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hi everyone, i am a 13 year old female, and although i am an advice columnist myself, i cant seem to find a way around my problem...please gove me any help you can...
ok well here it all is, ever since i was young i have been scared of the dark, like i see shadows, hear noises...the usual. and when i was about seven, i saw this movie, something about a leperchaun, and it scared the shit outta me, like whenever i had to go to the bathroom, i would be on the toilet(sorry for the prude language, hahah) and i would just imagine there would be this like killer leperchaun behind the shower cutain. and that STILL kind of scares me. and another thing, when i am watching television, or am on the comupter, i always think there is someone/something behind me, that is going to hurt me. now, i want to be an independent person, i really do, but unless there are lots of people around, i cant really live, because im so scared. like at night when everyone goes to bed, and i am downstairs, i freak myself out wondering if my mom locked the door, and if there is someone in the living room, so i bolt...and i mean BOLT upstairs and run into my room (which i share with my sister, otherwise i'd still be scared) so what i'm wondering is...how do i get over my fears? will i grow out of all this eventually? how do i become more indepentent?
please!please!please!please! HELP ME! anyone and everyone. i dont trust anyone i know enough to talk to them about this!
Nightlights. everywhere. Also, you might want to consider going to bed while people are still up. Doesn't have to be like 8 p.m.; I'm sure your parents are up later. And if you're going to watch a scary movie, try to see a "Making of the Movie" if available. When the costumes become plastic and the monsters become actors, it helps a lot. I know this sounds weird, but get a ton of sleep, too. When you're tired, your subconscious comes to the front, and makes you scared more easily.
If this doesn't work, there are a lot of decent anxiety medications out there.
It's ok to have phobias at 13. I mean, I know some 30-year-olds that are afraid of the dark. I'm not kidding. And anyone who says they're not afraid of anything is not only lying but unrealistic, too.
p.s. Most people generally do become less afraid as they get older. I was more frightened than you at your age, and now I have my own place and walk to my car at 4 a.m. alone and am fine. It'll get better. Hope this helps.
(Rating: 5) that you so much! that helps alot, and makes me feel so much better, too! :) thank you