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im 14/f my bf is 17. he is always talking about how he wants to marry me and how much he loves me. i love him. i know you will think im to young. im not to young to know love. alright. so he got me this necklace for christmas that has a heart on it that on the front our names are ingraved and on the back it says "7 or 8 more years..." theres a story behind it...but its about me and him getting married in 7 or 8 years. then for valentines day he got me a ring. he wants to get married in 4 or 5 years now.... and he calls me his wife. like when he intorduces me to his friends he callse me his wife. and even to his mom he says hes going to see his wife and stuff. and whenever i see a baby i want one of my own.... is that normal? to want to have his kid? me and him have never had sex or anything. were really jsut good kids in love. so is that bad/wrong/weird/normal?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have his kid. It is not weird at all. My last bf I loved to death and still love. To make a long story short, we aren't together right now, but we still love eachother, it was just too hard being together. And he called me his wife to his family and friends and everyone. He wanted to marry me and told me how amazing are kids would be. And when I saw babies I pictured how cute our kids would be. But I never, EVER thought about actually trying to get pregnant at my age and actually have his kid. And I am 17 and he is 18 and we are both juniors in high school. The thing is, we both are young and we both have big lives ahead of us. We both know we wouldn't be able to handle having to raise a family at this point in time. Kids may seem cute and all, but they really put your whole life and future on hold, and can really jeopardize an amazing relationship. You guys obviously love eachother and want to be together. And if he wants to really marry you, then in a couple of years you will see how that plan works out. You are only 14 and he is 17, and priorities change in years. You guys are both young and have plenty of life ahead of you. so don't stress the love you both have for eachother by the possibility of a kid. It could really break a relationship, despite how strong it really is. Just focus on the love you have for eachother and being with eachother. If you guys really stay together all the upcoming years, then when you are around 18 or 19 and out of highschool, that would probably be the best time to think about having kids. Not right now. Like I've said before, you are young, and you never know what is going to happen in the future. And the whole sex thing... that should wait too. Until you are a little older for sure. Having sex might not be a big deal to some people, but everytime you have sex, keep in mind how you would feel if you got pregnant. It might seem like a walk in the park, but if you have known anyone who was your age that got pregnant, their life story is very long and sad. These years you should be having a good time, growing up and just being young. Babies and all that good stuff comes later. You seem like a very mature girl who knows what she wants in life. Just never compromise that. Love is unpredictable, so you never know if the relationship you are in will last. That is part of the fun of it. So just don't make your relationship that serious that quick. It is better to take things slow. Best of luck! Need anymore advice just note my inbox. (Sorry the reply was so long lol)
~Sherah

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