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On weekends, and such, I go out with my mother and grandmother. I'm very close to them, and they're really cool. We relate a lot even though we're all different generations. I guess I'm a lot closer to my family than most people my age.
I look at other seventeen year olds though, and they're always out with their friends, partying and stuff. I very rarely go out with my friends, because a lot of them annoy me and I have a lot more fun with my family.
But I'm starting to think I'm the only teenager who goes out with both my mother and grandmother, and I should be going out with people my age doing more "teenagery" things, as I don't want to look back on my youth and think of all the things I missed out on.
Firstly, is this pathetic? Should I be doing things with people my own age? If so, how do I meet some new people?

Be honest! I can take it. And thank you.

Wow, you sound JUST like me. I hardly go out with my friends because they annoy me sometimes as well. I don't hang out with my mother or grandmother but I hang out with a few of my cousins. I love hanging out with them, even though they can annoy me sometimes, I can't live without them. On weekends I'm either with my cousin or I'm home alone while all my friends are out at parties or spending the night @ eachother's houses.

Back in January and took a look at my life and I realized the type of thing you're realizing now. Will I look back and regret not going out with my friends? So I did a little turn around and I started hanging out with my friends a little bit more, but not to where everything was totally different. The past 3-4 weekends I haven't gone out at all and I'm a senior in high school.

I don't think its pathetic at all. You said you enjoy hanging out with them, so why would it be? But I also agree that you should set some time aside to hang out with people your own age. You might be like me, sit there and think "ohhh I don't want to go out. I don't want to plan anything either... its too much." but once you do, you'll be glad you did it because hanging out with your friends is a lot of fun outside of school. I'm assuming you go to a regular school and not homeschooled. If so, just get to know some of the other people in your class and start hanging out with them. Another thing is, if you don't have one get a myspace. IN NO WAY am I encouraging you to meet people through it, meet them in person and hang out. What I suggest, is adding kids from your school. Fill in all your interests, etc. and then go around and look @ everyone else's. Start leaving people comments & stuff and ask if they want to hang out.

Also, if you're not really into the high school party scene theres always college. I've been told that the best memories of your life come from college, not so much high school. So that'll give you something to look foreward to. As for me I've joined the Navy and even though I haven't had an extremely memorable 4 years in high school, I'll always remember the places I've gone and the many people I've met in the military.

I hope I helped some.
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(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for the in-depth and well thought out answer. You helped me a lot!
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