I'm a 16 year old girl who's been dating this guy I'm fully in love with for around 7 - 8 months. We're both still virgins but we've talked about losing our virginity to each other. Neither one of us has EVER did anything sexually with another person, so I'm pretty sure neither of us have any STDS or AIDS. So far, we've experienced everything but sex with each other. We've considered all the risks & have thought long and hard about this, but mind you, we are prepared and we do have a brain unlike half the teenage population. We both know that we are fully ready to do this in our minds & hearts. But, I have a question. Even though, we aren't married & we're gonna lose our virginity to each other.. and though we've been together for a while & are planning on beging together for a long time after this (possibly even marriage later on, but you never know what may happen).. do you think this is okay? Like sometimes it worrys me because I know in my heart that it's a sin to have sex before marriage, but we've talked about it & with our friends as well, and we all figured out that if you ask God for his forgiveness, he will accept it. I just want opinions on this.. do you think it's okay to have sex at 16 if you're mature & ready enough? I mean, what's the point in waiting until you're married? I know one reason is because it can be a sin and then another is because there's a possibility of having a baby, but if you're sexually "safe" with condoms & birth control, then you're chances are very slim to none for having a child. So any opinions or thoughts is welcome on this.. don't be afraid to express how you feel, it won't bother me. Thank you all very much! :)
I agree with you completely. I feel the same exact way with my boyfriend. I am madly in love with my boyfriend of 10 months, I would never leave him for another guy, I would do anything for him, and vice versa, but we've decided to be chaste, not only for the religious reasons, but also because if you start having sex early in a relationship, it can change things. If you get emotionally attached, and God forbid, one of you are unfaithful, think about how heartbreaking that could be. Also, if you have sex, it can get old/boring, and I dont want to sound weird, but your marital sex life can be, well, boring. Its good that you'd use condoms/birth control because that shows you have sense unlike most teenagers. If you are SURE you can handle the consequences, then I guess you're okay. The only thing I have a problem with is that you assume that God will forgive you. That means that you are PLANNING to sin, which is the definition of a mortal sin, so how could you be sorry and rely on God's forgiveness, especially if you're doing it purposefully. Remember that sex is a promise and a bond. I'd love more than anything to share that with my boyfriend, but I'm not sure if I can handle it yet. Believe me, I know how it feels, I'm just dying to make love to my boyfriend, but we have the REST OF OUR LIVES to do that. Why rush? Think long and hard about your decision. If you'd like to talk more about this, IM me, my screen name is on my page. I hope I didnt offend you or anything. Good luck :)
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no you didn't offend me. i actually really appreciated your advice, it's all very true. i may IM you sometime! THANKS =)
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