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if somebody twisted your wrist very hard can it break?? (link)
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`jeSsie
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okay..theres this 1 spot on my head thats hurting like really badly!! its swollen and hurts whenever i touch it just like when my hair hits it, it starts to hurt. Any 1 have any idea what it might be??And should i ask my mom to take me to the doctor? thanx
--Alexa-- (link)
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Okay..like you said, it could be the getting hit in the head thing with the volleyball. Also, do you wear your hair in a ponytail a lot, or wear it tightly back at all? If so that could be the cause believe it or not. You may have also bumped it in your sleep or done something that you weren't aware of at the time.. That happens to me. If the pain doesn't stop in a few days, you should definitely tell your mom.
GL~
`jeSsie
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HELP!im 14/f..here it goes..in like october i started kinda fooling around with an eating disorder but didnt really realize i was. since then ive collapsed twice..im really getting scard somethings really wrong with me bc of this! my sister knows & she thinks i told my mom and that im all good now. i feel guilty that im basicly lying to my sister when she asks me how its going and im scard ive done some kinda permanent damage to my body! i really dont want to be known as that girl with an eating disorder but its hard not to be! (link)
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You have to tell somebody. I know that's your worst fear right now, but if you don't tell somebody you CAN do serious damage to your body. Do you know what eating disorders do to your body? Once you run out of the fat that your body needs to survive, it eats at your organs. Eating disorders are more gruesome then you think. It can do serious damage to your heart, which is why a lot of woman or girls die of heart attacks with an eating disorder...
I'm not saying this is going to happen to you now, but if you don't get yourself help IT WILL. This isn't a game, it's your life you're dangling. I know you didn't mean it and I know it's a confusing feeling and you don't know how you got yourself into it..but just don't feel guilty okay? And don't feel ashamed or humiliated..because you're not alone and this isn't unheard of. You just have to get help and tell your mom. Not when it's the right time, but now.. while you're still not too far deep.
Please..tell somebody. Tell your mom and sister that with their help you'll be able to stop. (before it's too late)..let them know. They're never going to stop loving you, so what's there to lose?
Good luck, and lemme know how it goes if you feel up to it.
Please though..please tell someone
`jeSsie
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im 14 years old(male) and i keep cutting myself. I've tried to stop but i keep doing it. I ve talked with my friends to see if they could help me out and one of them started to cut too! i really dont know what to do please help me out. (link)
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I'm having the same problem. You just have to be strong. Truth is, it's gonna be hard. but only if you allow it to be. That's what I do -- I allow it to be hard..and now I can't stop myself. I've also gotten my friend to start it even though shes only tried it once and it didn't even leave a mark, and ever since then I hate even talking to her about it. Ever since then I just don't speak to anybody about it except to those who already know, and except on advicenators to help people out.
What I've tried (and what my friends have also suggested me to do) is to put rubberbands on your arm and snap it as hard as you wish in order to get over the thought of cutting yourself. I mean I've tried it before but I didn't really give it the chance, but a rubberband really does work..and it doesn't scar. Then from then on you can slowly stop the rubberband thing and see how you feel without it for a few days.
Also, stock up on short-sleeve shirts. (No NOT long sleeve)..I mean wear a sweater until your scars clear up, but once they're cleared up, stock up on short-sleeved shirts so you'll be forced to wear those and so you'd have nothing to hide your scars with. That would motivate you to want to stop..because you wouldnt want people to see your scars while your wearing a T-Shirt.
You'll be fine, please try what I suggested as soon as you read this..it will help you in the long run, and if you need help or feel as if you're running out of ideas or just happiness, you can always ask me a question or i/m me once I get my screen name up on my advice column..
Good luck --
`jeSsie
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alrigty then im hearing all these stories at school {not that i belive them} about how every one is having sex i personally dont belive it. god says not to have premarital relations plus you should want to wait until u are married to have sex. anyway every one talks about how all the popular kids are doing it im almost 15 i personallyam appaled and am wonering where all the desensy went in the world some one tell me. (link)
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I think the same thing everyday. It really makes me like scared for the world. It's like sex is the bond you share when you're finally in love.. and it's all just played like a game, and I can't stand it anymore.
Most people who do it in their teen years aren't even in love. They honestly just do it to fit in, to impress their "partner", or to be more experienced or just because it feels good. Not saying that you are, because I see you have your morals you're going to stick with, but no matter what society's doing just focus on what you need to do for yourself.
It's not the right thing to rush into sex, because it's like it's not even something special anymore. Love is supposedly so rare these days..and I'm not saying teenagers can't be in love (trust me I'm not saying that at all).. and the whole premarital relations is up to them, but I mean if you're gonna do it you should really be in love. If you don't do it when you're in love, and just have like a one night stand or something...you'll regret it. Some people show that they don't regret it but deep down, if they weren't in love their first time, they've probably feel like they've missed out.
Don't let anyone pressure you. Fall in love -- and when you're ready you'll know. When you're ready you won't have to ask yourself, "Is this the right thing to do?"
`jeSsie
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Sometimes I don't know who I am anymore. For the most part ive become a really sophisticated, goody good with really STRONG morals. I always do homework and go to church. I never -- cheat, steal, drink, cuss, smoke, do drugs, ditch school, party, sneak out, have sex, listen to rap, etc. But sometimes i get sick of being like that. Sometimes i just want to bust out my old dirty, rap collection and live life a little. But then later the goody/serious side of me DESPISES rap because its so degrading and disgusting. The thing is.. it's not about rap music. (That was just an example of how im like two different people within hours or days.) I really dont think i have a split personality or anything to that extreme. I just dont know who I am anymore. One part of me wants to stay moral, and the other part of me wants to break free and live. How do I find out who i truely am when both of these WAY DIFFERENT personalities keep showing? (link)
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Finding out who you are isn't easy. I know this. I mean most people who know me can say I'm INCREDIBLY quiet..others can say I'm loud and crazy, and that's what they like about me. In school I'm the invisible girl.. and at home or with my friends I'm the one who everyone laughs with, and who cracks jokes. With some people I can tell them off to their face, while with others I'm a coward who cant stick up for what she believes.
I've done what I can to try to find myself.. I'm not saying follow this path because it's not the way to go. I've cut myself and I've stolen things before..I've bitched at my parents and thrown fits, and cheated on a math midterm and a lot of my tests lately...I've contemplated doing other things too, but I'm glad I didn't. Other then that I'm a good person. I have sides that range from being depressed, angered, outgoing, quiet, etc... I don't know how to find myself either...and most people don't know who they are until one day it just comes to them. I know it seems hard to grasp the concept of not even knowing who you are, and having to live in a world where you cant even trust yourself, but it's something that has to be analyzed before coming to the conclusion.
Although the people around you may seem fit on who they are, honestly.. the chance of them knowing at the time may be very slim too. Why do you think people do negative things.. or some peopel are just loud and outgoing but inside they're so lost and confused? It's because they don't know who they are. It's a pretty scary thought not to know who you are, but you have to do what you think is right. This is a tough situation...
Sometimes I'll be in my room all depressed blasting my music and hating the world. Other days I'll wanna just flip out in happiness and like run around in the street singing random phrases..or just stand out in the rain and have fun...and love life.
I'm sorry I'm giving you so many examples of my own life, but this is something I can really relate too. I don't know how well I can answer this question but just...stick to your morals and don't go against what you feel, because going against what you feel is just a lie that won't end up helping you in the long run.
I really hope I helped you..
Who you are will come, it's like one day you'll just feel as if you're looking in on yourself, and finally realizing all that you've become...so make what you want to see in the future something that will make you proud..
`jeSsie
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