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♥ My name is Kelly. I`m 17 years old. I live in a small town in Arizona. I`m a born and raised Christian. I love God, my family, and my friends. I have been through alot throughout my teenage years like from boyfriends, girl drama, loosing mediate family members, moving all the way across the country, starting new schools - making new friends! You can ask me ANYTHING and I will try my hardest to answer your questions. Please, don`t ask stupid questions because i will give you a stupid answer back. You can also email me at xstarbrightbabix@yahoo.com, IM me at xostarbrightbaby, Or my quote site. link is on the right module. =]

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me and my boyfriend have been together a year the 15th of this month and i have no idea what to get him. i wanna get him something cute or do something cute for him without spending over $100. do you have any cute ideas for me? itd be greatly appreciated.

I can`t think of any ideas. I think you should just make him an expensive home made dinner, make the room very romantic. Exchange gifts and decide from there what to do. You could always watch a movie, go to the mall, or something you both enjoy doing. I also don`t know how old you are so not really sure. If you still need help, I`ll try to help again. Just send another message in my inbox.♥

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well me and my friend have been having alot of fights lately. and she keeps saying how i have mood swings and how she hate it and stuff like that and i dont understand why she would say those things about me because seriously, im not having any and its just her because after she got a boyfriend, she never talked to me or spent time with me anymore because she was too busy with him and like, she keeps blaming everything on me. like for months now, ive just been taking the blame and saying sorry for everything to keep the 'friendship'. i dont know whether i should keep the friendship or not anymore becuase shes just being really edgy and i dont know how to please her. and you probably would tell me to just not take the blame and not be friends with her but shes actually the best friend ive ever had [excluding the times where we fight..] but yeah. so what shold i do.

I think that you should tell her how you feel. Friends do that when they get boyfriends, and you have to learn to deal with it. You`ll get a boyfriend soon and now how it feels. I used to be like that if my friend would blow me off for a boyfriend but then once I got a boyfriend I realized how she felt and did the same thing. Try seeing if you can see if she will maybe hang out with you one night so you can hang out and really talk about things. She`s your best friend and sounds like you truly don`t want to lose her so be patient and try to talk to her. Hope things work out. If you need anymore help just leave me another message in my inbox. ♥

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Hey!

Ok well I'm a 15 year old female to start with.
I have been in love with this boy I know for over like two years. We went out a couple years ago for about 8 months or so and he broke up with me and we just became really good friends. Well I hang out with him quit a bit but he's kind of mean to me sometimes but like other times we'll cuddle and he'll hold my hand and put his arms around me and kiss me and when he has his arms around me he like touches my chest and stuff which is kinda strange but I don't care because I like him so much! Well not to long ago I found out that he also flirts with a ton of other girls and he tells pratically everyone the stuff we do and he'll like "demonstrate" and my friend told me that he thinks that he's using me and he doesn't really like me which hurt so I had my friend ask him if he was using me or if he likes me and he said that he kind of likes me and if I continue to let him do the stuff he does with me now he said he'll definatley like me..but lately he hasn't talked to me eiether and my friend told him I was sad about that and he was just like oh well.

So do you think I should continue to be in love with him and cuddle with him or should I try and get over him and if so how do I? Because I've tried! And what are some things I could do to make him really like me?

Sorry this is so long! THANK YOU SO MUCH!
♥

I think he`s looking for a friends-with-benifits relationship. Which is like being friends but doing what boyfriend and girlfriends do. You also don`t always have to be emotionaly attached in one of those relationships. For example: how he doesn`t really have feelings for you. In my opinion I think you should tell him you don`t want to do those things because you feel as if he is trying to use you and you like him too much to let him do things to you that you don`t want to be doing unless your in a relationship. Be careful because then he might try to be in a relationship with you and just get what he wants and then dump you off. Tell him you want to be only friends for now and not do anything that bad, like still kiss and make out or w/e you want. Then when you think he actually and truthfully has feelings for you then see if you guys are ready for the next step "b/f and g/f". Just be careful and if you need anymore help just leave another message in my inbox. Good luck. ♥

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me and my bf just broke up...he says that he still loves me but he just didnt want to hurt us both when it got more serious...i cant stand this...i miss him so much and want him back sooo badly. is there anything i can do? i dont know how to say any of this stuff to him

I know how you feel. My ex-boyfriend broke up with a couple weeks ago because he wasn`t ready for a relationship and didn`t want it to get too serious and hurt me more. I was completely heartbroken and confused. At first, I told him how I felt and decided to be friends. So what I suggest is, either decide if you want to be friends right now or not. And see if he will talk to you about things. Tell him how you feel,and he should understand. Maybe there will be a future with him again? Just do what you need to do to make you feel better. Hope things go well. If you need any more advice, just leave a message in my inbox. ♥

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Ok, Well I have been dating this guy for almost 2 months now and I really, really like him and we always have a great time together and we hang out alot and i just feel so relaxed and feel like I can be myself around him...but lately he wont talk to me that much anymore, like at school he just passes me by in the hallways and wont say anything, its like hes having mixed emotions or something because one minute he wont even talk to me and the next hes hugging me and making me laugh and i just dont know what to do HELP all my girls say dump him..but they just dont understand that i just cant..he means alot to me and i really like him.......what do i do??
13/f
usa

First talk him about it, tell him it bothers you when he acts like that. Sometimes it`s better if you don`t listen to your friends. Learn from mistakes and stuff on your own. I`m sure once you talk to him about it things will work. Good luck. ♥

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okay so theres this boy and ive had a bit of a sexual past with him and im like in love with him ,, however he has a girlfriend.
He lives in my neighborhood,but im moving like in a few days.
He's SO MEAN TO ME!
for example, he sat behind me on the bus
and i said something to another person and the boy i like buts in and said " shut up , he doenst like you"
and then SOMETIMES online hes nice,
i cant get over him and ive tried and tried.
What do i do?!?

im 13/f
btw.

Tell him to stop being mean and give him the silent treatment. He is obviously doing it because he knows it bothers you. If he doesn`t stop being mean, tell him to screw off and find someone else. ♥

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Well Me *&* My Boyfriend Have Been Together 4 Months and I Love Him More Than Anything But Like A Month After We Started Daten He Cheated On Me He Said He Was High. But I Stayed With Him Because He Told Me The Next Day And Was Crien...The Thing That Killed Me The Most Bout IT Was that IT Was One OF His Ex Girlfriends And He Had Just Come From My House About 2 Hours Earlier.

Its Been About Two Months Since This Happend But It Kills Me Now Worse Than Ever Its Like I Cant Trust Him Since He Did It He Gives Me No Reason Not To Trust Him Besides That But Like Im Afraid
He'll Do It Agian. Every1 Says Im Crazy For Stayin Wit Him After That But I Love Him! But Its Gettin To Me More And More Day By Day! What Do It Do? ;_;

First try talking to him about it. Sometimes people deserve second chances and he should prove it if he wants it. Tell him to shape up too, tell him to not do drugs because it bothers you and any other things. Hope things work out. ♥

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Ok there is this guy named Tom in my Social Studies class and I sit right behind and he is like always talking to me and stuff. Well i really like Tom but i dont really know if he likes me? What should I do? I mean like how do I know if he likes me or not??

He likes you as a friend if he talks to you & flirts with you? Try flirting with him more and then randomly ask him little questions like if he has a myspace or screename so you can talk to him outside of school. Once you start talking more you should get some signs he likes you, like flirting with you alot. Hope things work out. :] ♥

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Me *&* My Boyfriend Have Been Together A Lil Over 4 Months I Love Him More Than Anything But Sometimes He Just Gets On My Nerves He Dont Even Have To Do Anything I Just Get Aggravated For No Reason...I Know I Dont Wanna Break Up Wit Him I Cant Imagine Life Without Him He Means Everything To Me...The Only Times I Get Aggravated @ Him Always Seem To Be When Im Not With Him!...Whats Goin On?

It`s probally because you`re hanging out with him too much. Just don`t hang out as much for a bit till you feel you can start hanging around him and won`t get annoyed. ♥

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For my 16th birthday i wanted to have my party on a boat--maybe in the city. I would have about 40 guests, and i would want to have dinner and dancing. Can anyone tell me of a website where i can find boats that would accomadate this. I am also looking for a party bus, or a stretch hummer to take us all to the boat. Can anyone tell me where i could find a good, hummer place, that isnt too expensive.

Thanks so much!!

I suggest looking around in the telephone book, asking around from other people, and have your parents help look for places that have strench hummers and boats for a party. Good Luck! ♥

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crazy in love with this boy.
He lives down the street from me, like in my neigborhood.
I've liked him on and off for 3 years when he moved here, but now im moving.
Im not moving far,but im still going out of THIS neighborhood where HE lives.
I know we arent going to get to hangout like we used to , because the only reason we hung out is because we live so close.
Im really really sad,,, how can i overcome this?

Since it`s not that far you can probally still see him. Call him more, meet up with him halfway some where to hang out, walk or ride bikes to eachothers houses and i`m sure it won`t change that much. ♥

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I'm 16 years old and female. I had a boyfriend for over 2 years and we broke up at the beginning of the summer. I broke up with him, because I didn't really have feelings for him anymore, and he didn't treat me very well. Anyway, I've had a few boyfriends since him, and it was awful for him because he desperately wanted me back. Well now, I'm single, and he just told me that he has a new girlfriend. I'm extreemly jealous, and I can't think about anything else. Why are my feelings suddenly coming back, and why can't I get him off my mind?

When you have strong feelings for someone and even love them, it`s hard to just let them go. Being friends with him might be too hard or help you. Try talking to him and give him hints about how you feel. Maybe he`s purposely trying to make you jealous because you still loves and misses you? Hope things work out. ♥

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I got braces last Thursday, and on Friday I went to the doctors for painkillers for my mouth because I was getting severe migraines, and I found out that I had MONO. I'm not sure exactly who I got it from because my boyfriend has never had mono before, so I'm guessing I got it from one of my friends from school, since I share drinks with a lot of people, (which I know is really bad!)

But, I've been really sick, and my boyfriend has too, he has like constant diaherra, and I went over to his house on Saturday and I cleaned his apartment a little bit to make him feel better, and he did. Everyone was saying what a wonderful girlfriend I was taking care of him, and we must "really be in love if she's taking care of you with a problem like THAT!"

Although I was sick, I felt good doing something for him. [: When we first started dating I said one of my biggest fantasies would be my boyfriend coming over with a movie, soup, & flowers when I'm sick. He told me on Saturday that he would bring me flowers, and he never did because he "ran out of money." Although he's been going out with his friend for dinners and stuff like that.

I've talked to him about this, and he said, "I'm a failure as a boyfriend, I'm the worst person alive." And, yeah, I feel he is. Because we're too completely different people and I feel that I care way too much about him, a lot more then what he cares about me, and I just want him to be at my doorstep, not even with flowers, I just want him to surprise me, and make me feel good. :[

What should I do!?! I'm so confused.. :[

Hint to him you want him to surprise you. Try to make it sound like your dissapointed in him and tell him you wish he could show you alittle more affection & appreciation. Try seriously talking to him. If he doesn`t shape up, tell him you want to take a break so you guys can figure things out. He should realize how much he misses you and cares about you. Hope things work out. ♥

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ok, so theres this boy at school, we're only in 2 of each others classes but he's really nice to me. the thing is, we're not really proper mates, and barely talk, but the other day in D.T, he was being real flirty and that like putting his arm round me and that.
what does this mean????

Sounds like he`s interested in you. Flirt with him more. :] ♥

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ok im so lost i have a boy friend and i like to other guys they are both my friends and they only like me as a frined but i wont to go out with thim what do i do i dont wont to hurt my boy friend

Don`t lie to your boyfriend, be honest with him. Tell him you`re confused right now and want to take a break. Figure out if you have feelings for your boyfriend and if you do, stay with him. ♥

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One of my best friend's came to me and another friend (also both bi) and told us he was bi and he was serosuis. Now fast forward a couple weeks, he says to me he's complety straight and would never do another guy, now i think he's lying whatta do ya think?

btw were all 14

Maybe he was bi-curious? He could have been lying tho ♥

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I was wondering what peoples opinions are on telling a guy you like him. If you like a guy that you're fairly close to, do you tell him or not?

Tell him. ♥

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okay im usually not shy when it comes to guys...whether im around them or anything BUT theres this one kid that i REALLY like and from what i hear he likes me too but i get soo shy when im around him & i dont know why. I'm even too shy to add him to my myspace page. What does this mean and how do i not be so shy around him? thanks!

Wait till he approaches you, and if he doesn`t right away just say hi or something short. Or have a friend introduce you guys. Once you get talk to him you won`t be as nervous anymore lol. ♥

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I'm 15/f. I've never really had any health problems, I have never even been in an emergency room, but for some reason my heart beats real fast and strong about right before I go to bed. I breathe normally, but my heart pumps really fast and feels like its going to burst. I can feel it in my chest, but it doesnt really hurt. Is this normal or should I go to the doctors or something?

Not quite sure what it is, but if you ever feel like something isn`t feeling right in your body, ask your parents then go to the doctors just in case. Hope things go well. ♥

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Okay, well me and my boyfriend broke up we both still liked each other but it happend. and well one of my best friends stared talking to him, and she ended hooking up with him.. i shouldnt be suprised, its not the first time she did this to me. but im not blaming it all on her, its his fault also. and i decided i wasnt going to be friends with ether one of them, and its starting all this drama-rama crap... like they compleately ruined my HC being all over each other, they think im out of line choosing not to be friends with ether one.
and first of all she told him, she only wanted him to hook up with, bc she is ''inlove'' with her BF but they are on a break bc he is in the army.., but she has been hooking up with a new guy every week...
am i right or am i wrong to choose to not be friends?
and any idea on how to make myself feel better?
any songs you know that would put me in a better mood?
thxxxx
16-f

I think you`re doing the right thing by not being friends with either of them. They`re not worth it seriously, forget about them if they were your real friends and cared about you they wouldn`t have done that. Hang out with your REAL friends and find yourself a new guy. The song that I really like is "How to Save a Life" By: The Fray. Not sure what other good songs there are, but I hope things work out for you. ♥

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