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My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka

I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.

I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(

Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.

MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)

Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
Member Since: November 10, 2003
Answers: 385
Last Update: February 27, 2005
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my mom has a friend and her daughter erased my game on my gameboy and I almost beat the game
how can I confront her? (link)

??
Just keep your gameboy away from people...
Haha..I'm sorry but think about it...people have to lighten up about things like this...ITS A GAME...
*smiles in disbelief*
*hands you a box to hide your gameboy in*
There you go.

From,
...*_Gessyka_*...


How many times do you need to be rated before the rating shows up? (link)

I KNOW! I want to know that too.


I just started dating this guy and he is really sweet in all but he never talks to me in school or on the phone.And I justed found out that he was just using me to get his ex-girl friend out and I just dumped him.Was that a good choice?because now all my friends have boyfriends and I dont, and all the guys are like takin'.What do I do? and did I make a good choice?

-cheated and used (link)

Yes you made a VERY GOOD choice...and A LOT of my friends are going through the whole love thing...whether they like somebody who likes them back, or if boys like them...or some even had more boyfriends then me...or they have one now. I just feel so useless and I don't haev a boyfriend. I know it's hard to see everyone around you dating...but don't go out with a guy JUST TO GO OUT WITH A GUY? Do you get what I mean? You have to really like that guy and he has to really like you for it to mean something...
IT WAS A VERY GOOD CHOICE...and don't get back together with that boy. A boy will come to you...you can't rush love/infatuation.

*sigh* Trust me...I know how hard it is...and I really like a kid but I have no clue what to do...I'm such a shy person...AHHH~! (sorry) *runs away and hides*

So yeah...if you find out somebody likes you...or if you REALLY like someone...then go for it and ask them out if you feel you want to.

~GL~
~GeSsYkA_*



There's a group of girls at my school who have been cutting themselves. I talked to my counseler and he said that it was the right thing to tell him, and he would have me remain anonomys. One of the girls and she found out from my counseler. She got mad at me, and she said that I should mind my own buisness. Was she right, or was that the right thing to do?!? Please help!!!!!!!!!

Lily (link)

IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO...
Cutting is a serious disease...
Usually it's for self-discipline, and NOT ALWAYS done for the purpose of TRYING to kill yourself..but...either way it's dangerous.
It's a disease...like, an alcoholic or something. Once you stop for good, and then you try it once again...it's hard to stop...
You know what I mean?
So...IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO...(like I said before)...don't be nervous...they will eventually realize how much you helped them in the long-run; and, if they don't, then just forget about it.

~GL~
*hug*
hope this helped.


i have a bf who is cheating on me and wat shold i do (link)

In additional info...state your age...how your relationship has always been...who he was cheating with (if you know)...how old


How is it having a boyfriend? (link)

Still chasing the guy I luv =).


i tryed to kill my self and told my bf and now he wont leave me alone wat do i do ? (link)

Let him bother you...GOD DOESN'T FORGIVE ANYBODY WHO KILLS THEMSELVES. That's the only thing he WILL NOT forgive you for. He was obviously trying to help you because he cares for you so much.
Let him help you...and DON'T TRY TO KILL YOURSELF AGAIN!...
Please don't...
Enjoy your life.


im almost 12 and i am tall 4 my age but i weigh like 115. I no thats bad! (link)

NO! It's really isn't...


My friend got fingered by a guy, and she has had her period. I was wondering can you get pregnant from being fingered. Does that also mean ur a no a vergin anymor?? PLease write back thanx (link)

WHAT? How the hell old is your friend? (excuse my french) But you can't even SPELL virgin...and OF COURSE YOUR CAN'T GET PREGNANT BY BEING FINGERED. Yes she is still a 'virgin'......if the male's private goes into the females private....THAT'S when you're not a virgin anymore....
Geeze....how old are you?...like 10 or 11 probably?
I could tell by the way you spell...
Geeze...tell you're friend to stop that...that's so gross. ESPECIALLY at that age......ERG! And how old was teh boy who fingered her???

BYe...hope your friend has a good future...she's already a slut and she's probably not even a teenager...JESUS H. CHRIST! (sorry lord).



I'm really shy at school, and I have been since the 3rd grade. I really want to be more social and outgoing!!! I've tried joining clubs and stuff, but that really didn't help.... Any suggestions?!!! I really need advice for this! (link)


OH MY GOSH! I'm Like that too! YOU HAVE TO EMAIL ME!!...or i/m me...seriously....I'll tell you some of my experiences.
PLease...email me.


hi can any1 give me some advice, my son is 10 and has no contact with his dad due to my desision as i was scared of what my parents would think of him so i didnt tell them who the father was. 10 years on i cant help wondering what would have happened if he knew he was a father, i pict ure my son and him getting along great watching footie and other sports, then again he might not even want to know his son, what do you suggest (link)

This isn't going to be a very long answer...but I suggest if the father of your son is safe...(because I don't know the whole background story)...then yes, I think your son would be so happy to meet his father; especially him being 10 years old and really needing a father in his life...or at least being able to meet his other parent.
I bet he feels he's missing something.
So yes, as long as the father is responsible, then I would arrange for you're son to meet him. Maybe the father of your son WON'T want to know his son...but you will never know if you try to reunite; and I would HATE to find out that you held back on this all this time all because you THOUGHT something negative would happen.

Go for it! ;)
~Good Luck~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
a.k.a. Here To Help


there is boy at school his name is cody i dont know if i like him cause on april fools day my friends dared me to play a joke on him it was soo mean they said to ask him out then say ya know say april fools well i couldnt it was too hard for me i know he likes me but do i like him?plzz help i dont want to make the wrong desion~thanx~ (link)

No...don't play that cruel joke on him if you don't really like him back...that's just low...and and really mean.
Don't do it.


But the people they don't understand

No, girlfriends, they can't understand

Your grandsons, they won't understand

On top of this I ain't ever gonna understand
(link)


Hey....wait a second...I DON'T UNDERSTAND!
*runs away and cries*


Therse this guy from a different School from me and hes my BFF and I tell him everything and he gets involeved w/ me N my friends fight over the internet and my friend im upset with thinks its me WHAT DO I DO?! (link)

..huh? Thinks WHAT is you...?
I'm confused...


My heart once was broken Untill I found you...
You took my heart,
You took some glue,
You put it back together,
And I thank you.


If I had a choice to live or die by your side,
I would die in an instant.

"Just Die"

I sit here cold and lonely,
I hear you whisper,
I hear you cry,
Why cant you just die?
You're my fears,
You're my tears,
I can see you here,
You're everywhere,
I can't stop what I have begun,
My Love is endless,
It's driving me insane!
Please turn out the lights,
Fade away into the dark,
I can't stop,
I love you,
I hate you,
I need you,
I Breathe you
GO AWAY.

"Disapear"

I've fallen down below,
I know you wish I wasnt here,
It's too late,
I made the mistake,
I gave in, Death is not my fear?!
Dont cry, I was sapposed to die,
Close your eyes and it will all disapear.

"You left me here"

Im crying,
Im laying here dying,
You let go, you left me behind,
I've cried long enough,
I tried to get you,
I tried to show you,
I was ignored,
and this night you'd wish u didnt leave me here,
Don't let me cry alone, dont let me die alone.

"Lost voice"

I tried to speak the words wouldnt come out.
I tried to tell you how much I love you and that I care.
I wnated you to know I wanted to say the words but my mouth forced them back in.
Losing the words to say, my mind is caving in.
I need to tell you these things if only I could, I would.

"You Let Go"

I felt your grip,
You held me tight,
Untill tonight,
I feel myself slipping away,
Dont try to save me,
Why would u want to?
You were the one who let go.


I have more... I'll add em later!!



By- MyNightmarex666
(link)

You're poems are very well written...and when I read them I was able to read them fluently -- which is good.

Some things I would change though.

- In "Just Die" you use fairly common words. For instance, the word "conceal" (just a suggestion) if you maybe "you conceal yourself into the darkness" instead of "fade away into the dark"...do you get what I mean? A little variety in your words...that's all.

-And in "You Left Me Here" you said "I'm laying here dying"...maybe if instead you used "I'm LYING here dying".

But overall, these are great poems...people have their own styles...and I think you found your style of poetry.
But...one more thing. I realized you like to rhyme in your poems...that's okay and there's NOTHING wrong with that...but A LOT of times poetry comes out more.....full I guess...and it expresses you a lot more when you do free-verse...because it's not like you have any limitations or boundaries on trying to find out which words rhyme with which...
Do you get what I mean??

~GL~
I LOVE WRITING POETRY! ;)
Keep it up...
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~


I am in love with this guy and I think he is in love with me too.We are both 13. When we are by ourselfs he is all over me but when we are around other people he acts like he is just my friend. What do I do? I am a girl. (link)

You mean YOU THINK you're in love with somebody? Look at you...you're 13...
It's okay to be in love (if that's how you feel), but DON'T BE SURE THAT HE LOVES YOU BACK. If he really loved you he wouldn't go hiding it in front of other people (if that's what it seems like he is doing). If I were you, I'd try to strike a conversation up with him in front of people and in front of his friends or something...that way you can see if he acts like he would normally act when it's only the both of you together.
If for some reason he blows you off, talk to him about it...and...that shows he really doesn't like you. Maybe it's just infatuation.

~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~


I am 35. I have three children? I am still with the last two children father? Will i be happy with him? Will we get married?
(link)

...um...I don't know...???
Why are you saying everything in the form of a question??

~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~

P.S. MORE DETAILS PLEASE!!


yah ummm i dunno if u sent a mail to me...but ive been waiting for a long time....cuz im really excited about telekinetic people cuz i think i might be one even though i might have lost my "powers" over my growth but can you please take your time and write me a letter if not again....please make sure you put the subject as TELEKINETIC in capitals soo i know it is you.....

i apreciate your help thnx a bunch =) (link)

Kay I emailed you.


wat would u say if a guy say's u are damnnnnnnnnnn clever, and say's u jst naggggggggg like my wife, even though his not married as i hav know him for nearly a yr!
but we r gd frendz! (link)

*chokes on drink*...WHAT...are you saying exactly??


yes or no? (link)


...Maybe...




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