PrincessAva's advice column

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Name:Ava
Age:19
Location:New York City
Gender:Female
More crap:5'9 120 lbs blue eyes(when wearing my contacts)usually brownish green eyes brown hair

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Suicide - A CRY FOR HELP
A suicide attempt is a cry for help -- a desperate effort to end the pain of problems that have become overwhelming.

A new teen suicide hotline is available in Southeastern Idaho through the Bannock Youth Foundation. If you or someone you know is depressed or contemplating suicide, help is available 24 hours a day. Help is free and confidential.

1-800-949-0057

SOS
Teen Suicide Prevention HOTLINE
1-800-949-0057
Let's Talk . . .

SOS Teen HOTLINE: 1-800-949-0057
Emergency Medical Services: 911

What To Say To A Troubled Friend . . .
"I'm here for you."

"I want to hear about what's bothering you."

"I really care about you."

"Let's talk and figure out how to make things better."

"Things are tough now but they will change - you've got to hang in there and I'm here to help."

"I would feel horrible if you hurt yourself and I don't want you to die."

"If I can't help you, I'll help you find someone who can help."

"No one and nothing is worth taking your life for."

What You Can Do To Help A Depressed Or Suicidal Friend.
Listen to your friend with concern.
Ask your friend if he ever felt this bad before. If so, how did he handle the situation?
Share a time when you felt pretty bad and assure your friend that things can and will change.
Be especially concerned if your friend takes drugs and/or alcohol because their judgement is impaired.
Ask if your friend has suicidal thoughts.
Let your friend know that many people think about suicide but never actually attempt it.
Give your friend a hotline number and make sure your friend calls.
Stay with a depressed person. Do something together.
If your friend is suicidal and refuses to get help, tell a responsible adult as soon as possible.
Make specific plans to see your friend the next day.

ANOREXIA HOTLINE

We provide help for those struggling with Eating Disorders :

If you need help, please call the ANAD hotline, 847-831-3438 (Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm, Central Time)
Anorexia, Bulimia & Compulsive Overeating.

Abuse, Rape, Incest Hotline: 1- 800-656-HOPE
Bulimia/Anorexia Hotline: 1-800-227-4785
Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD
Covenant House Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999
Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE
National Runaway Switchboard: 1-800-621-4000
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE
Peer Violence Hotline: 1-87-REPORT-IT
Young and Pregnant Hotline: 1-800-550-4900
Youth Depression Hotline: 1-800-HIT-HOME

FOR MORE INFORMATION VISIT http://www.library.nashville.org/YA/health.htm

GOOD LUCK AND CONTACT ME FOR ANY QUESTIONS

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ok well 3 years ago i went on a cruise and i was hanging out with 2 guys and my cousin, my cousin's name is Lexi, my friend i met on the cruise were Matt and Reily. I started to like Reily, and Matt liked me, and Reily liked Lexi, and lexi liked no one. We were playing truth or dare and Reily was dared to kiss me but didnt, then he held my hand! i was young and it was the first time a guy ever did that, i was melting in my seat when my aunt *Lexi's mother* comes in and we quickly pull away from eachother and she yells at me and Lexi cause we were supposted to be in this one room but we left- with 2 guys! so we werent aloud to see them again, i was crying on my buncbed cause she had ruined my first holding hands moment with a guy i liked, the phone rang and with relief i answered it, It was Matt! Matt said the only reason Reily held my hand earlier was because he was drugged up! so my grandma was listening on my phonecall and the next day told everyone that i was hanging out with druggies!!! Reily was taking benidryl because earlier on the boat he got sick! so they said i couldn't see them, i ran outta the room and Lexi and my other cousin after me, my cousin pinned me against the wall and was choking me! and Lexi was watching and was scared, some how, i got away and then they dragged me all the way back the whole public saw me!! So then i was known as the "hellchild" and my one aunt said that my other cousin, Caitlyn had it before me then i got it, BUT WHAT ABOUT LEXI?! the ages are Caitlyn, Lexi, then me! THEY SKIPPED LEXI! and they didnt give her a label! So now 3 years later i still feel bad for that day and i'm mad still and my aunt just recently asked me to go down *where all my family lives .. the same neighborhood!* i dont want to, cause i know that to get rid of my horrid label is to let them walk all over me, and if i act like "the hellchild" i'll be miserable. What the hell do i do?!?!? i'll rate high!

*Jill*

Well i understand your situation. Something like this happened to me. I was at the mall with my best friend, her boyfriend, and my boyfriend. My dad called my cell and asked where i was. I told him at the mall. HE started yelling at me and said that he said i couldnt go to the mall. He came over and i told him that he said i could go to the mall and he called me a lying bitch. i started running and he caught up with me and pinned me down. turns out he told some dumbass story to his friends that i was selling my self. so i got know as the "wild child" to his friends. But after a year it went down because i told them the story and they ended up believeing me. dont let them walk all over you but dont act like the hell child act somewhere in the middle. dont let them walk all over you but still act like your in control

Hope i helped and good luck
Contact me for any questions you may have
Feel free to rate

.:~Princess Ava~:.

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(Rating: 5) omigosh your story brought a tear to my eye. i gave you a five cause your advice made me feel like i wasnt alone cause i thought i was, also you're right in the middle sounds fine to me. And also if you have any questions i'm here also. Thanx again!

*Jill*

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