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Q: During the first few weeks of summer me and my friends went out and drank for a couple of nights. I can drink alot because I have a high tolerance and I never get hangovers. But throughout the entire week that we were doing this, I had a headache. It wasn't a bad one, but no matter how much medicene I took, it just didn't go away. It never stopped untill I finally stopped drinking for the week. Could it have been an ongoing hangover since we did it every night? Or was it related to something else? thanks.

hello,
i think the problem is your body is not use to all of the alcohol you are consuming. If you want to do things like that you will have to take a little more each time you drink and mix your drinks with juices and stuff to help you from gettin sick. Alcohol can lead to other problems as well if you drink i all the time as long as you don't drink a lot for a long time you should be okay. So just ease up a bit and take things slow.
love,
Brittni

Q: This is a long one.. So i've beeng going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months, but sometimes Im not sure if i really love him or not. Like sometimes when we hang out I just get this really good feeling like im totally in love with him. But then other times I get kind of annoyed of just little things that he does. And i also sometimes feel like he doesnt really "speak my language" if that makes sense. Like I feel like there's this wall between us where i can't completely tell him whats on my mind. A couple weeks before I went out with him I had just broken up with my previous boyfriend of about 11 months. Im starting to think that I just got sucked into my current boyfriend because I had sex with him pretty soon, so I felt like I was obligated to stay with him. But now I just can't decide if that was the right choice. I'm too afraid to break up with him though because he would be SO heartbroken and I'm also afraid i would totally regret it afterward! The other thing is that I've met a few realy cool guys lately, one in particular who is going to be a freshman in college. We met at a party and were both totally drunk but he keeps texting me wanting to hang out and stuff. We havent yet hung out but i really hope to before he has to leave for college, because hes a totally cool guy and not to mention quite attractive. But I also keep holding back because I still totally love my boyfriend. I seriously dont know what to do right now. This whole situation has elevated into a confusing mess and I cant make a decision. Please help me figure out what the right thing to do is! Thankkk you :) -age 15

hey,
i have the same problem but it seems to happen with every guy i date, i get sick of them. I think you should tell your current boyfriend that you don't feel the same way about him as he feels about you and that you wana stay friends because you feel he is holding you back. I know this is hard but it is for the best trust me. You can't keep making yourself unhappy because you are trying to make others happy, you'll be so miserable. Remember, you're not obligated to anyone except yourself. I only wish for the best for you, good luck.
love,
Brittni

Q: My 17 year old sister is gone to bootcamp. She wont get out till January 17th 2007. I'm only allowed to see her 2 times between now and then. She is also allowed 1 phone call a week for a max of 5 minutes. Oh My God I'm so freakin' sad cuz we were so close and the day she left, when it came time to tell me bye, she went hysterical crying, that didnt make it any easier when I was trying with everything I had to suck it up and not cry. We were told to write her as much as possible but after 3 letters, I'm getting stumped, Ive already went on and on about how proud I was of her and told her things that were going on in my life, but I'm not that interesting lol so there's only so much I can say about that. I need help on topics to talk about in the letters, or what to discuss to keep her in on the latest news and stuff (She lovesssss music) I dunno... Any Ideas are much appreciated and I will certainly rate and give feedback for your time.

hello,
i use to have the same problem but now i just talk about anything. Here is some stuff you can talk about.
talk about home life, talk about your friends, ask her how she is doing and whate she is doing, tell her about the weather, tell her about the events going on in your town, talk to her about something new you experienced, how about a new song on the radio you think she would like, or talk about memories and how much you miss her, you could talk about a new outfit you bought or a new haircut you got, the skys the limit. Heck you could even write her a song about how much you love her since she loves music so much. i hope this helps out.

Love,
Brittni

Q: I hate my body so much. Im anorexic and I have been since February, but I read the effects and I want to eat healthy! Ive started eating again, but its all junk. Does anyone have a meal plan that will actually help you lose weight and is easy foods to actually get at a supermarket?

i am acually on a diet right now called the fruit diet. All you eat is fruit i mean you can't go wrong with fruit. Also you should take multi-vitamins because with this diet your not getting all the vitamins you need to live a full healthy productive life. Another thing you could do if you're still hungry on this diet you can eat a yogurt once a day.(sugar free!) So far lost two pounds and it has been a little more than a week. Make sure you excercise as well but don't over do it excercising can become addicting. Good luck.

love,
Brittni

Q: me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for the past 2 years.I recently found out he cheated on me 3 times with some girls from Johnston.Now he asked me if we were dating about 2 days ago and i stupidly said "Yea,I guesss".Today he came to my house and told me that he has a new girlfriend. I said "i thought me and you were together" and he said "O well shes hotter".5 minutes later he tried kissing me.What should I do about all of this???Now im stuck the single one!

PLEASE HELP ME FAST!:(

hello,

Well honestly i think you need to tell him how your feeling. Communication is key to a good healthy relationship. You also should make sure your next boyfriend respects you cheating on you 3 times shows he doesn't respect you, every woman should be respected by her man. You should find some new, i know it's hard when you love someone so much. It may even be healthy to take a break from a long relationship to just explore your options. You have so much more of your life ahead of you and there are so many hot and respectful guys out there. GO GET UM TIGER.

love,
brittni

Q: Hey im trying to lose like 5 or 6 pounds and i was wondering if anyone new any outside games i could play with my brother or sister or even both
PLease and thanx XOXO

hello there,
there is a varity of options. Since it's summer you can do a lot of physical activites outside such as going for walks, riding bikes, skateboarding, basketball, soccer, baseball, dance to some music. Another option is you could join the local ymca they have a ton of fun things to do with your family plus there is a gym so you can work out and get into shape. I hope this helps.
love,
Brittni

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Hello there the names Brittni, I decided to make a site on advicenators because i wanted to help others with their struggles, its a passion of mine, i hope one day to achieve my dream of opening a center for teens. Let it be known that i will never judge you based on a question you ask, i will simply give you an answer i find fitting, but dont expect me to candy coat my answer, im going to be honest. In the past i have been faced with many difficult things and looking back i am confident i made the right decisions. I've been through a lot personally, i've heard a lot, I've seen a lot, I've grown a lot. Heck, i know im not perfect but im the best version of myself i can be which is perfection in my eyes. I know sometimes speaking to someone you know about your issue is hard, trust me i've been there. Just like i have helped others i am here to help you with the best intentions. So i am here for you if you need me.

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