I know it really hurts to see your mom going through all of this with your dad but the truth is that you really have no say in what your mom does about these things.

If your mom decides that it's ok to let your dad talk rudely to her, then that is her decision. If she wants to make excuses for him by telling you how he was hated in his childhood, then she'll have to keep going until her excuse gets too old even for her. Believe it or not, your mom absolutely does have a say whether or not she wants to stay married with him and take his verbal abuse. This isn't a woman issue, it's your mom's issue.

Sure, he can call her worthless, but she can decide whether she's going to let him get away with it or not. And she's choosing to let him step all over her and get away with it.

You said that your mom is starting to react differently to your dad's verbal abuse and that's a good sign for you. She's finally starting to do something else about it and she will have to learn that he is not going to change one day. There is no doubt in my mind that you are bothered by what your mom is taking from your dad and I know it has to be hard to cope with. But, you have to worry about yourself too when it comes down to how you've been reacting to all of this.

In other words, if you were in your mom's shoes, you would want to know if your daughter was crying and disturbed by something that's going on. So I think you should talk to your mom about your concern with her and try getting some therapy or something from her. Try getting her out of the house more and make some fun plans with her so that you both can smile together and let her tell you that she's ok. You have to worry about yourself more than what's going on between your parents. Your mom has went through this with your dad a lot of times like you mentioned, so I think that she's used to the way he's putting her down. The way I see it, she's getting tired of being put down, so she's just reacting as if she's annoyed.

All you can do is see what happens and don't get mad at your dad just because of what happens between him and your mom. I fully understand that you hate the fact that he's called her so many names, but your his daughter and he loves you. A lot of parents make the mistake of fighting and calling names in front of their kids and that is the mistake your parents have made. A lot of parents call each other names, and if you hold that against them, it makes it look as if you are taking sides. You don't know what goes on between your parents and what they are really fighting about. So please don't side with a parent and ruin your relationship with your dad.

Being a bad husband doesn't exactly mean being a bad dad. Parents get divorces and they still see their kids because they love them so much and it happens because things don't work out sometimes.

-TheTeenGirl

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