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Q: 15 f (sorry if its wrong category)
i cant download aim on my computer because last time it brought a virus and my dad said not to download it again. so i heard about aim express and i want to try it but i cant this is what it says.
"You have successfully logged into Aim Express. However, we are unable to launch your Buddy List because you have Popup blocking enabled. Please disable the Popup blocker or add the *.aimexpress.aol.com and aimexpress.aol.com domain to the allowed white list.

Please refer to your Popup blocker software for more information."
how can i fix this? can i get step by step help? please thanks! if it helps i rate!

try meebo.com. i personally like it much better than AIM express, anyway. (:

Q: i dont have a picture or anything but i really want a long silver necklace with a solid BIG heart. I looked at wetseal and express lola charolette russe etc where can i find one?

last time i looked, wet seal and charlotte russe both had them. i bought a hot pink one from C.R.

Q: how do u have sex like im dating someone and they r getting serious and im getting scared and i dont want him to think im a freak so how do u have sex? and i really dont no how to makeout i guess im doing it wrong cause we made out once and hasnt sense like 2 years ago!
15/f

if you don't know how to even make out, let alone have sex, you're not ready. plus you're FIFTEEN- you don't need to be having sexx in the first place. if it scares you, then just break up with him, it's not worth it.

Q: My boyfriend just came back from a month long trip to Europe. During his trip, I know he was with a girl named Kate almost every waking minute.(It was a group trip with kids from around the state) He knows I don't like her much, but I try not to think about it. Well now that he's back, they have pictures together, her on his back, him hugging her and things like this. It makes me nervous, I can tell he loves me. But part of me is terrified of what he might have left in Europe. What should I do? Is this wrong of me?

I don't think you're wrong to feel this way at all. I would be the same way with my boyfriend, even though I fully trust him. It's just hard, isn't it?

But anyway, I'd just confront him about it. Just casually, nothing too dramatic. When you see a picture of them when he's around, just sarcastically say "Oh, I LOVE this picture. That's really something I like seeing." Then see what he does. He SHOULD reply telling you that you have nothing to worry about or something along those lines. If you don't get a satisfactory answer, just tell him how you feel about her. I think he'll understand- most boys aren't THAT dumb. haha.

hope i helped (:

Q: is there any website that has like an picture of how to keep track of your period. thankks i just got mine so yeah

seventeen.com (as in, seventeen magazine) has a period planner as well. (:

Q: sorry if this is really long! ok so im 14 and going to be a freshman in high school. i've liked this one kid for a while, and the past week i thought i finally had a chance. we were at a party and hung out and danced together the entire night. when i had to leave he got said and told me he didnt want me to leave and hugged me. but theres this other girl that he likes, and she likes him too. they were at a different party, and hooked up. but this girl is going to sleep away camp for 6 weeks tomorrow. all my friends are saying he will get over her and start to like me, but i cant bring myself to believe them. he even sends me text messages that talk about how much fun he had at the party with me and how mad he was when i had to leave. all the signs are there, but he likes another girl. i need advice from someone that isn't my friend because sometimes they can say things to just be nice. so like- what do i do!? wait and see what happens this summer, or just get over him!?

Well, I'll try and give you the best advice possible, ha.

It seems to me like this guy really does like you. If he doesn't, then he's putting on a pretty good show. But dont' worry about that, I don't think that's the case here.

If I were you, I'd just wait it out and see what happens- just go with the flow. I have a feeling the hook up with the other girl was maybe just a spur-of-the-moment thing. And I doubt he'll keep liking her if he can't be with her for over a month.

So just go with the flow and see what happens (:

Q: which is the best way to have sex? i am only asking because me and my bf are planing on doing it and we are so confused. and i was wondering if you could give directions as well. none of the sites i checked out don't really get to the point. and most wont let a 15 year old in. or you could give me some sites. i would really appreciate it. and my bf does too.

i agree with the other responders: if you don't understand how, then you shouldn't be doing it. you're way too young anyway.

Q: okay, you're probably going to think i'm crazy. but when i was little...this was probably mid-90s...i watched this video all the time. my mom gave it away, and i'd love to buy it again. i will give you the description, and if you can tell me what the name of the video is, it will be greatly appreciated!

the video was about a family of bears. the first scene was a schoolyard during recess, where they are singing the alphabet. i believe that the little girl bear's boyfriend then walks her to class. at one point in the video, they go to work with their dad and sing "this is the house that jack built". later, they go on a picnic and sing the song "the ants came marching 1 by 1". at some point, they sing "lavender blue (dilly dilly)". and the last song i can remember is sung when mama and papa bear are putting the bears to bed. the song "sandman" is sung. i believe that is an old german nursery rhyme.

i know that i probably sound crazy right now, but that video did exist at one point. i will rate a five to anyone who can give me the correct title. if you need any more information, please let me know. thank you so much in advance!

it might be the bernstein bears? i'm not quite positive, but thats the only thing i could come up with.

try searching around the site -http://www.berenstainbears.com/

Q: I've seen pictures where it's black and white and has like a spot of color or a little bit of color.
Is it something you can make, like a code or something or photoshop. Or a setting on people's camera? Please tell me. If it is a code, can you tell me it? Thanks.

i'm a little late answering, but download picasa by google. it has an effect that can do that (:

Q: how old were you when you lost your virginity? and how far along were you into a relationship if you were into one? also when do you think is okay to lose it? thanks!

i'm sixteen, almost seventeen, and my boyfriend is seveteen. we're both virgins, and today is our two year anniversary (:

we decided that even though we're emotionally and physically ready for sex, and love each other to the extent that it wouldn't bother us, we're not ready to deal with the consequences of it (pregnancy). we're also both christains, which affects part of the decision. but we basically do everything but sex, so it works for us. i think it's only okay to lose it when you KNOW you can deal with pregnancy or any medical condition that could affect the rest of your life, and of course, i think you should love the person.

Q: I know the theory is that if you have sex without birth control and he cums in you, you're pregnant.

But does this really happen ALL the time?
Can you have sex without getting pregnant?

Even if it IS a small chance, I just wanna know.
And dont tell me "dont have sex", I dont plan on it, I'm just wondering.

I'm sick of people preaching about sex on here.

that "theory" isn't a theory-- that IS how you get pregnant. butttttt...

sometimes the sperm can't reach the ovaries, where it is needed to fertilize the egg to get the female pregnant, obviously. that is why some couples are incapable of having children- the sperm can't reach it.

Q: Hello, you asked here how to set a background color in myspace:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=497821
You do this by inserting this at the top of your "about me" section(it will not be visible):

background-color:#000000;

The #000000 is a hexadecimal color code. Here's my guide on hexadecimal color codes:
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=113&userboard_id=38985

If you don't want this to appear on your advice column, reject it(I won't be offended). Good luck!

theymos

awesome, thanks (:

Q: one day i saw this girls myspace and when you clicked on her pictures,
she had background music on them

i already know how to background color
but can someone PLEASE give me the code or tell me how to get background music on my myspace pictures.

thank you soo much
i will rate high

i don't have an answer, haha, sorry. but could you tell me how to put a color as the background, please? i've tried a few codes but they never worked.

Q: Ok well my friends are gonna get drunk after our grad.

should i go or not?

it's no pressure, they really are my friends. they do drugs sometimes but i'm the baby of the group so thye don't force me or anything and they dont' do it when I'm around.

I never did drugs or drank before.

But i just want one night jsut to feel drunk, you know?

I don't know..it's 50-50 to me

no one can make that decision for you.

personally, i wouldn't. it's against what i believe in, and i don't want the feeling of not being able to control my body. alcohol can make you think you're in control and doing everything right, but in reality, you aren't.

as for just wanting the experience, i can understand that. but think about all the people you see that act like complete idiots when they're drunk. i don't think you want to be seen acting like a complete idiot, do you?

so, i'm just saying, don't drink.

Q: 13 female me and my g/f tara, hear about this party from her older brother. so we sneaked out of house and went. well there was a lot of booze and drugs at this party. Tara kinda freak and left but i hung and start to party with these older guys. well i woke up in bed roo with them and i was naked. i found my clothes now i dont know what to do

well i don't understand why you're rating the other repliers so low just because they told you the truth-- you most likely were raped, and it was wrong of you to 1. sneak out of your house, and 2. to stay at the party when you KNEW something bad could happen. YOU'RE THIRTEEN. that's honestly, really sad.

you might want to get a pregnancy test if your period isn't on time, that is, if you've even started you period.

and if you can somehow track down the right guys, contact your local law enforcment and report them.

i also agree with what the other people have told you. so, if you rate me low, well, too bad. you need to hear it.

Q: I'm having a pool party soon. I am going to invite a lot of people. What are some good ideas for it?

maybe have contests with like a panel of judges and small, silly prizes for each, such as biggest splash, best handstand, long standing handstand, sillest jump, etc.

maybe make it sort of a hawiian theme, with lei's for each guest, tiki torches around the pool, grass skirts for when people aren't swimming, stuff like that.

put out cute little umbrellas for the drinks, maybe make some punch or something tropical.

play some fun, summer music and such. hope i helped (:

Q: Okay, so i need to get my physical at the doctor. And i think i need to get a blood test. Don't they hurt? And i think i need it on my wrist, right next to the veins, and that makes me feel REALLY lightheaded. And i need a GARDASIL shot also..and do you know if that hurts? I just got like 5 vaccines a couple weeks ago and they didn't hurt..but a blood test will it hurt? I HATE PAIN. Please be honest. Does a blood test hurt if it's near the wrist veins, and if it's not does it still hurt? And does the GARDASIL Vaccine hurt?? And also, what does a doctor do during a physical? Do blood tests hurt as much as a vaccine? Please answer ALL.

at a routine physical, they do simple things such as blood pressure, pulse, eye tests, reflexes, height, weight, consult any problems you have or have had in the past, things like that.

they do not do blood tests as a part of the physical. i hope you don't think that, but i can't tell by your question. but i don't know anything about blood tests anyway, so i can't help you there.

a physical is nothing to be worried about (:

Q: how do i make a cursive i love you for myspace, like i see everyone have i love you in cursive and i really wanna know how they do it??

put this in your codes where you want it to go:

i love you

Q: i want to be a little more sexier for my guy. like he's mentioned to me before he'd likes the type of stuff where a girl'd randomly like, push him against the wall and start making out w ith him type of stuff, but i never know how to go about doing it. like i know it's supposed to be random, but it feels a little silly for me to do it i don't know why [ i'm experienced but i'm still new at mostly everything ].

and also i want to know what are some sexy things i can say to him whenever we're kissing or doing whatever?

just anything sexy that i can do/say in general.

thanks!

well, one thing that turns my boyfriend on is when we're kissing, just lying down somewhere (on a couch, bed, etc.), and when we stop or a while, i'll initiate the next "session" by grabbing his hands, putting them over his head & holding them there (so he obviously can't use them). plus i always sort of straddle him while i do this. it puts you in control and my guy, at least, finds it really sexy.

also, when your kissing before foreplay or stuff like that, i just like feel him through his pants and pull his hair (gently, of course), stuff like that.

hope i helped (:

Q: i need some really greatttt rock songs. i don't really want a bunch of oldies but like 2000-now rock songs would be great. Things like "click click boom" and "i hate everything about you" by three days grace. Those sort of rock songs. No punk please. Anything will do along those lines! thank you!
P.s. i do like a lil screaming but not the whole song.

my answer is sort of late, but my boyfriend loves rock and listens to stuff like:

godsmack,
atreyu [sp],
alter bridge,
shinedown,
breaking benjamin,
dream theater,
& some 30 seconds to mars [some songs are much better than others.]

bio

hiii! i'm caroline. i'm eighteen years old, and just started my freshman year of college. i have a magificent boyfriend who i love more than anything. we've been together over three years. he's also my best friend. speaking of which, my other best friends are also pretty fantastic. another huge part of my heart is devoted to god. he's blessed me with so much more than i deserve, and even though i fall short on a daily basis, he's still there for me, every step of the way. i'm a pretty simple girl- i love anything fun, texting, being outdoors, swimming, playing soccer, frisbee, or watching football, spending time with my family, and most of all- living my life to the absolute fullest.

to be frank, i'm not going to answer your questions about girl drama or pregnancy, because i have no experience in either of those categories, nor do i want to listen to you whine about how "we didn't use a condom" or "she's such a &*^#%!!!!". however, i'm totally open to anything else. drop something in my inbox and i'll get to it pretty quick- i'm quite the net nerd (: