Hi, I'm 16/f and I was raised a Catholic. A really close friend of mine is like.. TOTALLY religious. He's completely devout to the point where he considered being a priest. lol, anyway.. he told me to read this chastity booklet called "pure love" a while ago (www.pureloveclub.com is the website for it) which I did. I was shocked at reading it. Apparently, not even french-kissing should be done outside marriage. I find this ridiculous in a way, and wonder whether any of this has a biblical basis.
My questions are: Should I tell my friend I read the booklet and give my opinions on chastity? Would it damage our friendship?
Secondly, and more importantly, is chastity really necessary? Is there anywhere that states that french-kissing out of marriage is sin? Why do they believe this? I realize that pre-marital sex is a sin, but kissing? Even light touching? Is this all necessary? I am against pre-marital sex (for my own reasons, not for religious reasons) but don't understand why they are so hell-bent against other things.
I hope I haven't offended anyone who is a Catholic. I respect anyone's religious belief, but I always question everything in life. :) I'd appreciate a totally unbiased answer. Thanks a bunch guys!
I'm Catholic, I go to a catholic school, and we have people come in to talk to us about chastity all the time. They said the same thing- nothing beyond kissing (peck) should be done outside of marriage. They said french kissing is a sin because you are sharing the breath of life that God breathed into us as we were created. I understand that, but I still think thats ridiculous. I can understand No intercourse, no oral sex, and no inappropriate touching... but no french kissing?
This is how I see it. In the Bible it says no premarital sex before marriage. But in the Bible, does it state that french kissing is a sin? I don't know if it does or doesn't. But if it doesn't, then its just a stupid rule that the Catholic church made over time. Then again I could be wrong, and it may say it in the Bible but I'm not sure. It just makes me mad the fact that NO WHERE in the Bible does it say women cannot be priests. Its just a rule they made up many many many years ago. Back then, priests could marry too. So you never know.
I suggest telling your friend your oppinion if it means that much to you. Ask him if the Bible states that french kissing is wrong. Afterall, we all know that God inspired humans while writing the Bible so they wrote what God wanted to say and ONLY what God wanted to say. And even if french kissing it technically wrong, explain how its not as bad if you do it with someone in a serious relationship, and not casually while being drunk at a club.
You havent offended me, dont worry :) and I hope you can use my counter example!
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thank you very much. You obviously know your stuff and you helped me out a ton. :) You're definitley right about the priest thing.. and you know, back in Jesus' days there was no such thing as priests, and God never wanted there to be such a thing. He only wanted Jesus to be the only mediator between people and Him. Priests shouldn't even exist technically! And there is nothing saying they can't get married. I guess in the end though people are gonna believe it all anyway. =/
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