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ok thers this guy that i thought i liked but he's really pushie if u know what i mean. he freaks out if i dont tell him i love him or if he thinks i didnt mean it when i hugged him... it's really weird. i feel weird talking to him now because i don't like him anymore and he thinks i still love him. we never actually went out or anything, we just went to the park together alot and played basketball and skateboarded and talked, but nothing more. besides the one time when we were sitting on a bench we... well nevermind thats a long story. and i tried to tell him the other day i didnt want to go to the movies and he started freaking out hes like "i thought you liked me! laura is there somthing you need to tell me? we have to talk don't we? theres somthing wrong." and i can't just go up to him and say "Lou, i don't like you." because hed get so mad. i don't know what i should do. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Wow... well... this sounds like a difficult situation. ...I think you're too scared of hurting his feelings. (Sorry if I'm mistaken... I'm just assuming...) and that is sweet of you. But you have to realize the best thing to do is let him know how you feel so he an move on. I have a feeling you already know this... what you're finding difficult is actually TELLING him that he needs to move on.
The movie thing is a good example. Tell him "no I don't want to go. We do need to talk." Once you start talking he'll start assuming the worst. If he says "don't you love me" don't assure his fears. Tell him something like, "it's not that. I still care about you. But I just think we need some time apart." You don't have to say THAT but somthing a bit like that...
Once you tell him this expect him to react angry, hurt, even maybe confused. There's nothing you can do about this but deal with it. It's human nature. Give him time and space. In the end it was best for both of you.
If you're afraid he'll get physical or something do the break-up in a public place or in your porch or something (with-people inside the house).
I wish you luck. And I wish him luck as well. May you both find happiness... someway. Hope I helped. ~Blessed Be...
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hey, thanks so much! you really did help... i havn't seen him for like a week though because he isn't in the same school as me and he hasn't been online and i have no clue what his number is. next time i see him i'm going to go with your advice and tell him straight out how i feel. even if i do hurt him, he'll be happier in the end, i think. thanks again!! ~*Laura
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