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Q: ok, in short: I just started highschool, my class hated me but I found a couple of girls that were cool. One in particular, the thing is..she's prettier than me, smarter than me..and yes, better than me. And today we had a fight, and there's no doubt in my mind that everyone will choose her side. Also, going in to the school, I had a couple of close friends from my previous school, that REALLY loved me, I was their little cute friend who they had to protect sort of. Now as soon as I got to the school, she had to make them all like her BETTER. It feels like everyone I know, she has to know BETTER. Everything I do, she has to do BETTER. And the list goes on. So one of my fears after this fight is that all my old friends will side with her since she'll be going around saying stuff. And I'm known for the quite shy girl. So I can't to anything to stand up for myself, she's used to catfights, she'll know what to say to embarress me, to shut me up. I don't stand a chance. And no, I can't talk to my old friends, because they like her more now, and I just don't have that courage. I've tried "talking" back to her when she insults me (in a joking way) but she always wins, so I know for sure I won't be able to do anything. I'm just frustrated, I hate who I've turned into! I'm the shy girl who can't stand up for herself, how can I be proud of myself? I just wish I could like myself, you know? Please help me with what to do!!

You really do need to like yourself and you need to get way better friends than this girl who claims to be better than you.

Being the quiet shy girl doesn't make you a loser and it certainly does not make everyone better than you just because some people have better 'comebacks' than you do. This girl is being really immature by trying to be better at insults and you can't continue to convince yourself that she always wins.

Having better comebacks does not make you a winner, it makes you look pretty stupid for trying to pick fights in school.

You really need to get a teacher or your school counselor involved in this. I bet if your parents knew about this girl always trying to get everyone to gang up on you, they'd go to your school and complain. Now I know you're thinking that you don't want to look like a loser by dragging in an adult, but don't you think you should end this stress for yourself and trying to think of what you are going to say to her the next day? It's honestly not worth your stress and time to think of ways to stick up for yourself to a girl that isn't even your true friend.

Let me also tell you that just because you might get shaky and scared when it comes to someone confronting you with insults, it's not a bad thing. That's what tells you that you don't belong in this situation. And it's your heart's way of telling you that you don't deserve this. So don't think down on yourself just because you may not measure up to her insults and her comebacks. In thev end, it matters how you handle the insults and how you handle yourself when it comes to being faced with immaturity.

-TheTeenGirl

Rating: 5

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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
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