Break-ups are a really hard thing to handle, and don't think that just because 5 months have passed that you should be over him. Getting over someone and coping with this takes a long time for a different person.

Your thoughts sound pretty dangerous and that break-up is causing you to think that just because he doesn't want to be with you anymore that you are unattractive and worthless when nothing could be further from the truth.

Even if this guy were talking to you and being nice about this break-up, you wouldn't ever get over him if you kept talking to him. The only way to start your life over from a nasty break-up is to stay away from the person you are getting over and having no contact with this person until you are healed. I know that it probably hurts really bad to have yourself convinced thst he hates you, but I think that he just wants to move on because he is the one who ended the relationship. It's a lot easier to be the one breaking up and moving on. And it's a lot easier to make the other person think that they don't care about them anymore since they are broken up.

Your best bet would be to talk to someone about this. When times get really rough, you won't believe how good it will feel that somebody cares and that you aren't alone. Try to understand that you are in control of yourself. What you think of you is what defines you as a person. If you think that you are unattractive in your mind, then you will appear that way on the inside. Don't let this break-up define you as an ugly unattractive person. You are still just as beautiful as you felt in that relationship. You are still just as loved as you felt in that relationship.

I think you seriously need to let your parents know what's happening because it's unfair to them that they have to deal with your ups and downs and have no idea or explaination of why it's happening. You don't have to go in to detail such as why you broke up, but at least tell them that you aren't with this guy and you are feeling depressed lately. True love can really make you think, but when you are thinking negatively about yourself, you are having unreal thoughts. These thoughts are lies and you have to realize that. You know that you are a beautiful girl too, you probably had really good feelings about yourself when you were in that relatiobship and now that he's gone, you feel like that's all changed. The only thing that has changed is that he is no longer in your life.

-TheTeenGirl

thank you so very much. i met a new guy and found love but yet again i fucked up. he helped me with my problems. im fine i know im a good person. but i put in for advice if you will please read it. its titled i cheated on the one i love. please give me you great advice.

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