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Hello! I'm Jenn! I LOVE my friends and I'll try really hard to give you good advice. I like to sing, dance, and act and I love theater! So go ahead, ask me anything!

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I just found out that my best friend's dad passed away today. I knew that he had some kind of cancer and she'd been visiting him in the hospital for some time now, I also know that she did NOT get along with him. I never met him because he lived in SC and her and her mom lived in NC. (they weren't divorced, it's actually kind of confusing) Anyway, I'm just not too sure what to say to her. We've been friends longer than I can remember and I know this must be tough for her. I've had some friends pass away, but the only family I've had pass away was my great grandmother and my sister- I was young when my great grandmother passed away and I wasn't even born yet when my sister passed away, so I don't know everything she's going through.

I was just wondering if anyone here lost a parent and what others said to you that was comforting.

I plan on telling here that I'm here for her no matter where I am or what time it is, and I will be there, but somehow that just doesn't seem like enough... I don't know, I'm just looking for some advice on what I can say and what would be comforting. Thanks in advance.

i undertsand how hard this can be. When my best friend's dad died last year, I didn't know what to say. Don't say: I know what you're going through. Because you don't. Also, don't ask her if she's ok because that will make her feel worse. I'd just say, "I'm so sorry and if you need to talk, I'm here." If she does decide to talk to you. Don't say a word while she's talking. Listen intently and then give her a hug. Hope this helps.

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