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Q: Hey Advicenators! (;

I usually hate giving advice to questions like these, but I really need to know if what I'm doing is right. Basically, I have a boyfriend, and we've been dating for a month and a couple days. I really really like him a lot. He's been my best friend since I've moved here to Texas, and we just thought we should start being boyfriend / girlfriend. His name is Kevin.

Back in Pennsylvania, I had this best friend called Charles. We had been best friends since 2nd grade. But, we became REALLY close before I left PA because we knew that it'd be super heartbreaking for the both of us, since we wouldn't be together anymore.

I was completely sad because I knew that Charles didn't believe in long distance relationships. I knew I'd have to wait for him.

But then he found a girlfriend like a month after I left. I don't know her but I know that he has a girl. I was so pissed off about this because I thought he was "in love" with me. But obviously not. Then I met Kevin, like 2 months after I moved here.

Somehow he found out that I'm making Kevin a gift for Xmas, "100 reasons why I like you.." lol i'm pretty sure everyone knows about that. Then tonight, Charles IMed me and said, "Tell me 100 reasons why you love me.." & I'm like I'm not going to do that because it's unfair to Kevin, even if he never finds out about this conversation, I still think it's unfair to talk about US behind his back. He shouldn't even feel that way anyways because he has a girlfriend, right? Now he said he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. And he's never said that to me before.

I'm not going to be upset about this, because it isn't my fault, right? I just need other peoples' perspectives on this.

Thanks for any help.
NaImEE ♥

You did the right thing & no, it's not your fault. It sounds like he's jealous of what you have with Kevin. What he had with the girl after you left was probably to console himself, but he shouldn't have given off the impression that he had moved on if he hadn't. It's not your fault that you've moved on & found another great guy. It's great that you didn't try to resurrect your old feelings for Charles even if it would have been between the two of you.

The next time you talk to Charles, let him know that it's not that you don't care about him anymore, & you still want to have a relationship-- but this time, just friends & not the way you used to. Your situation (moving) was out of your hands, & he should be happy for you that you were able to find someone who makes you happy.

Rating: 5

Thank you so muchh Kailey, I really appreciate it. I thought the exact same thing too. He's such an idiot. But yeah thanks again!
NaImEE ♥

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My name is Kailey. I'm 17 years old & a senior at a high school in Massachusetts. I'm told that I'm mature for my age, but I'll let you be the judge of that. I love giving advice, but I'll tell you the way I see it, so you may not always like my answers. I especially like giving relationship advice. I don't claim to have all the answers, but I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now and I feel as though I can give good advice on the subject.