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I seem to be fading apart with many people I was once close friends with. I do not know why. Whenever I talk to them, it just isn't the same. I've tried talking to some of them about it before, but it just gets...awkward. Does anyone have any advice about how to become better friends again.

Just don't say that I should hang out with them more. That doesn't seem to help at all.

Ohh boy I cannot even tell you how many times I've gone through this. It seems like every year I'm growing apart with someone but you know what? I'm always making new friends. Thats just part of life. If you have trouble talking to your old ones, talk about things that you guys have done in the past. Bring up old memories. Tell them that you were looking through your pictures the other day and you found an old one of you two doing whatever it was you two were doing. Ask how they're doing, whats new, hows their parents/brother/sister, whatever. I go to school with the girl I was best friends with in 2nd grade but we NEVER talk anymore. We just basically grew apart. She used to go to church with me, spend the night, she was close with my mom but once again we're not really friends anymore. The other day I was walking in the direction she was walking in and she asked about my mom, I asked her what school she was going to next year for college, etc. We made conversation just like that, like a mini-catch up. Don't try to hang onto them, keep those memories you had with them treasured forever but see it as an opportunity to open the door and make new friendships. There are SO many great people out there and you want to be able to meet as many as possible. I'm not going to say you guys are going to become "better friends" again because people do change, gain different interests and commit to different things. But you can always stop and ask how they're doing and look back. In about 3 months I'm getting shipped off for the Navy. I'm still in high school and I'm still close with my friends but I know right now that these friendships aren't always going to be like this forever. If you're in a situation like this ever, you spend as much time with them as possible because it'll end too quickly. But you know what? I wouldn't stay here just for them as sad as it sounds. I'm TOTALLY excited for all the new people and things I get to experience in the next 4+ years.

I may have gone off topic a little, but I guess you can just call it giving extra advice :) Sorry this was long but I hope I helped. I know what you're going though.
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(Rating: 5) No, I appreciate the fact you took the time to answer thoroughly. And I know what you are saying. I do not make friends/get close to people often though. It's a combination of high standards, trusting issues, et cetera. Oh well. I appreciate the advice and good luck in the Navy.
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