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Q: Hello :)
Okay, so yesterday I saw one of my friends do something I've heard about for a long time, but never actually seen...lie. Yes, he lied. And it was pretty obvious, and also..pretty scary. You see, pretty much ALL YEAR I've heard one of my tightest friends talk about how he's changed, and lies, and so on..and ofcourse I belived her, but I guess it never really sunk in. Because when I actually experienced it for the first time (him lying straight to my face) it freaked me out. I was sp sworried for him, I wanted to cry. I was about to, but didn't. It hurts to see someone I've looked up to for such a long time lie. They're BIG lies too. And he should know that we can't possibly belive all this, it's crazy. And we basically have prrof that he's lying, but confronting him wont work, it's been tried already. And it didn't help, if anything..it made things worse, he had to lie even more to excuse his lies, and it was just..really bad. He was basically shaking when we were questioning, it's like he doesn't WANT to lie. But he still does it for some reason. I cant think of a reason WHY though, attention? I'm just really confused, you know. I really can't talk to him about this, and my friends have already tried. So what do I do? Just ignore it? Or stop ebing his friend? Tlak to his family about it? His other friends? Pleease help me, because I want to be able to help my friends (it's making them feel EVEN WORSE)
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This seems a little bizarre of a situation, but if a confrontation didn't work then I don't see anything else working.
Sometimes you just have to let people keep doing something wrong until they hit rock bottom and realize that they've hurt so many people around them. But don't wait for him to hit rock bottom, move on with your life and don't wait for something that won't happen for a really long time.
I know it's shocking to be lied to from someone you really thought you could trust, but it happens. People who you think aren't the type that would do a certain thing, you find out that they really can turn into that type of person.
You're right when you say that you can't talk to him about any of this because you know that you'll be told more lies. As for being his friend or not, you don't have to go up to him and tell him the friendship is over, but don't trust him with any secrets or any of your personal items or any of that stuff. In other words, make him more a friend who you just talk to like aqaintances. I wouldn't recommend talking to his family because I think that it would just make things worsen with him and you as friends.
-TheTeenGirl
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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.
I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.
Everyone should feel free to Private Message me for advice, I can be harsh, but I'm always trying to help someone by giving them the truth they need.
About My Ratings:
I enjoy ratings. And if I ask a question on here, I always rate the person. If you work hard to give advice, you deserve to be rated.
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 17 Member Since: January 18, 2005 Answers: 1364 Last Update: December 8, 2007 Visitors: 82372
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