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Q: ok this is how it all started out
i have liked this dude for about 3 years
we just started going out in march
we broke up in april for 4 days due to.. the fact he didnt like me as much as i liked him
he said he thought about me for the 4 days.
and threw those 4 days i cryed and trained myself not to put to much emotion in to anything i love b.c im afraid of being hurt.. now we go back out.. and he loves me alot. like ALOT and i feel like i dont love him as much b.c when we broke up i trained myself to not put any emotion in to anyone or anything.. and now when he says i love you i dont believe him and i want to sooo bad.. i really love him.. its just i dont want to be hurt im scared. and what not... soo does this mean i dont love him...??? b.c i know i do.. its just im scared.. he tells me everynight he loves me.. i know he does.. its just ... im scared of being hurt...
and now im really sad i have been having a bad week and when we are together i dont talk and he thinks he has made me mad but he didnt... he asks me 5 times am i mad at him im like no...

what should i do..
i really love him..
just.. scared

ILL RATE HIGH!!

I don't think that you don't love him. I definetly think the feelings are still there for him. You are just afraid of getting hurt again. These feelings are normal and the only way to get rid of them is to stay with this guy until you start getting the idea of how he really feels about you.

What you should do in the meantime is let your boyfriend know this fear you are having and let him know that you may not be acting like yourself for a little while because of these feelings. That way, he won't be under the impression that you are harder to please and that you aren't feeling the same way.

I know it may seem like you are falling too hard, and you might be, but you have to make some bounderies for yourself when it comes to relationships. Sometimes it's better to be laid back and having fun in a relationship when you are young. Young and serious relationships are hard to keep up with. These feelings that you are having will go away in time when you feel secure that he won't hurt you again.

-TheTeenGirl

Rating: 5

well... okay b4 we went out with me he went out with this gurl and for liek 2 weeks and he liekd me while he was dating her when he dated me but he was still calling her and stuff..telling her he likes her and her broke up with me now that we go out.. im like i dont want to end you like clara and hes like you wont.. but i dont believe him.. he says he love me and i half way believe it i just dont want to let too much emotion out.. so if something does happpen i wont get that hurttt

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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
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