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I have been going out with this boy on and off since january 11th 2003 and we have broken up 5 times .Each time I dumped him but we always got back together within like a week. At first he was obssessed with me but somehow it all changed and i became obssessed with him . Recently he has been changing and ignoring me and finally he dumped me for the first time and really hurt me because I felt like I was madly in love with him and would marry him. I thought he felt the same way but he said that lately it felt like I was more of a friend to him then a girlfriend. Now during our whole relationship he has also on and off liked his first girlfriend and went out with her for two days before dumping her one time when we had broken up. So after Iam starting to kinda get over him and thinking of the good things of why were over (like no more heartbreaks) he calls me up and says hes completley over his first girlfriend and hints he wants to go back out with me but im not sure i should i mean i still like him but will i just be going back to the old heartbreak ? Our relationship has been down hill ever since he realized he still liked his old girlfriend. To make matters worse my best friend said she wont be my friend anymore if we get back together because my boyfriend said he is just going to keep dumping me for his 1st girlfreind and then getting back together with me and she can't stand seeing me hurt.To get back together or not? What is your advice? (link)
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Not... This feeling of obsession you describe is commonly known as infatuation, you don't really love him, like true love, you are pretty much blindly obsessed with him which is pretty normal for everyone. His infatuation for seems to have worn off. His behavior suggests he is indecisive in what he wants, he’s not sure if he wants a girlfriend, wants you as that girlfriend, or if he really cares about you, it sounds like he not yet figured out what he wants, let alone being able to work and maintain a relationship. I can guarantee that continuing to pursue this relationship will simply lead to more heartache, and confuse you more to. You are starting to heal, why tear yourself open again. Your friend has a point, but her threat to you is pretty silly. If I were you I would look elsewhere. You can find more satisfaction, and feel better if you can get into either, a more stable relationship, or even adjust back to the single life. His wishy washy attitude is not worth your heartach, save yourself the pain.
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So, I'm a drummer, and I need some new equipment. Should I go for a new hi-hat stand, crash, ride, or double bass petal? The hi-hat stand is probably the most needed, the ride would round out the sound, the crash would make me even louder than I already am, and the double bass would just r0x0rz. So, if you were in my fuzzy blue slippers, which should I (or you I guess) get? (link)
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Get what you need the most, simple logic would be you don't want to get too loud people will complain, you can wait to round out your sound, its probably not the most necessary thing ever. Double bass would be cool, but if you’re a male or live with a male, bass kills sperm so watch out there ;) I'm not a big drummer but I would think it makes sense to go with what is most needed.
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So I have this plant. I can't identify it, trust me I've tried, but I know it's common... big green waxy leaves, one flower on a long stem that's white with one petal and this white spiny thing in the middle? But that's not my question... the problem is that this plant is just perpetually dying, it a really awful and depressing way. I water it almost every day, I repotted it, it's by a window where it gets a decent amount of light I think, but 80% of the time it's just wilted and sick looking. I don't know what to do. It could be a nice plant, I feel really bad that it's so crappy looking. (link)
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I know the type of plant you are referring to, my grandfather has a few at his house. It's best if in the summer it can stay out side, in the winter this type of plant needs more sunlight than many, also lighten up with watering, water it when you touch the soil and it's pretty dry to the touch. You may also consider a light fertilizer, to sprinkle a little in there... If it’s flowering, cut off the flower (i know its pretty but the plant is sending nutrients t save the flower rather than itself... That should help your plant out.
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How can I be a millionaire before I retire?
(Will a million bucks even be a lot of money then?)
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Invest well, set up mutual funds... the sooner you start the better... people that invest less earlier will actually make more in the future... Investing well is about the best way to get your million... and with the way inflation is going, it won't be as much but it won't exactly be pocket change either.
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my friends are telling me I shouldn't even try to be friends with my ex boyfriend because that never works, but I think it can sometimes. what do you think? (link)
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The aspect your girl friends are coming from is that as soon you break any hope of a friendship goes in the garbage… this is not true at all!! Sometimes this does happen, but that is because things probably did not end well, or neither party care to try and make it work…. If you break up with somone there is no reason why you still can’t be good friends, you can be, you just need to 1.) Give each other time and space to heal from the relationship 2.) Talk about it, let him know you REALLY want to still be buds 3.) Make an effort, talk to him after you give healing time, do all you can to put the past behind you and move on as if the relationship never was there 4.) While you want to put the relationship behind you, you also wan to make it clear that the romance is over, no friends with benefits… If you can both understand these and work… then you stand a very good chance of staying friends even after the fire has died… I know lots of people that maintain friendships, strong ones, after they end a more serious relationship… good luck!
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but what i wrote is not all. the other thing is that my parents have no idea i even like him and being the typical asian parents, if they ever found out they'd never let me go to church again. or a least not that one. (link)
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Why would they not let you got to church again if you like this one boy? That seems silly. You said typical Asian parents, I'm guessing there setting up a racial barrier for you. Welcome to the new world, were racial borders cross and it’s perfectly socially expectable, for the most part. If they wont let you go to that church for whatever reason, go to another church; find a new religion, of another church for your religion elsewhere... You have to decide if based on your values if perusing a relationship is worth the consequence, brake out the chart, write down pros and cons of each find the better alternative, or go with your gut feeling... Best to evaluate all your alternatives, and be prepared for the results
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me and this kid really like eachother. we cant go out though because this other kid likes me and we dont wanna hurt him (we are all friends) i need this kid to get over me. he has liked me for 2 years and i have tried givin him a chance but it never worked out. HELP (link)
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In the real world people get hurt... it’s something that unfortunately can't be avoided. A guy friend of mine has liked me for quite some time; he's put me on a pedestal, and views me as his perfect match, however he is not my "prefect match." I've had to turn him down several times, always as nice as I can. He's my good friend and I don't like to hurt him, but I, just like you, know it won't work out. When I started dating another guy this hurt him, he accused him for me making decisions, on my own, he did not like, and he gave him dirty looks, and avoided him if he could, but this only lasted a few weeks. I wasn't going to stop my life in order to not hurt him. That was not fair to me or to him. He now, while he still is pretty much in love with me, is better. He is thankful that I am happy and that we are friends. You need to move on with your life, your friend will be hurt, of course, and probably be jealous, but after some time he'll adjust and more than less get over himself. Just make sure you make him some time, and include him, so he knows he's still one of your good friends. You can't stop him from liking you, and he will be hurt eventually, not taking action would just end up hurting all of you in the long run. You aren’t being a bad person by going out with a friend in your circle. Wounds heal over time. He’ll feel better and probably find someone else. Nobody really likes to hurt others, but sometimes it needs to be done. Good luck ;)
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My best friend Joleen has been dating this guy Tom for a month now. Tom and my friends Allison and Grace go to the same school, but Joleen and I go to a different one.
Well, Tom, Allison, and Grace's school had a homecoming festival. Allison, Grace, and this other girl Mary were hanging around a fire pit, when Tom comes up and sits on Mary's lap. Then, he says "Oh, no. I'll crush you, you can sit on my lap." and Mary did. Apparently, that wasn't all that happend, either. They were flirting a LOT.
Should I tell Joleen what Tom did? Or should I keep it to myself? (link)
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Ok first of all you need to find out if your blowing this thing out of proportion, his girlfriend has the right to know, but I advise you to actually talk to him about it first. Be strait forward and honest, flirting with others does not always stop with the start of a relationship especially early on. I know people that can't help but flirt with everyone like that, even if they’re in a very serious relationship. He could be one of these people... It's simply there nature; they treat their friends as though there more... unless you catch him kissing her it's not something I'd get to exited about. If you want to tell your friend which is reasonable, weight the pro's and con's. You might have just have started a fight between your friend and her boyfriend over nothing, or you could have saved her from a situation of getting cheated on and hurt. If I were you I'd talk to him first, or even just his friends to find out if he has a flirtatious nature...
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I need some quick advice about a problem with some food I purchased. I came home from the local grocery store with a bag of M&Ms. Only when I opened the bag, I found, to my dissapointment, that every M&M had a "W" written on it... My mom says that I possibly picked up a womens bag instead of a mens bag. I had no idea that there were genders for bags of M&Ms. I have already opened the bag, so I can't take the bag back to the store. What should I do? (link)
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You could sue the company for confusion and mental anguish, but I think you would have more luck simply by turning them upside down and you will find that there will be an M staring back at you ;)
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I want to have a party and I want to serve cheese, but I don't think plain old cheddar is very classy or interesting. What are some other good cheeses I can serve just cut up as cubes, that people might not have tried before but will still like? (link)
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Colby & Monary Jack Cheese, It's real cool looking, yellow and white cheese all molted together, its like marble cheese, and its good too!
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I have to drink coffee every day to survive. I don't drink a ton of it, probably two cups a day in the morning. My friends and I used to have a day we'd call "detox thursday" where we wouldn't drink coffee all day, but I was starting to hate detox thursdays because I felt tired and grumpy all day so I quit doing it with them. Does this mean I'm addicted? Is coffee really that bad for me? It's way better than soda, right? (link)
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You are addicted to caffeine; your body has decided it needs it to function. Lots of people have this type of addiction, whether it is coffee or coke. Your not alone, however addictions like that are not really healthy in the long run, even an excess of caffeine is not good. It’s definitely better than drinking soda pop but its still not the best for you at least mentally and physically, should one day you not have it, expect to turn into a horribly moody wreck... Since many Americans survive with a similar if not identical addiction, I would not worry to much, just be aware that you will not function normally with out it, perhaps suffer the withdrawal to cut back a bit?
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I'm a bisexual girl, who comes from a pretty small town/highschool that doesnt have much diversity. My close friends all know im bi, but no one else does and I'm thinking of comming out. I don't realy know how to do it, however. It's not like I'd make an announcement about it or anything. "Hi, nice to meet you, I'm a bisexual." lol. Anyway I guess my question is does anyone have any advice about how to go about doing it? I mean if it comes up I'll be honest. but there are people who are friends who I'm close enough to to tell them, but would it be like overdramatic or self centered or something to just say it? any ideas on the topic? (link)
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This can be a hard thing, with lots of social hardships and baggage ahead. Coming out is brave, something many gays and bisexuals might never do. The decision to come out to the public will have consequence, most of which won’t be wonderful; because of the way this country views it. However being bi is part of who you are, and for some its better to deal with society than to hide from it. I figure the best way to leak out the news is to tell a few people, then they will leak it out like wildfire… it soon spreads and you didn’t have to make a public announcement. With this method people can twist the facts and you will probably end up making lots of corrections, it can be hard also dealing with this rumor style, but it puts it in the hands of others than you, this is the way many gay teens I know became open, I’m sure there are other ways and another open gay/bisexual might be able to help you more than I could ever. But I think that seems to be a sound way, you’d just have to be prepared for some awkward stares, and everyone to know…
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Ok, there's this guy that I really like. We are good friends and I've known him most of my life. I don't know if I should ask him out or leave our friendship how it is and maybe look for other guys...(ok, I'm not from the US so I have no idea how your grade system thing works but I'm 16...not really young...). Anyways. (link)
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The famous “should my friend and me become more”... It is a statistical fact that the most successful relationships start out as friendships… Being friends before being in a more inmate type of relationship gives both of you time to bond in a different way. It is a better way to get to know someone with all their little quirks with out the factor of infatuation; which often blinds two people in a relationship… I am a firm believer, and a follower to the ‘friends first’ idea… and I believe that there is nothing wrong or bad about dating friends. If the feeling is there, there is not much you can do about it! Why not peruse it? Weather or weather not it lasts, it could be one of your best dating experiences, having a background and friendship already you don’t really have to deal with all the relationship ice breakers that strangers do. And don't worry about losing him as a friend if you break up! Sometimes this happens, but that is because things probably did not end well or neither party care to try and make it work… If you break up a relationship with a close friend it is most likely, if you still want to be good friends, you can be. If things don’t work out then you stand a very good chance of staying friends… like I said thought, relationships have a better chance standing up to the test of time if they start out as friendships…
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so i think i have athletes foot, but its not that bad i guess... anyway, i tried tinactin for a while and it didnt work, and then i left for summer vacation and when i came back i tried it again for a while and it didnt help. should i just hope it heals in time (its been like at least 6 months) or should i see a doctor or try another kind of medication? (link)
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Ahh good ole Tinea Pedis, its an annoying thing I know. I went to my doctor and she told me to use Lotramin cream. Remember it takes about a month of treatment before it goes away. If it is very persistent after that you can get prescribed to you a pill that kills Tinea from the inside out. Usually its used for ringworm itself, but since they are the same thing... Best advice for while you have it, keep your feet clean and dry, don't use the same washcloth twice, and sleep in a cotton sock. It will take an adjustment on you typical rituals but I'm sure you will live...
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Okay, there are a couple of guys that I like, and I've never had a boyfriend before (I'm a junior in high school). I keep getting hints from other people that they like me, but I just don't have any clue whether or not they like me, and I really am getting tired of trying to listen to people who have no clue what they're talking about when they say that someone likes me. Any suggestions on how I can figure it out for myself without asking them straight out or asking their friends or mine?
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Well you'd have to talk to them, and I'm not saying ask them who they like or anything, just simply start conversation, get to know them. If they like you they'll be glad to talk to you, but don't be surprised if they seem aloof at first, they might be shy. Talk to them a few times this will build up their confidence. If you seem to click don't be afraid to ask them if they would like to go somewhere with you. Many men actually find that as a turn on. Heck he might just ask you... and if they don't, don't worry one of these days you'll meet someone bold enough to ask you out ;)
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I have a full time job, required to pay the bills, and would like to complete a meaningful degree before I die. What is the best course of action to land me a degree as a personal accomplishment? (link)
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Have you considered or tried online classes? This way you can use your free time to get things done rather than worry about making a scheduled class. I recommend starting with only one, they take lots of self motivation and are not for everyone, however for someone with a busy life they might be just what you need to achieve your goal of getting a degree in a fairly decent amount of time, with out sacrificing work.
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my favorite question of all time:
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? (link)
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A wood chuck would chuck as much wood as he could chuck if a wood chuck could chuck wood...
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How do you get blood off the walls and carpet because I spilled alot of it while killi*cough* I mean choping up meat and it was all bloody and now everything else is all bloody too. (link)
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Rent a rug doctor!
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Why aren't you married yet? (link)
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because I said so...
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my worst enemy kathryn is talking shit about me(well she always does) , what would be a nice way to tell her she is the essence of evil and i would perferably not talk to her eever again?
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Not talk to her? I have a girl i pretty much despise, I avoid her when ever I can, but if I can't I'm nice I smile and say hi how are you, it's generally hard to talk shit about someone thats really nice to you, now this won't bring her lies and crap to a screeching halt, but it will make you the better person, and make it so you won't really have to deal with her... telling her off, yelling at her, calling her bad things, talking behind her back, will only increase the amount of crap she talks about you and only make things worse...
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