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Q: my boyfriend lives in a different sity than i do. he comes to see me alot though but he has to work and he wont be back here untill the end of the summer and i hardly got to see him when he was here for the weekend and he almost never calls me and when he does or when i call him we only talk for a few mins then he says ""i got to go ill call you later" but he never calls. dont get me wrong i love him and he says he loves me but im so confused (by the way this is my first boyfriend.) and he makes it seem like he doesnt like to hang out with me like he would rather hang out with his friends than me. and im gonna miss him when hes gone for the summer and it would be easy for him to cheat too and he might cheat on me because hes cheated before. sorry theres not much of a question but i just need advice on this im thinking about breaking up with him but i love him and i dont want to im just confused PLEASE give me some advice on how to make this relationship better thank you so much ill rate and commnt to whoever leaves me good advice tips.

I know you're afraid of the pain you'll have if you put an end to him being your boyfriend. For me, this is very understandable.

However, you both don't get to have a lot of time together and it seems that you both are only friends because he calls you every once in a while and the conversation isn't for very long. And when you add the fact that there was a past problem where he cheated, then you'll probably spend your summer stressing about it. Now, cheating can be forgiven, but when it comes to how he makes it up to you and and he's really not because he doesn't call back when he says he will.

In my opinion, it already seems to be the end. It sounds like it's slowly dying and things are just waiting for one of you to call it quits. I know how much you want to make things work and it hurts you a lot just thinking about breaking up, but I think you deserve someone whose going to show you he cares and loves you. First boyfriends are always the toughest to get over, but don't ever think that the pain won't go away. You'll have a lot of mixed feelings about this and you might feel regretful. Just don't let those regretful feelings convince you that you've made a mistake. I think that if anything should happen, he should make his move and prove to you that he wants you as his girlfriend still.

-TheTeenGirl

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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

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