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Q: Ok, im going into highschool this year coming out of a really small school. I need some tips on these things.
-how should I dress and act? (im kinda a prep)
-how can I make new friends that aren't total losers?
-how can I flirt and catch a guys attention?
thankyou =]
just BE YOURSELF. you can`t just act someone how to act. act how you normally do, or you won`t have much fun and probably will be made fun of. just don`t do anything stupid.

Q: 15/f So my boyfriend just broke up with me on friday. He said the reason we needed to break up is because he needs to get his priorities straight. We live kinda far away but my neighbor is his cousin so we see eachother every weekend, and i just figured with summer coming up we could see eachother everyday like last summer. But his mom is making him get a job so he'll like never be over here..and thats another reason he broke up with me. So after that he basically said all he needs is some time and space. But its easier said then done..do you think i should just give him his space and basically give up until he is ready to go back out orrr keep trying?
just leave him alone for a while. if it`s really meant to be, he`ll come back to you, if not, then it`s not meant to be. if you keep trying, it`ll probably just piss him off more. he said he needed time&space right ? so give it to him&respect his wishes.

Q: Last spring I snapped my ACL during soccer. I got surgery at the end of June. It's starting to bother me again after I run and such, and I saw my doctor. I have to get an MRI because I might have some issue with scar tissue developing. They said that if it's bad enough I might have to get surgery. If I do end up having to get surgery, how long will it be until I can be active again? It was a good 6 months until I recovered since my surgery & I swear I was gonna kill myself. I missed a full soccer season and I feel like I've lost a lot of my skill, and if I get another surgery I'd have to miss this next upcoming season to. Thanks so much!

ps. Please don't say to ask my doctor, I'm just looking for a rough estimate right now, until I go and get my MRI so I'm not worrying over nothing, and then I'll ask him.
it depends on how bad it is. if its not that bad, it won`t take the whole 6 months. you have to wait for the mri to come back. plus everyone recovers at a different rate, so it all just depends on how bad it is and how fast you recover.

Q: What are some good jobs for a teenage girl? I am 16 with no work experience except volunteering. I'm planning on applying to as many places as possible but need some more ideas, since a lot of places don't hire teens.

Places I have applications for: Coldstone, Starbucks, In And Out Burger.
I have already applied to Nob Hill.
the best places to apply would be like starbucks, juice it up, jamba juice, robeks, places that sell drinks like that, or at supermarkets or fast food places.

Q: in the secret, it kinda says that you control your own destiny. i always thought hashem controlled everything. in chumash class, we learned that hashem is involved in all of our lives. but the secret says that the law of attraction makes no mistakes; that it works every time. dosent this sort of go against religioon?
exactly. the secret is a psychological book. it says that everything is logical. it fits in the category that believe in evolution instead of creation. it`s something along the lines of that.

Q: can drinking a lot of water everyday make you lose weight?
it can help you lose weight a little bit, but it can`t make you lose weight significantly.

Q: i have two ferrets. My first one i got was a girl her name is tinkerbelle and i got her in october of 06'. then around january i got a boy named peterpan , and since ive got the boy tinkerbelle got really calmer over days and thats a good thing cause we used to not be able to hold her for a second. And the boy just wont stop being so mean he bites her on the face and bites her on the neck. they have had one temper shot and i was wondering when i get the second one , will her be calmer or any information on how to handle it because im sick of hitting him but it does help :/

kaylaaa
the following is a link to a website that tells why ferrets bit and a few tricks to stopping it. it might be useful.
http://www.ferret-fact.org/BehBite.htm

Q: Alright so i like this kid and we have been friends for a pretty long time but just this week he broke up with his gf should i ask him out or give him time plus i dont know if he likes me and i like him alot..? Plzzz help
give him some time. talk to him more, help him out, comfort him if he needs it. just keep talking to him and get closer with him. after that, either wait to see what happens, or make something happen.

Q: i'm pretty stylish as it is. but i wanna be, really stylish, and im sick of wearing abercrombie,because im dressed just like everyone else. so whats some good stores, where i can really express how i wanna dress? but isnt like really expensive. idc how much it is, as long as its not much more then abercrombies stuff..

any ideas?!
i really like urban outfitters and rue21, which are just emerging stores. they`re kinda like charlotte rousse in a way. you can check em out.

Q: ok i realy like this other girl but this is my best freind i talk to her way more and iget along with her more so this monday is her birthday so iwas thinking of doing something nice for her or even asking her out so what should i do for her any ideas?
if you want to ask her out, bring her roses and a really big teddy bear. that`d be cute. but thats only if you really want to take that chance. if you don`t want to take that chance, bake her like a small cake or something. or you could burn her like a mix cd or something like that.

Q: i realy like this girl but theres 2 things that keep me from asking her out one is that the school year is almost over and i wont see her till school starts and second is that shes kinda rich compared to me im not poor but not that rich ive met her mom she seemed nice also shes full white and im full mexican so im darkskin compared to her but i realy like her and we have gone out twice before but does any of that matter? please tell me
none of that matters. thats all physical things and material things. if you really like her, go for it. who knows, you guys might end up being "soulmates" or whatever you want to call it.

Q: lately there's been a lot of pressure to get into drinking/getting high. im wondering if when you're high, can you control yourself in any way, like around parents? im basically asking if there's anyway to hide either of these, or if i'll just have to do it and sleepover at a friends that night.
well, it really depends on you. i can hold my own when i`m drunk/faded. i`ve gotten messed up as hell, but as soon as my parents came into the picture, i was completely fine, just a little giggley, maybe. the first time you try it, you should sleep over at a friends house. try your hardest to control yourself &see how well you do. you have to find your limit.

Q: Hello ,

Okay lets say you have it with a guy and he has a condum on will it break ? Is it more likely to get pregnanat? Is it safe if the guy wears a condum cuz if anything happens i rele dont want to get preganant.

Thanks ,
Betty.
there is a chance that the condom will break, but most likely, it won`t. if it breaks, the girl could get pregnant. the best thing to do is to just ask the guy to take it out when he thinks hes gonna cum &then just give him a handjob/blowjob so he still gets some pleasure.

Q: Okay well I do gymnastics every monday and ever since i was little i LOVEDD it i always wanted to do it.. and right now i STINK! i wanna be able to do a back walkover SOOO badly but everytime i try i cant do it!!!! and i look on websites for tips and they basically all say start with one of ur legs in the air but whenver i do that i get scared and fall!! i really need better tips on how to do those.. also backhandsprings we are learning them in gymnsatics and im like the only one who cant do them! and im so upset i have no where to practice at my house. So i need tips for that too and were to practice.. PLEASE HELP!!
you have to be confident. if you get scared, you`ll psyche yourself out and most likely fall or just hurt yourself in one way or another. be confident&keep practicing. a good place you can practice is on like, your front lawn. or on a big patch of grass. if you want to practice in your backyard but don`t have grass, you can ask your parents if they can buy some mats to put in. whatever you do, just believe in your self and practice, practice, practice !

Q: Hi my name is Lauren and I need a new screen name. My current one is woahhx0x. Im thinking about having one with 'hxc' in it or 'yeahh' but im not sure. Any suggestions would be great.
hxc lauren
yeahh its lauren
something like that ?

Q: So (sorry if this is really long), the school year is winding down and soo much is happening. There is this guy that I kind of like, and I’m pretty sure that he likes me. I’m not sure if he is going to ask me out or not, but either way I’ve never had a boyfriend before, and I’m almost 16. I’ve never even done so much as kiss a guy. Anyways, I’m really nervous that he is going to ask me out, and I guess that I would say yes- and I’m really nervous on what it would be like just because I’ve never had a boyfriend. Knowing most people in my grade, people go way to far with their boyfriend- and I guess I would feel really awkward even if I just kissed a guy (I know this sounds really stupid, but its true). I guess is there any advice you could give me on what to do. I mean I really want to go out with him, but I would just feel sooooooo awkward.
there`s a first time for everything, &everything has to start somewhere at some point. just go out with him. after a while, when you`re with him, you`ll get confortable. i know what it`s like, but you need to just try it out. you`re gonna have to have a boyfriend sooner or later if you want to get married and start a family. just try it out &see what happens from there.

Q: 15/f & boyfriend is 15/m.

been with him for 9 months, met family, we've gotten pretty serious. i don't know if i feel the same way about him like i used to though. he makes me happy when he wants to but always says the wrong things and not a day can go past that i don't have a urge to punch him and the face. he sits there and tells me not to talk to guys, which is fine and all but he goes and talks to girls. like the other day he was at this girls house (who he says he doesn't talk to.) and he was jumping on her trampoline with some other guys. it's fine and all i guess i just hate being lied too because i know he talks to her. she likes him too, and that makes me scared. he constantly critizes me and puts me down but i really do love him and want to be with him, and he tells me he loves me and looks at me with this adorable face and i know he loves me. he just sometimes gets to the point where i can't take it anymore and i don't want those moments to happen anymore. i want everything to be okay. i've told him these things a billion times and he promises things will change/get better but they never do. i don't wanna just be told things will get better i wanna see that things will. im thinking about breaking up with him but everytime i did in the past he cried to me saying he loves me so much, and can't loose me. and today im at home sick, and he's with his friends, and when he's sick or with his friends i'm home, alone. he just acts like everything is fine when it's really not. we'll get into a big fight and he'll call back and just be like "hey. whatsup." and it kills me because i know there is so much things left unsaid. what do i do to get things w/ me and him better?

i really dont wanna dump him, but things need to change. help me please.
confront him. be serious, &make sure your point gets across. tell him all of what you just told us. if it gets to it, you might just wanna take a break with him. maybe a week. if you guys get in a fight&he just casually calls back, bring up the fight. say everything that is left unsaid. i think a break would be good, it sounds like it would.

Q: whats the song that goess..ima gangsta im a straight up g..does anynoe know?
player hater by josh tobin
i think.

Q: hey :]
okay, well this guy i met at my brothers soccer was the nicest and cutest guy ever. we talked a little but on msn before and he said all these sweet thigns to me and he gave me his number :] we talked a lot at my brothers soccer, untill the last practice. he didnt talk to me :S now, hes always away on msn and busy, he never talks to me. im really cinfused b.c before i thought he liked me and now.. idk .
help .
thanks ♥
well, maybe your brother said something to him. if you see him again, just say hi. see how he reacts. if he acts all weird, ask your brother what`s going on, because there is a big chance that he`s avoiding you cuz your brother asked him to stop talking to you or something along the lines of that.

Q: Okay, umm I don't know if this is how you spell it but what is seamen?
semen is sperm. okay, if you don`t know what sperm is, please stop reading right now. you should probably talk to your mom or about it before you read it the way i describe it. haha.














it is something that comes out of a man`s penis while he`s having sex with a woman. it`s supposed to go into the woman`s ovaries, and into the womb to fertilize an egg, making the woman pregnant.

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