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Q: hey .. ok .. here is the thing ..i have 2 best friends.. lets call them elle and iris.. we're really close..we're in 9th grade.. in school, we usually like guys our age or 1 or 2 years older.. there's an important guy at our school and he needs a bodyguard to stay with him. my friend, elle, likes this bodyguard. not offending anyone..but, we're upper class girls and as you may imagine, not only
this guy isn't from the same socially "priviledged" class as us, but he's also around 30 years of age. this is hardly the problem, the guy stares not only at my friend, but at iris and me. iris and i have become very fearful of what this may end in. some dude used to call elle to her cel phone (without telling her who he was
and he asked her sexual things and implying stuff he shouldn't imply. she answered and took things very lightly. anyways, i asked her if she would date him if a relationship would occur (cuz she HAS NEVER had a conv. with him..!!)
she told me she would, and not only date him but have sexual intercourse with him. as you can imagine, i'm very worried because i have no idea what this pedophile freak is capable of. he looks at her with these provocating eyes and she looks back at him, responding.
i dunno what he could do to, not only her, but us. i have this feeling. i dunno if he's capable of doing something to her against her will- as in raping her. i talked to my mom and what she told me was that iris and i needed to talk to elle urgently to tell her what she could get herself into before this goes too far.
SHE TOLD ME SHE LOVED HIM. iris is talking to her mother right now to ask for advice. this is a great deal to both of us so i would REALLY appreciate your advice. thank you so much for reading this long .. thank you ..

ahh that is kinda freaky... and it's really scary when this happens.. (anything involving with stalking/raping etc) but it was a good idea to talk to your mom about this and really be able to open up to them about this

first things first --> talk to Elle and realyl try to convince her and motivate her to see the really big picture here! Rape, molesting and harrassment are NOT things to be taken lightly at all! Even one sexual unwanted encounter can destroy or change someone's life.

Also.. If Elle doesn't get the picture... inform an adult of this. IT's better to have more adults on your side incase anything does happen. Inform teachers you trust, or counselors or even church related people. Don't be embarassed about this. Your health should never ever be something to be embarassed about

And finally, what you are doing and putting up with takes a great deal of courage. No one should have the right to make you and your friend Iris feel as uncomfortable as you do. I hope that other girls that are in somewhat a similar situation as yours take takes this to mind and does something. Much luck to you three!

Rating: 5

Thanks sooo much ..

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