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Q: Well this is a record 2 problems from me in one night...
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 months. I'm 16, he's 18. We are having sex. Mom knows, but hates the fact and thinks he wouldn't stay with me if I told him I didn't want to have sex anymore, and I'm DYING to prove her wrong.
But the thing is, I don't really want to stop the sex because quite honestly, I like it. lol. Obviously he does, too, but I know he'd stay with me even if I did say I wanted to stop. Our relationship is based on pure love, not lust. (not to mention the fact that we're engaged. Mom doesn't know that, though. She won't know for about 3 or 4 years.) Mom doesn't believe he'd stay with me. I'm dying to prove her wrong, but that involves sacrifice on my part.
If I actually wanted to test him, I'd have to lie to him, and I don't want to lie to him...
What should I do? Should I test him and prove mom wrong, or just leave it alone?

ouch.. well i'm stil a virgin so i can't really sympathize with you on the whole sex is great feeling thing... BUT if you think your finace will be ok enough to accept the lie (after things are all said and done) then go for it.. it's ok to have a guilty conciounce about it becuase yeah you are lying to him but it's for a good cause right? lol. and maybe this might even help your mom see that he really does love you and it'll help when you break the news to her about your engagement.. it should somewaht help her see that you two are serious enough for this.

i have heard; however that sex does freel great and that it's very addicting.. but it won't be for that long right? and i'm sure you can last just a few weeks of not getting intimate right?

Rating: 5

Heh, we're gonna end up trying anyway, due to our busy schedules...it's already been a week. ^^ Lol. I'm not sure what I'll do, but thanks =)

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