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This is long...sorry...but if you read this and answer I promise to rate you a 5 and I will be so greatful! thanks in advance for reading this. I have this friend named nicole (fake name) and she has been my best friend for about 2 years. She gets really annoying and is pretty stupid, and my family doesn't like her very much. She doesn't have a lot of money and her parents are completely uninvolved in her life. My parents do everything for her and we get nothing in return. She never really does anything to show she appreciates it and I really don't like that and neither does my family. So recently she's been pretty rude to me. She ditched me twice. At lunch I sit with nicole and kelly (fake also) and 3 other girls who im kinda barely friends with but mostly I only talk to nicole and kelly. well kelly is "popular" all of a sudden to nicole but no one really likes her...and no one really likes nicole because she's so annoying. I know nicole doesn't care about popularity because if she did she wouldn't be so weird and act so nerdy. We're not popular but we're not geeks, I guess we are known as just normal group, except to the geeks we are known as popluar, so i've heard. Well nicole has just been obsessed with kelly and she blows me off or is too busy to hang out with me but not kelly. I have many friends in school, like a ton, but I usually only hang out with friends once every week or maybe even less then that. I only really hang out with nicole. But shes always so busy and always grounded so I kind of have no friends outside of school. I make an effort to hang out with other girls I know at my school but it never really works out, not that they don't like me just our plans don't really follow through. Sorry I'm writing a lot but I wanted you all to understand the background of my question. So here it is...Today nicole got mad at me and I had no idea why and so her and kelly totally ditched me at lunch and sat with someone else and I asked kelly is she mad at me she said no there was no room at the table...when there were plenty. I am so mad at nicole I seriously was about to punch her because suspension was worth punching her. She totally takes advantage of me and I keep going back to be her friend. My parents and bother think I should stop being her friend and there a feeling in me that I want to but then there's also a feeling that's not willing to give her up. The main reason I don't stop being her friend is if I do then kelly wont be my friend and I'll have no one to sit with at lunch and no one to talk to during class because most people in all my classes are popular or totally nerdy and all that stuff. But today seemed like the last straw and I don't want to be her friend but I'm afraid of what will happen. I'm hoping once I start high school I'll make new friends and totally ditch her for good, but thats about 6 months away and I don't want to go with nobody to hang out with during summer if I stop being her friend. I really love her and shes so funny and fun to be around. If I didn't love her, I would hate her and think she is the stupidest person ever, and I would never consider being her friend, if you know what I mean. I love that she doesn't care what others think, but sometimes I hate it because she is truly embarassng and since not a lot of people like her, I think that's why nobody ever calls me to hang out because they probably think I'm just like her. Basically I want to know all of your opinions about what I should do. Stay her friend, ditch her, wait a little longer, etc? Please help I have no idea what to do!!! I will rate you 5 if you answer no matter if I like your answer or not, just because you read all this. By the way, im 14 female. thanks so much!
Wow! That was pretty extensive, but at least you got all of the facts in.
I have a situation similar to yours. My friend was never blatantly mean to me, but he did avoid me and for no reason at all. It took me a year and a half of barely hanging out with him to finally quit caring. We were really good friends, and I like the person he used to be.
That's what you need to understand about your friend. You put a hell of a lot of effort into her, and now she's ditching you. She'll continue to do this over and over, hurting you again and again if you don't break it off. Trust me, getting stopping things now will save you a lot of trouble later.
Also, it sounds like everyone in your family has already given you their opinion and I'd say you already know what you need to do, but you're hesitant to do it. Letting go of a friend you've had forever is never easy.
Try to sit at another table, and you'll be able to make some friends by the end of the year. You've still got MONTHS to go. Another thing you should know, it things change dramatically in ninth and tenth grade. Most cliques break up and people become people. They grow up and quit caring what people think as much.
You just have to decide if you want to choose to use your non friend to get close to Kelly, causing you stress and emotional confusion throughout the entire summer, or make some new friends who will treat you the way you deserve.
Pretty easy decision. I know you'll make the right choice.
Btw, paragraphs would make it easier to read next time. :)
Good luck!
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thanks! and the paragraph thing was a good idea, thanks for reading it though. well so far your advice has helped the most. you seriously have no idea. not to be all emotional but i had tears in my eyes idk why but i just am sad to lose a friend but happy that i no what to do thanks to u. my mom said try calling her so i did, and of course she was at {kellys} no surprise there. so ur advice has truly changed my outlook on everything. thanks again, so much! and i honestly mean that. :)
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