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Q: ok I like this one guy named Ben and he likes me also and weve been friends since the first day of school and Ive liked him since then well it slowly turned into love. And I still am in love with him. Sounds like nothings wrong right>> Problem I just got asked out by this guy named Ryan and I dont like him because most of my feelings are for Ben and Ben and Ryan are friends and Im going out with Ryan. Ryan is so much different from Ben. Ryan smokes pot, hes weird to hang around with, and im never happy around him
On the other hand Ben hes cute,funny, and Im happy when im around him, gives me hugs all the time!! And is such a sweetie. So this should be easy but its not!! I dumped Ryan yesterday (thursday) and got back together with him today OUT OF GUILT and then before 6th period I felt like I made the biggest mistake of my life!! AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I was planning on telling Ryan that I dont want to be his girlfriend because I dont know him all that well and WHAT ELSE CAN I SAY O i dont want to go out with you because Im in love with your friend even though u say you love me Ok bye! what should I do and I would like guys to answer this but girls are fine TOO!1
please dont delete this I really really need help
LOVE Ash

be blunt.. break things off with ryan *and shame on you for going back out with him for guilt.. lol dont worry you're human and you make mistakes*.. not the real issue is if Ryan would get really mad if you went out with his best freind or whatever and if Ben would take it offensively and take it as a reason not to go otu with you b/c you just dumped his good friend.. if yes is the answer.. then back off of them for a while.. both of them till things aren't so awkward with you and ryan and he'd be ok with you dating a friend of his. but to try to shorten the advice.. break up with ryan.. DONT go back out with him.. tell ben (when the time is right) how you feel about him and that you've liked him for a while now and that you think you two would be good together. see wat happens from there.. keep my posted!

Rating: 5

Thanks and I will keep you posted k!!! If U want to talk to me my IM is footballbabe454 ill tell you on there or on here BYE

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anyways about myself, i've gone through alot in my life and it's all made me stronger so i can relate to nearly any situation. i really love people. when i get older i do plan on doing something in this sort of field, maybe psychiatry. i'm currently a junior in highschool and i devote all of my time to either my friends, theatre, or school. yeah i'm sort of a nerd. if i can't get on here to reply to your questions and its urgent then you can always feel free to IM me on AIM and i'll try to help you on there. i'm basically always on.