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Q: (f/15)
well my best friend and i have been friends for like 2 1/2 years. we usually get along suprisingly well and never fight, although we did get into some arguments and there are just little things she does that annoy me . i've tried to talk to her about it but she is frustratingly stubborn and wont see anything from anyone elses side but her own. she also makes it blantantly clear about the little things i do that annoy her and try to stop, but cant quite since they just happen involuntary. in the past week or so shes been acting weird and telling me differnet things, such as pointing out if i have acne on my face...which obviously isnt a huge self esteem booster. she told me i had gained weight since last WEEK, that i havet oo much fat on my stomach (which i know i dont because im 5"7 and only 115 lbs) and that i have too skinny of arms and man hands. i try talking to her about this but she freaks out and says it was a joke. it wasnt a joke...and if it was why didnt she laugh? why didnt i laugh? she didnt say it in an easygoing voice she said it matter of fact and i dont know what to do because i want to remain friends with her but the fact that she wont listen to me is really irritating.
i need to know what i should do.
thanks for anyone that answers :)
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I think you both have always had a strong friendship, but now it's time to settle down with being around this friend so much and try spending your time with another friend.
Your friend is being absolutely selfish and you need to say, "Hey, it really hurts my feelings that you have to go and let me know whether I have acne or if I've gained weight" And when she starts freaking out and says that she's joking, just say, "It's not a joke if you are the only one laughing" and then send her home or hang up with her if you're on the phone. Get away from her when she starts acting stupid. I'm sorry, but your friend knows eactly what she's doing and if you don't stand up and let her know that you don't tolerate that kind of treatment, then she'll always continue to think it's ok to put you down.
If she's not listening to you, don't listen to her. If she freaks out on you in a confrontation, then freak out on her when she does the confrontation. Give her a taste of her own medicine or just leave and let her know that you aren't sticking around to listen to it.
-TheTeenGirl
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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.
I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 17 Member Since: January 18, 2005 Answers: 1364 Last Update: December 8, 2007 Visitors: 82414
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