I am on here to help people because that is what I want to do with the rest of my life and I feel like I give good advice. I hope I help everyone I write to.
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I've got problems with anxiety and depression and I am currently medicated for both. I've done well for quite a long time now. My husband and I would dearly love to have children together. I have recently seen a psychiatrist that pretty much scolded me for even considering to have children... I was hurt and shocked because I had never been treated like a handicapped person that shouldn't breed before. Are other people aware of this issue? If you are... what are your thoughts? Am I nuts for wanting children? Should I completely forget about it because of my problems? Any input of any opinion is welcome. (link)
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No psychiatrist should ever make you feel that way! I think you should find a psychiatrist who will treat you like a person and not a disorder. You are not crazy for wanting kids. If your meds are working and you don't go off of them then have kids but if you think it is becoming to much make sure to take action right away because you don't want your kids to not have you in your life.
Also if you have kids make sure to keep a close eye on how they act. If you see signs in them get them to a doctor right away. I think you are a smart and responsible adult and you can handle it.
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If a guy is overly complimenting you, more so than with other people (girls in peticular) and kind of nervous about it, does that generally mean that the dude likes you? (link)
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how old are you? if you are over the age of guys picking on girls they like then yes he likes you. He cares what you think especially what you think of him.
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I have this friend A and we have been friends for 2 years and it was her birthday and i asked her if she was having a birthday party and she said no soi said ok. Then the next day i see her handing out invatations to all my friends except for me. Then when I asked ehr about it she said she was handing them out for her friend. Everyday in science she was talking about her "friends" party party and how it was a mall party. And before her birthday she was talking about having a mall party. I never bought it. Turns out she did have a birthday party at the malland didn't invitebut invited our other friend who was only friends with us for 1 month. SHe knows that I know about her party and is treating me different tring to get me to forgive her. What should I do? Is she still my friend? Why didn't she invit me to her party? I'm really lost. (link)
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Why did she lie? Has she told you. There might have been a reason. I don't see one but you never know. Ask her and if you still don't feel good about your relationship with her then she isn't a friend and only wants you when it is convenient and helps her. It is extremely immature and I know you see that. Don't associate yourself with that crap.
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okay, as of monday february 18th i started spotting, assuming it was just the beggining of my period. then the next morning on the 19th i had my regular period. the next morning it went away and you could only see blood when i wiped, not enough to fill a pad though. and it is now feb.22nd and it has stopped. maybe just a weird period?? but i have never had anything like that happen to me. i'm 17 years old and i have never spotted before or after a period. and my periods come and go like normal!
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have you had more stress than normal, or a change in exercise routine? That can sometimes cause that. If you have more worries go to the doctor. If you are pretty healthy in general you should be ok.
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sometimes i play with myself too much and my clitoris hurts and is raw sometimes, is that normal? (link)
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you just need to be more wet.
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15/Female.
My mom was telling me that I was fat and I should seriously exercise but I don't understand why she keeps on saying that since she ain't so skinny herself. I weigh 109 and I am just about 5"6.
Yesterday, I thought about what my mom said and decided I needed to exercise [On My Treadmill]. After about 2 hours, I stopped and I looked at myself in the mirror and realized how fat I was and started to make myself vomit. I can't stop now. How can I loose weight without throwing up? And how do I stop? (link)
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Stop now! You do not need to loose weight. You are perfectly fine for your height. Your mom should not being saying that to you. No one should. You are having signs of eating disorder and should seek help before it gets worse!
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do guys need sex? or to at least masturbate? cause i read that it hurts guys not to have sex it was about some guy who used to do it a lot now he never does and it said that it hurt him literally not to?
soo do guys need to either have sex or masturbate?
and are guys almost always horny?
and why do guys get turned on if a girl tells them shes masturbating? Thanks so much! :] (link)
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Ok guys don't exactly need it to live but it does hurt them. I didn't think it did until I started having sex with my bf. When they talk about blue balls, they are saying that their balls literally hurt. That is why they masturbate so much. They are not always horny but they can turn it on in a split second so that it seems like they are. I have no idea why guys get turned on by girls masturbating pretty sure it is just the idea of having sex.
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Can your cherry be popped if you are fingered, or do you have to have sex in order for that to happen? (link)
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I think it can be if the guys fingers are really long. I think mine was popped before I had sex because I didn't bleed the first time. Either way you should be ok!
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Me and this guy Tim have been hooking up basically every weekend for about a month. I was really starting to fall for him when I made a huge mistake - I hooked up with another guy while I was drunk. Me and Tim were hookup buddies and contrary to what I thought, he wasn't getting with anyone else. My friend told Tim and now he won't talk to me and he wants nothing to do with me. I wasn't sure or not if he liked me before this happened, but now I'm sure. I feel so bad about it. I was going to tell him too but my friend didn't give me the chance. I really liked this guy and what I did was completly stupid. I had sex with Tim about 3 days before this happened and I was his first (he wasn't mine though) and that makes me feel that much worse. I know he feels really played right now and wants nothing to do with me. I told him I was sorry many times and that hanging out with him is the most amazing thing ever. I told his friend I would even stop drinking if he just forgave me. I know he needs space and everything but I'm just not sure what I should do. I really want to wait and see if he will accept my apology but I don't know when that will be. He could never forgive me. So do I a) wait for him, dont hookup with anyone or b)give up because I screwed up too bad? I'm 16/f and so is he btw. (link)
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you two did not have a relationship. You didn't cheat on him but I understand why he would be upset. He does need to realize that you two did not have a title and that you weren't thinking. you didn't think he cared that much because it felt like just a hook up thing. tell him if you like him and say if he forgives you maybe you two can have a relationship and you will never do it again. you can't just give up who you are for someone who might like you. that is usually why friends with benefits does not work because one usually falls for the other.
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I'm a perfectionist I guess you could say. But I don't have like OCD and things don't have to be in the right spot..etc. However, on like tests and stuff, I study so hard and when I get the test back to find I got a 93%, I freak, beating myself up and things. The biggest problem is in school. If I don't get a 98-100% I tend to give myself a HARD time. How do I get over this? This happens in sports too. If I do one thing wrong (bad pass, miss a layup, etc.) that's all I think about the whole game, which causes me to mess up more.
Pleeeaassse... any help is welcome! Thanks! (link)
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It's not just because you are perfectionist. It is probably also because you have a lower self esteem. The thing to do is calm down. You have to tell your self that you will do better next time or just lower your expectations a little more just so that when you get higher than that you will be happy. it is a very difficult thing to get over, I have the same issues but not with school. you just need to try and change the way you think but in a good way.
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so let me do a little catch up for you guys so your not completely confused. i started dating my boyfriend in september, i love the kid to death. but he has messed up in our relationship a couple times i the begining he cheated on me with another girl i forgave him gave him another shot then in decemeber he did it again with another girl , that time i wasn't so nice about it i gave him one more shot and was a bitch for months. so ive finally been acting normal and he hasnt. he barely shows his attention to me anymore, he doesnt show that he likes me at all he does it randomly. i just found a message to some girl who he said he missed and then she said they should hang out . should i be sketched out ? cause .. i am and the girl is a complete slamm pigg idk if he is dumb enough to do anything, i told him it'd be the end for sure if he did everrr again but i dont know.. i dont know what the hell im even supposed to do in general i dont know if im supposed to be with him right now even or if im putting myself threw alot of shit. and people tell him when we fight "i dont know how you deal with that? " when he doesnt need to deal with shit, he pays for nothing, cleans up nothing, does nothing! i do everything for him and people say and he says " i dunno, me either" makes it even better. im sorry its so long someone please just give me something to help me fix things :(
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He is not ready for a serious relationship. He is probably being distant so maybe you would realize it. I am sorry if that is something you didn't want to hear but if he is fooling around like that and not doing anything for you all I see is that he is not ready at all.
Also some guys don't see doing stuff with other girls is bad (I don't know why they think that but they do) they see sex as nothing more than sex.
i am sorry but I think you need to move on to someone who is ready and will help you grow not hold you behind.
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When me and my boyfriend get ready to have sex it takes him along time to get his private part into mine. Me and him both get each other in the mood before we even try to have sex, but it still takes a while for him to actually get in there. I've been with him for 2 years and he's the only one i've did "it" with. Is this normal?
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I don't think there is anything wrong unless he is just big and pushing it in is hard, which I still don't see as a problem. maybe you guys just need to get used to it. As long as you have good sex it should be fine you just have to wait for a little longer. lol
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my dick stinks really bad..i dont know what this means but everytime i go to the bathroom i am overwhelmed by the stinkiest smell i have ever smelled it smells like rotten bologna..sometimes i lay on top of my friends and they pass out. WHATS WRONG!?!? (link)
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If you have ruled out the hygeine factor I would go to the doctor. Do you have sex? because it might be from the girls wetness. Also maybe your pubes are holding the odor so make sure to rule those things out or maybe even check webmd.com they are pretty good at telling you the potential problems.
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so like when i make out with my boyfriend i really want to get in his pants. do i just shove my hand down there and start pulling?! i need advice on what to do. i love him. (link)
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ok here is what I would do. You start making out for awhile and you know he is probably getting hard. Start slowly inching your way down to his waist. Put your hand down there and just lightly rub. Do this for a little bit. put a cute smile on your face and go down to his pant waist and unbutton it. pull his penis out and either use lube or spit (it hurts without it) and start massageing. I am going to try and explain what I do but it is hard to explain while writing.
you are down there pulling and every once in awhile you should move your hand around twisting your wrist back and forth. The best thing to do to get them really excited it to use the whole penis including head. Make sure not to go fast all the time. alternate between fast and slow.
My boyfriend loves the way I do it and if you do that he should like it to. Just make sure to keep it lubricated.
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So this is weird but like i give my boyfriend head.. and he says i'm really good at it. but last time when i tried its like i was soo bad and he didn't like it at all. i tried like so many times but it just didn'er work. Its never happened before. Its like i forget what to do in a way.. has this ever happened to anyone?
What do i do lol
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It may not be you. It might have been that he was just overly sensitive that day and you doing that could have irritated it or he might have not been in the mood that day. I don't think that you could lose your touch on that but maybe you can. Maybe just cool it for awhile. Do something else.
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so me and my bf had sex for the first time a week ago. a day after, it hurt to pee. really really bad...and i kinda ignored it. so then a couple days later, we had sex again. its been a few days since then, it it still kills to pee.
i looked up this problem and it just says i probably have an infection.
but i cant go to the doctor and have my mom and dad find out i've been having sex.
so anything i can do for myself to make it better?
or a way to get help without my mom or dad finding out???
please
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It depends on how it hurts. I had the same problem. After sex I had really bad pain in one area. It seemed like it was an open sore or something. I went to a gyno and she said that it was caused by a yeast infection and a bacteria infection. It could be either of those or a bladder infection.
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So I'm a smart, all honors, straight A, talks intelligently kind of girl, but not at all in a way that turns people off. So basically I'm friends with SO many different kinds of people because i get along with everyone.
My boyfriend...hes a little anti social, a teeny bit socially awkward, and not as mature and smart as me.
But I really like him because even if he's not like me...we can relate on lots of levels and I love being with him and hanging around with him. Its just...at school...he doesnt fit in with my friends and its STRANGE. Plus...i HATE his friends. Even if theyre older than me, theyre so immature! What should i do about this situation? If it helps im 15 and hes 16. (link)
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Try to find a balance of friends. Not saying give up your other friends, but neither of you feel comfortable around each others friends so maybe you can create a new group of friends that you both enjoy to be around. Or just enjoy being with him and make a compromise of hanging out with both groups evenly. Just because guys seem to be immature doesn't mean you can't be friends. Those guys are probably the most fun to hang around. Sometimes you need to lighten up and just laugh at how stupid they are, that does not mean you have to dumb yourself down or anything but sometime it is fun just to relax and not always be mature.
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15F
All of my friends have either thought about or had sex...and i don't know what choice to make.....cause most of my friends are having sex and i don't wanna b one out of the bunch that doesnt have sex....so please help me before i make a wrong descision.. (link)
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Do not jump into it. It you are questioning it you are more than likely not ready. Don't give it up just because everyone else is. If I were you I would wait until you know. I waited until I was in love with my boyfriend and that I was going to be with him for the rest of my life. Not everyone is the same but that is what I think is the best choice.
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Yes I know he loves me he stares at me, was the frist person 2 say hi 2 me at church, can't talk straight when he's around me. He's just so different. I love him with all my heart and we kissed but he wasn't all over me I felt confort in his arms. He told me he will love me 4 all eternity just like vampires do......I've fallen hard (link)
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I think it will work out. If you have that feeling you see it in his eyes you are usually right. He may not be able to commit right now but he will sooner or later. My ex boyfriend loves me too and I know we will be together again very soon but it is the time in between that sux. Actually the reason I am on this website now is because giving others advice makes me feel better about my situation.
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15.f
me and my boyfriend have been dating like 4, 5 months and i want to make out with him but i'm kinda like afraid i'll mess up or something hah. i've only made out with one guy once before. any advice? how not to be nervous and such, thanks! (link)
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talk it over with him tell him your concerns. I was terrible and my bf made fun of me...but that is cuz I was not at all experianced. You will learn with practice but I think learning with him would be the best idea.
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