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I live in STL, I just got a brand NEW JOB, I have a spastic dog that cannot control his bodily functions, I adore penguins, I am a sucker for mullets,I have a natural curiosity about Mormons, I smoke but don't want to, I am a selfish giver, I have a psych degree I won't use, I like it when people use proper grammar and spell correctly, My boyfriend is an advicenator, I am a goof, I do not believe in God, my roommate is a goober, I am a goober, everyone is a goober, I am a closeted religious fundamentalist, I made up my own religion, I am one of those stinkin' liberals, I have several VIP passes to the Seven Hundred Club, and last but not least...
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Okay... I figured out why he hasn't tried contacting me. (It is by far the worst reason possible.) I finally found a number through directory assistance, called it, and a woman answered. I was so shocked. I made up some crap about how I was from the hotel he stayed in and he had left his hat (the one he had given to me) and asked her if she wanted us to ship it back. It was the correct number because she said she'd leave him the message and have him call me back. She even knew which hat I was talking about.
After that, I did some research on the internet with the number I found. I am 99% positive HE IS MARRIED and has TWO KIDS. He lied to me, told me he was single. He had told me when we were together that his ex-girlfriend (what he really meant was his wife) had written him a letter while he was in Iraq telling him basically "cya, can't take it anymore." So I think maybe the marriage is faltering/on shakey ground, especially since he is about to be deployed soon and is wondering if she will leave him again.
HOWEVER, I know this is no excuse to lie to me and does not give him a reason to cheat on her. I have NO SYMPATHY for him. I am so glad I found this little bit of info out now, instead of wasting my heart on him. And he told me he didn't have any secrets. (Hmph!)
But I am soooooo hurt. Especially since I broke up with my previous boyfriend because of all the lies he told. Now this. Believe me, it's going to be very very hard for me to ever trust a man again. I feel like such a fool.
I'm going to send the hat back. I'm so angry right now. Maybe I'll send it back in shreds. I feel like screaming in his face or telling his wife what a &%*#%*$ he is. I feel like crying but right now I'm too much in shock to do so. I'm so stupid, but I suppose this experience will make me a wiser and stronger person... or at least an old maid.
Why do guys lie? Will I ever find someone who is not going to lie to me? Even if I find the greatest man in the world, will I screw it up because I'll be paranoid that he is lying to me? How do I deal with all this heartbreak?
People lie. They all do. I have, my mom has, my dog has (wait, he isn't a person..), and I am sure you have at one point or another. People lie for many reasons. Sometimes they are looking to take advantage of you, sometimes they want something from you, sometimes they are trying to save their own ass. Sometimes people just lie for the hell of it. Due to self preservation or just plain selfishness, you won't continue to live and never be lied to again.
One way to try and protect yourself is to get to know someone before dating or having a relationship other than a plutonic one. Especially meeting people online. You can never REALLY know who that person is. You can meet great people in person and online, but both can be deceiving.
It is a difficult lesson to learn, but it is a good one. You just need to take your time and get to know people. There are plenty of good ones out there. Adopt a friends-first policy (that is what I do) Once you are comfortable that they are who you think they are, then you should decide if you want anything more. Don't give up after two bad experiences.
Be angry at him, for he is the douche. He was a scoundrel. If you want, you could tar and feather him (I have always wanted to do that...man that would be cool. Maybe I'll find that stupid rent-a-cop who game me a parking ticktet.) But, you would have to find feathers, and find tar (just flirt with a roofer...) find a way to melt it, then go to where he lives and have him stand there while you dump it on him. Then run after him (because he has just been tarred...he may be screaming...) and throw the feathers onto the tar. Then you will be escorted to jail and we will all hear about you on the news. Now, you are not going to do this... How do I know? I have a sinking feeling you are smarter than that. ( I am not however...)
You should not say that from your two experiences that all men will lie to you. That is an invalid generalization. You CAN say (and should say) that men have lied to you in the past and that you will need to be more careful. There are people out there who will not lie to you. Like me. Heh, that is funny since my name is NOT chicken_flavored_eggs and I do not look like cartoon snakes. Sort of...heh.
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Thanks. The tar and feather thing... hmmmm, I like.
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