Break ups are so hard to go through no matter how long the relationship lasted, so don't ever push yourself into thinking that you should be over him by a certain time because you will heal on your own as time passes by.

So the first step is to keep in mind that this is a process and give yourself as much time as you need to get over him. Everytime you cry, you are a baby step closer to getting better and feeling better. Don't be afraid to let yourself cry when you need to. Let your feelings and thoughts out, set them free. That way you can keep track of how much better you're getting each day.

Even though it doesn't feel like you are getting better, you are. Take things one at a time and you'll see in a matter of days that you are truly healing. Sometimes you might find yourself thinking of what you could have said or done to have made him not end the relationship. This is a phase where you are trying to make sense of the break-up. Don't let these thoughts and feelings of regret take over you. He's the one who decided that he didn't want a girlfriend, it is his fault that it's over.

The best thing you can really have during really hard times is to just be with a best friend or a group of friends. Keeping busy is the best too. As long as your mind is off into somewhere else other than him, it won't be as sucky for you. At first when you start to go out, you won't be feeling too happy, and that's ok too. There will be days when you're feeling pretty good and then sooner later you feel depressed. When you feel depressed, do your best to keep busy. Turn on the TV and watch something. Put in a favorite movie and watch it.

You shouldn't talk to him and always stay away from him as much as you can. You have yourself on the right track when it comes to that. If you continue to talk to him, then you'll probably never get over him. I just want you to know that it will be ok and you will get over him eventually. Even in the hardest times you're having, remember that you'll be ok and tons of people go through what you are going through.

-TheTeenGirl

thanks for actually putting time in your answer. :D
great advice.

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