I posted this to a single person, before I knew it could be answered by anybody with an account;
I am a 17 year old male, and came across your site by accident, or possibly fate. I have a big social problem. I've always been described as "the different one". I was always the one who did his work in class, or didn't do things exactly the same way as everybody else. I was just different like that since primary school. (I'll just say at this point that I'm not gay. A lot of people ask that when you say you're "different") The problem is, I've never been able to shake certain difficulties I've had as a result of being unusual. So now I find myself at 17; I've never been to a party where I've drunk. I've never been kissed. I've never had a girlfriend. Nobody knows who I am, nobody seems to care. I find it difficult to make friends, because I feel socially awkward, because everybody expects me to know things that I don't, because I never developed those social skills. Most of the friends I do have are the poisonous kind. They will be friendly some days, but only because it benefits them. At other times they seem totally unfriendly. I feel like I'm tied into keeping them, because it's not as easy as just pretending they don't exist, and if I alienated them, then I wouldn't have anybody left.
I don't want to become "normal" (if that exists as something to become), I would just like to know how I can fit better into the social structure of school life, and develop general social skills. I feel like I got expelled from the school of social interaction as a kid, and now I've found out there's no adult ed. class.
Thanks,
SilentOne
you do sound very intelligent, and i do feel the need to say that most highschool students are immature, untrustworthy, idiots, that you dont want as friends. i think that what you need to do is join some sort of after school club or something like that, that youre interested in. that way the people there share the same interests as you. there wont be a lot of people, so it wont be akward and i guarantee youll make new friends you can count on and have fun with. i also feel the need to say that you really need to *dump* your old "friends" i know its a lot harder to do than it sounds, but like i said, join a club and make some new friends you like. it will boost your confidence having good friends and it wont be so hard shaking the crappy ones. you dont need to force yourself to be with other people you dont like to make you happy..when its obviously not making you happy anyway. you also dont need to impress anyone (so dont try..just be yourself. as if you havent heard that enough) because im going to ask you..who does it all matter to in the end? plus, you say youve never drank at a party..well good for you. your my new hero. you didnt conform like the rest of the world, and you havent killed any brain cells. good job. you havent made an idiot of yorself, or said things you shouldnt have. by saying you havent had a girlfriend, that just means you havent settled for what you can get. once you do get a girlfriend its going to be very very special. but *never settle for second best* always shoot for what you want and if you dont get it, just keep on trying. haha off topic a little but that reminded me of joe dirt when hes like "just keep on keepin on, lifes a garden dig it." anyway, i hope you dont change because i can tell your a very special person, your girlfriend will be very lucky, and the people who chose not to be your friend are missing out. good luck with everything :) i hope you become happy
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Hey, thanks. Some of your feedback is a little dodgy, but then again, some people can't take a joke! You seem to know when something is important, and that's the only thing I think matters.
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