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my friend smokes. and shes 13. she knows i hate it but still does it anyway. and in front of me too! i reli want her to stop. she stoped for a little while n nows she starting! ive treid everything! i lectured her about ive told the pl seh gets them from to not giv her ne. but its not working! how can i convince her to stop. and dont sey let her live her life the way she wants!
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Hi Sweetie,
I know you're worried about her-it's only natural! Unfortunately there comes a time when you've done all you could do. I suggest a few more efforts before waiting for her final decision (to keep smoking or to stop). After all it is HER decision.
There was a word you used I didn't really like. "Lecture". I understand why you'd do it but... I personally hate it when my friends lecture me. It's like a million times worst then when your parents or teachers do because you're frinds are supposed to... NOT lecture you. BUT I understand the issue is more delicate here... it's smoking.
Instead of telling her what smoking can cause her physically tell her... how its chnaging her. Tell her how people are noticing her odd smell (this was an example)... remind her that you care about her. You may want to share stories about people that you know who smoked and regreted it later.
After you've done all you could you'll be face with one last choice. You could tell someone (like the school councler or something). I know this sounds awful but sometimes its the best thing that could happen to you (I know, its happened to me). If you don't want to do this it's okay-I wouldn't either. What I would do is stay away and if she asks why or showed she care I'd tell her its because she smokes. Either way I'd stay away and just hope she does the right decision... perhaps from time to time remind her I'm still hoping she wants to get better.
I'm sorry I couldn't really help. I just hope somebody could. Best wishes to you and to your friend. ~Blessed Be...
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thanks so much....long answer but ill try....problem is her parents no n dont care n teachers see her! its reli frustrating
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