemmm. I really miss holding hands, cuddling, kissing etc with guys. I haven't had a boyfriend in.. almost 2 years. I spent a year liking this one guy but that never worked out and I lost almost all of my connections with guy friends. I know I'm not desperate though because I was asked out by a guy who I used to like and I never even considered dating him (bad past between us). I was going to stay with three guys last night after a party and I was expecting to just have a good time there (they completely respect that I'm gonna have sex with them yet and what not) but it turned out we never even got to hang out because something was wrong with my phone (apparently) and they never called. They asked me to hang out again today but my best friend was over and she didn't want to see them so I never got to see them even though I'm REALLY wanting to just be around a guy again. That made me want to see guys even more since I was all excited to go.

I was out on a date with a guy two weeks ago (I had only met him once before but it was a triple-date with 3 couples) but that never worked out.. he was too shy for me and he got a girlfriend a couple of days later.

So I am meeting new guys but I have been waiting and trying for so long.. I even have had 6 nights in a row of dreaming of just holding hands with certain guys that I know and have liked in the past. I know I am attractive, fit, smart and everything.. where am I going wrong?

If you have any other ideas even if it's just that I need to wait until I find a guy I really want to be with then please say it. I feel so confused right now! I will rate for anyone who tries at all or gives an honest opinion. THANKS!

I DO APOLOGIZE FOR ASSUMING THAT YOU WEREN'T A VIRGIN. I GUESS WHAT MADE ME THINK SOMETHING WAS GOING ON WAS THE STATEMENT THAT YOU MADE "THEY COMPLETELY RESPECT THAT I'M GONNA HAVE SEX WITH THEM YET AND WHAT NOT". THE WAY THIS IS WORDED LEAD ME TO BELIEVE YOU WERE THERE FOR MORE THAN JUST HANGING OUT. THIS COULD BE WHY YOU DON'T HAVE OTHER PEOPLE ANSWERING YOUR QUESTION. YOU MAY WANT TO RESTATE IT AND POST IT AGAIN. YOU SEEM LIKE A SWEET AND RESONABLE PERSON, THE RIGHT GUY IS GOING TO COME ALONG, YOU DESERVE IT.




If I'm understanding everything you put into your question correctly it appears that you are too free with the boys you know and...they are talking. If you go to be around boys just to have sex (have fun) then that's how they think of you. They don't think of you as someone who they can have a relationship with. Yea, I know, that's not fair since they are also participating but guys talk and do have a low opinion of someone who will have sex w/three guys in the same night. They can do it, but you can't (the old double standared). You indicate that you feel they respect you. I think that they have proven to you that they don't (judge people by what they do not what they say). It is indicated by the night they were suppose to call you and didn't. They found something better to do like flirt w/girls they want long term relationships with or something else. They had you in reserve incase their other plans didn't work out, and guess what, they did work out. What I suggest you do is reserve your amorous for boys that you want to develop a long term relationship with. Dump these looser guys that are only using you and then talking about you. That guy that you went on that triple-date with may have felt that you were coming on too strong and this was why he was shy. Guys want to do the pursuing, not be pursued. One of their quirky traits. You have to play the shy and coquettish game with them. Act innocent around them. Hold off having sex with just anyone. Make it something special for someone who is special to you. It may take a while longer since you probably have a reputation of sorts among the guys you know and anyone who expresses interest will be quickly informed of your freedom of expression by them. I think this double standard is absurd but that is how it is among boys. As you get older this won't be a problem, but that is how it is when you're still in school. So, if developing a relationship with someone isn't priority for you than continue to have fun the way you want to and enjoy your life (safely I hope). But if you're looking to develop something long term than I suggest that you quit getting together with these guys, they are not respecting you; they are just saying whatever they think you want to hear to get what they want. Good luck to you.




Namaste!



LULABELLE

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(Rating: 5) Sorry I guess it wasn't really clear but when I said "have fun" I meant party. I am a virgin and they all knew that, I'm sure a couple of them were too..

Anyways most of these guys go to different schools and don't know eachother.
There were some really helpful parts in there though, thanks!
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