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I'm just some girl. I don't really stand out much unless I'm on a stage. I'm not loud unless I get angry. And I don't love unless its proven to me first. I've been hurt almost beyond repair by people I've loved and trusted. But I can only grow from that. I live my life by my own accord. I love my parents more than anything, they have given me an amazing home to grow up in, someplace I want to come back to. I have a boyfriend who has been my best friend for a long time, he's helped me get through a lot. We've been each other's rock when times got hard.

I have my dreams and aspirations, and while some may not come true... the most important things is to know I've tried my hardest. I trust my intuition more than I trust any living person. My gut has never failed me, but unfortunately, I have failed it.

Someone once told me that I don't live in the "real world", that I live in a box - fortunately for that person, they never lived my life. My life is real to me, and me alone. I've been through a lot... I've been hurt, I've laughed.. I've seen life, and death... tears of sadness and tears of joy. I've felt every emotion known to man. Hatred, Love, Sadness, Joy, Ultimate Bliss, Anger.. So don't judge me until you actually get to know me. There's more to me than just about anyone knows. Even my closest of friends.

I'm the "Dear Abby" of all of my friends.

advice

Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:

I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.

I honestly think that you did the right thing by writing him a letter and telling him how he truly made you feel. Emotions are such weird things. We are normally drawn to the people who would hurt us the most, and that is what is odd. Its like a learning process. Unfortunately for you, you have liked this guy for an very long time. I was in that boat too, once and I was hurt pretty badly by it. It was a different situation, however, I know what you are going through. Its hard to like someone a lot, but have to tell them that it just won't work out. I do not think that you and he should be together, because you deserve someone who will treat you right. Besides, being with someone who has been with an unknown number of females could be dangerous. You don't need to worry about if what he has done in the past will carry on to you (aka STDs or something like that) and you also don't need to sit at home worrying if he will actually change or if he is going behind your back and getting together with another girl. People like him very rarely turn over a new leaf. I think you can do better than him. Getting over your feelings for him may be hard, but it may be worth it. Until you see him changing, don't go for it. Why risk the hurt?

I hope I helped. Good luck.
By the way, I love giving advice. And I am willing to give it to anyone about anything. Feel free to ask anything else if you need to. Hang in there. Let me know how things go... ~SammyPie

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for yuor advice. I plan on talking to him face to face and deciding from there. I'll keep you posted. hugs, Ana
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