I understand your feelings when it comes to thinking that guys like curvy and meaty girls and it's not a lie. Some guys like skinny, some guys like meat on their girls.

But this all comes down to a little competition in your mind that you have with your best friend and all of the other girls in your school. You believe in your mind that if you don't have the guys holding onto you like a magnet, you are ugly and worthless. Which you know isn't true, but when you are in a world where just the skinny girls are getting the guys, your mind can't help but think that you've got a problem since you aren't attracting them like everyone else.

When a guy thinks you're hott, it can be a flattering feeling and it should be, but it's not that big of a deal as you think. When a guy says you are hott, it's just a comment about your body. Not anything inside you that really counts. It's just a compliment in physical terms, which can be good, but at the same time we should be worried about what people think of the person we actually are. Being told that you are hott is not big news at all. It's nothing like having a true boyfriend who loves everything about you.

When your best friends gets all of these guys, you get a little intimidated about yourself because you start wondering what she might think of you or the other girls. It's hard enough trying to figure out what every other girl in school thinks of you, but when your best friend becomes one of them, it just makes it worse.

Have you ever looked around and seen that lots of women who aren't very attractive are happily married? Can you imagine what they thought of themselves in school and around their friends? People who aren't that good-looking or attractive to guys in school end up happily married later on when the guys start getting mature and look for an attractive spirit. And luckily, we all choose what our spirit looks like.

Don't let what the guys do or say about you define what you look like. Let yourself define the person you are and what you look like. If you don't like what you see in physical terms, try fixing it if it can be done. If not, then just accept it just like everyone else does when it comes to an insecurity. It's ok to feel paranoid, but don't let it take over you. Dressing up like a slut and acting like one isn't worth it to just hear "you're hott" from a guy you might not even know!

-TheTeenGirl

Thank-you, I will keep your advice in mind :)

My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

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