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Okay! Im a Catholic. And I have no problem with it. Well, I know that you arnt supposed to cuss and say mean things, exs- raciest things and gossip ect. Well I have an African American Boyfriend- Im White. Anyways these kids on the bus are so mean to me. Like they know that my boyfriend is Black. And like the other day this one kid says "My brother had this dream and he was telling it to my mom. and his mom was like ' well Martin Luther King had a dream and he got shot' " and i was like you guys know that I dont like racist jokes. And like they cuss all the time, and i told them that i dont like it, and then most of the time when i say that i dont like it, theyre like "F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ F*^ " and Its so mean! and like My boyfriend got me all into the Bible and like so now i know how bad lying really is and same with cussing, and like one time i told them a bunch of stuff, about my boyfriend, and then i regreted telling them because they always made fun of me for it. so i told them that i was lying and then i said that i was lying like right after i told them not to lie,so they made fun of me for that too. and and i was like well that was beofre i learned all of this stuff about the Bible. and then they would make fun of me like "IM SAVED" like and say totally sarcastically. Yah- so I know that you're supposed to ignor people like that, but not doing anything about it is just as bad as you doing it yourself. and i dont want voilence.
So any advice? I always rate a 4 or a 5 or nothing!!!

Thanks so Much!!!

*~!KeLs!~*

Since you can't avoid the kids on the bus, and you can't change or control what they choose to do and say, your stuck with figuring out how to deal with them. It sucks, I know. Kids can be quite cruel to each other.

As far as the cursing goes, since they're not your friends, just ignore it. You've told them several times, and they don't care. If there is ever an authority figure looking into it, mention it, but don't make a big deal out of it. There are a lot bigger problems here.

Since your already a target, I wouldn't aggravate it by commenting on conversations that your not a part of. If you are a part of the conversation and you find a joke offensive, go ahead and say "dude, that wasn't funny, it was stupid and racist." Don't tell them "I don't like it" - that just brings the focus back to you and you want to keep the focus on the "joke".

It's quite likely that they are saying and doing things just because they want to see you get upset about it. Staying calm is your best bet. Once you get out of school, things get better. :)

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(Rating: 5) Thanks. I mean whats with all of these Racist people these days? Can't people just be nice?! The WOrld would be such a better place!! :)
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