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re-lo.
I am a blunt, cynical, nerdy nymphomaniac, incapable of shutting my mouth (partially due to chromosomal content). On several past occasions, I've managed to convince someone that my IQ was larger than my breast size, but my general intelligence and comprehension capabilities waver somewhere between a waffle cone and a gerbil.
I know nothing about everything, in stark contrast to poncy intellectuals everywhere, but I can maintain a pleasant facade of knowledge in these categories: alternative lifestyles, (alternative) sexuality and culture, embarrassing nuances of human behavior, grammar, dorkiness, makeup (I wear a shit ton), ancient cultures, art, mental illnesses, body modification.


advice

I don't attract guys at all. It's been said that I'm a lesbian (which I'm not), and I have an extremely brutal (but with purpose...I don't just say "Fuck the world" for no reason and think it's funny) sense of humor and wear all black. Are these turn-offs? But I'm a nice person. Though I can be a little morbid, I'm generally pretty friendly, I consider others' feelings, and I try to make friends, but nobody at my school wants to be around me. It's inevitable someone will say "Marian, I REALLY wanna sit next to Joe Shmoe. Can you move over?" at least twice a day. I just hate that. Whenever we have to choose partners/teams in gym, I'm always the last person. I feel so lonely, I cry sometimes in the locker room when nobody is around. There's only 1 friend of mine that's a guy who actually appreciates me for who I am, and I now have such a huge crush on him. I don't want to sound conceited at all, but I think I'm a nice-looking person, so that eliminates the idea that guys might not like me because of my looks. Does anyone understand? How can I make more friends? Even though he doesn't like me back in the same way, should I tell this boy I like him, and if so, how?

Don't listen to people who tell you to change. Imagine how pissed they'd be if you suggested they wear all black. oh no! The fact that you AREN'T like everyone else is what makes you rock. Who wants to be some cookie-cutter, brand-name, artificially cheerful phony? Those people make fun of you now, and then they graduate and fade into the crowd. People FORGET them, and there's no amount of clothing or jewelry or fake tanner that can bring it back. You, on the other hand, will receive as much attention as you can handle. You have nothing to look forward to except being wholly accepted by a diverse and open-minded crowd of ex-high-school-outcasts. Holding on to your individuality is the best decision you'll make. And if people don't approach you, if they can't understand you and it makes them afraid, if the color of your CLOTHING is all it takes to reject you as a person, IT'S THEIR DAMN LOSS for being so biased.
p.s. go for the guy. It takes a lot of guts to go against the norm, and he's stuck with you for who you are underneath the label.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks. That's very encouraging :)
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