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13-Male----everyone says im the nicest person in the entire school,(as in i get snacks for the bb games and i open doors and stuff),but still everyone is mean to me. they pretend to like me when im doing something nice but right after that its back to the mosters once again. and just to say this isn't one of those situations where uc an say, just igrone them. its about 50 something ppl.It might be that i was really wierd like 4 years ago but it hasnt helped. It's gotten so bad that I can't even try to get a g/f. help meeeeeeeee. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I understand that you have already heard the "just ignore them" advice and you are here to hear DIFFERENT advice so I will try to find an alternative for ignoring them.
OK, what I personally found that worked was "re-enventing" myself. Of course, in my case I just didn't want to be seen as the "disturbed goth chick that cuts herself". Either way people do think differently of me. If its about "being cool" I can say that from elementary to 7th grade I was... such a loser. In 8th grade my best friend was like REALLY FREAKISHLY popular but I still considered myself a loser. Now I'm in high school... I have lots of friends (which I made by myself, leaving the freakishly popular girl behind by choice) and um... guys don't look at me like some weird chick no one understand anymore. A really cute guy asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday! *(yay!) Anyway, my point being is that if I were the same person I was before this would soooo be different. (Although I personally don't think highly of myself now... I'm still the same shy loser inside... only guys think I'm pretty and girls think I'm cool to have as a friend... gys think so too...)
I take it you're in middle school, If you are don't worry about it too much because in high school... it all gets better. I never took it seriously myself when I was in middle school but now that I'm in high school I can see that its true.
Now if you want to be all "cool" and stuff (and this is going to sound ironic... almost stupid) you're going to have to (and I'm serious) stop trying. Okay, maybe you never "tried" but you "care" (this doesn't mean you want to be Mr. Popularity... just that you want people to think of you as someone they can respect or admire... which is not necessarily a bad thing). The thing is that your approach is not working. Insteasd of working on the way others look at you try wokring on liking yourself first. You don't have to opemn doors or give snacks. Its nice if you do it every once in a while but... what people care about is not to have their own personal buttler but... a good listener. Someone who is themselve. This is true because if you're yourself people can relate. That's what people want. Just give a "nice boy" vibe. Don't try to go out of your way to please them.
Hope someone is of help. My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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i dunno i have tried to change in the past.
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