Hey everybody! I love to help people and I've been the designated advice-giver amongst my friends for years so I've gotten pretty good at it. If I haven't been through it, I know someone who has, so feel free to ask me anything! I just wish I had known about this site when I was younger and needed more advice of my own.
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Member Since: February 7, 2007
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Last Update: April 7, 2021
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Yeah so I put my goldfish in with my bigger fish and the bigger fish was chasing my goldfish. I figured it wouldnt hurt because he couldnt get him. But now my goldfish's tail is all torn up from the bigger fish biting it. Will the tail repair itself? Will it grow more cells so it wont be torn? Or will it be torn forever? (link)
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It will heal somewhat but it will probably stay somewhat torn up. He should be fine swimming like that, but put him in his own separate bowl so the bigger fish doesn't kill him.
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Last night when i was masturbating (i do it at least 4 times a day and it's been that way for a number of years) when i got close to being at the edge of orgasm I got this EXTREMELY powerful headache in the lower left corner of the back of my head and it spread to the rest of my head.
The same thing happened this morning.
Why is this?
I'm PMSing now if that makes a difference. I'm worried. I still have the bad headache now. (link)
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A lot of people get headaches during masturbation or sex. I could go into more detail but this website does a way better job explaining it than I could...
http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/headachesex.htm
I'd also suggest decreasing your sexual activity, trying other positions and try drinking soda or something with caffeine in it because a lot of people find this eases the pain. If it continues for a long time, you may even want to mention it to your doctor (And don't be embarrassed because they hear far worse things).
Hope this helps!
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ok. so my friend has a urinary track infection. she said its because she didn't go pee once she had sex. that didn't make any sense to me because i thought that your vagina was a different hole then you pee hole (sorry i don't know the scientific name) and i was just really confused. so if anyone could help me out with this i'd appreciate it (link)
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It really helps to go to the bathroom after you have sex because although there are two separate holes, they are so close on women that often bacteria can get forced into your urethra (pee hole). Going to the bathroom helps to force it back out before it can build up.
Some other tips to avoid these painfully awful infections... wipe from front to back after going to the bathroom to drag bacteria away from the urethra and drink lots of water or cranberry juice (although this has not been proven to help and has never helped me).
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I can not stop eating.
I lost 5 pounds last month,but all of as sudden now my body is going insane. it's like I NEED TO EAT, even when I don't feel hungry like today for example, I've had
a pudding, chocolate bar, jo louie, a sandwhich, bag of peanuts and smarties, grilled cheese, mac and cheese, crackers and cheese, oatmeal, chcolate eggs, big chocolate bunny, yogos, coffee, fruit-to-go.
And it's only 1 in the afternoon.
My stomach is HUGE, and hurts, but I still want to eat.
What can I do to get this under control?
I'm madly craving sweets. (link)
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It sounds like you are compulsively overeating (eating when you are not hungry and eating until you are in pain). It could be from hormones, stress or just boredom.
There are a lot of things you can try. This article has 8 great tips to avoid overeating...
http://www.canadianliving.com/CanadianLiving/client/en/Health/SpecialDetailNews.asp?idNews=230530&idSm=420&special=1
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is mims-- "this is how i rock" (on some sort of phone commercial or something) available to download anywhere? i like it so much better than "why i'm hot", hahaha. (link)
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I'm not positive, but try and see if this works...
http://minorcrisis.net/users/asiangirl051/219153/
I believe it's free too!
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Hi, my fiend recently told me he heard about people snorting flouxetine. i was just wondering if it is safe, and what are the effects of snorting the perscription drug Prozac or Fluoxetine. Will you get a so called "high". (link)
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Snorting pills is generally a bad idea. First of all, they are bad for your nasal passages and can do serious damage to the lungs when inhaled. Many pills contain cellulose and chalk, which pass through your intestines harmlessly when taken orally, but can be very destructive if they get into the lungs since they are not water soluble. Many people experience nasal pain and VERY bloody noses when they snort prozac too.
Prozac can also cause seizures which can be increased when the pill is snorted.
On top of the potential physical damage, it's unclear that snorting crushed up pills is any more effective than taking them orally. It is believed that less of the drug is absorbed if snorted than if it were simply swallowed.
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ive been haing a frinds wit benfits rlationship with my best guy friend but he wants to have a threesome with oneof his other girl friends and she already said yes. i also said i woudl but im not sure exactly what me and another girl would do. i wouldn't mind kissing or a little boob play but i don't want to go down on her and i think he might be epectign that. im not grossed out by it exactly i just dont know whaat im supposed to do, ive only ever had a dick in my mouth.
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I think you should think about this more before you do it. Don't you think it's a big leap to go from never having had sex to having a threesome? I don't know how old you are or how extensive this threesome would be, but maybe you should put it on hold. And please don't do it just because the guy wants you to. Respect yourself, have fun and don't do anything that you feel uncomfortable with.
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i dont want to make my mom upset because i am. My family is moving in 2 weeks, i tell my mom im alright with it because i dont want to seem over whelemed(sp). but i know my feelings will come out sooner or later. i find myself almost crying on the smallest sad or happy things. i dont know whats wrong with me. i really dont want to leave all my friends, im really about to cry. wat do i do?
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You should talk to your mom about it. It's normal to have these feelings and she may be able to help you feel better. You don't have to be strong for everyone else. You are the child and your parents are there to take care of you and help you through these things. I hope everything works out for you!
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would it be bad for my hair if i straightened it [or some of it] while its wet/damp? i mean theres a straightener made for that right soo.. yeah. ive done it before a little and it just seems like it makes my hair kinda stringy but is it more damaging or anything? (link)
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Get one of the straighteners for wet hair. They work amazing!
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I've been giving my boyfriend handjobs and recently a blowjob.
And in those times.. he has stopped pleasuring me. He doesn't really touch me/finger me.
Is it rude to ask if he would do something to me ..?
Is there a good way to ask?
I'm kinda shy haha. (link)
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He may not even realize that he has been slacking in that department. Maybe he's enjoying himself so much that he doesn't think about it. You could just take his hand and put it where you want while you are doing the same things to him. Or tell him you wish he'd do it more because you like it. It isn't rude and he'll probably be flattered that you like it so much.
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ok, so today when i was stepping out of the sidewalk from my house, i was listening to mp3 and suddenly this guy pulls up his car, i get really frightened, then he asked me "do you want to get a ride?" and i politely said no, thank you, then he gets out of the car and starts walking towards me, and i didn't want him to ...he asks me my # and name and what school i go to, so i was really horrified at the time and i couldn't think straight so i gave out my actual number and thinking back, i have nooo idea WHY i did that, then he told me he'll call me soon and walked away...
i have a feeling that he's been watching me ever since i was getting out of the house and really creeped out, he might be some stalker, what should i do?!?! any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you! :) (link)
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Please tell someone about this! Either your parents or a trusted teacher. You should definately have your parents (or you if it's a personal line) change the number you gave out. Write down anything you remember about his appearance or car. Get his license plate number if you see him again.
This is very serious. There are a lot of dangerous people out there and while it could be nothing, I think it's better to be safe than sorry. Go with your gut. If it feels wrong and creepy then you're probably right. I don't want to scare you but I also hate the thought of anything happening to you.
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My best guy friend and I (16/f) have been getting in lots of fights, and it's because I'm so dependent on him. Well, ever since May I haven't been. I've been with other people, doing things, always busy, etc. I maybe hang out with him once a week, or two weeks. We never talk on the phone. But last night he went camping with 3 friends, and left me 3 voicemails. They're all talking about our friendship. He says things like, "I don't deserve a friend like you" and "you stick with me even though I treat you pretty poorly sometimes" and "i'd rather fight with you than anyone else" and "i feel like we're drifting, we need to hang out more". Yeah, that's just hitting the main things in each msg I guess.
What I'm asking is why did he do that? Why did he send msgs NOW about how he doesn't think he deserves me, and all the things I typed up there? You have to understand, I used to be very clingy, like, call him to see where he was, have to hang out with him like 4 times a week or more. Then for some reason in May, I felt he was drifting away from me (and I never want this) so I cut it out, and hung out with other people. I've barely talked to him, except yesterday, after I listened to his msgs. I just asked if he had anything else to say, etc, and he just said he wanted to talk to me about his problems. (Which is what he did in his msgs I guess) He also told me when I called him back, that he feels it was too late to be telling me all that. (I guess because we don't see eachother as much or something?) Honestly, he has treated me very badly, and I've always been the most loyal and greatest friend to him. I HAVE recently, in May, started to not care so much. I rarely even think about him, and I used to every minute of every day.
So yeah, if anyone can tell me why all of a sudden he actually CARES about our friendship now please tell me, haha. I just need anything you can say because I'm confused. (link)
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This is the oldest story in the book! Guys at your age (or really any age to be honest) are terrified of commitment. They get scared when girls are clingy. They get scared when they have feelings they can't handle.
It sounds like he really does like you (as a friend or maybe more) and just doesn't know how to handle it. Maybe with your time apart he realized what he had and now misses you. If you want to see him more then try to find a happy medium. Somewhere in between seeing him all the time and never seeing him. Maybe limit yourself to how many days you hang out with him in a week. You don't want to make yourself too available because A) he freaked out the last time you were always available and B) if he doesn't appreciate your friendship then he doesn't deserve to see you!
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I really want to have sex with my boyfriend, and I'm ready to. I'm 19/F and he's 22. We've been together for about a year and I love him so much, and I know he loves me. He said he would wait until I was ready, I am.
The problem is everytime we get close to actually having sex I freak out, and it's not that I'm having second thoughts or anything. I'm a virgin and I'm a little scared/nervous because it would be my first time and I don't really know what to expect or do. Were you guys nervous your first time? What even happens after you have sex, I wouldn't know what to do. And I guess I'm kinda scared that it won't be any good, for him, if that makes sense. I can't really describe what I'm feeling everytime I freak out.
Anyway, he can tell I'm freaking out and stops. I don't want him to. How can I tell him that I don't want him to stop. How can I explain why I'm freaking out? Any other advice would also be helpful.
Thank-you, and sorry for any grammatical errors. I typed this very fast.
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I completely understand what you are going through. It is a big decision and it can be nerve wracking even if you are ready. I would recommend talking to your bf about all of your fears. If he loves you as much as he seems to he will understand all of this. Plus, maybe he has the same fears!
I was very nervous my first time. It might hurt a little but it's nothing that you can't stand. Just go slow and don't stress out because that will just make you tense up and it will hurt more. Afterwards, most people just snuggle and enjoy the moment. You don't really have to do anything. And don't worry if it's not great the first time... trust me, it gets better. Like everything else you just need practice. Besides, it's usually the guy worrying if the girl will enjoy herself. Believe me, it's not as hard to make a man happy as a woman. :)
Oh and this is completely off topic, but please be safe and I would definately get on birth control first. That way you won't have anything else to freak out about. Good luck!
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i started babysitting this nine year old girl every wednsday and friday from four to eleven about three month ago. she goes to bed at eight thirty but her older brother gets home around nine thirty or ten from work but i stay until his parents get home so they can pay me. he's 27. he started hitting on me the first wednsday i started babysitting. then about two weeks into it, the fourth time i babysat, i was washing dishes. he came up behind me, put his arms around my waist and started kissing my neck while he was putting his hands up my shirt. he said that it was time for me to stop 'teasing' him. i don't think i was teasing him, i dont dress revealingly or anything and i usually have something on my clothes by the time he gets home.
But anyway, i told him we shouldn't do anything, but he is really cute and it did feel good, but i didn't want to get caught by his parents. i didnt want them to fire me. well we didn't hae sex but he did rub me through my jeans and he pressed his penis into my back. but the next week he came home early and we did have sex and we have been keepingit a secret since then and now i want to stop because it makes me feel guilty. my bff said i shouldn't beaccuse he took advantage of me because he's the adult and he told me that he would tell his parents that i hit on him and tried to sleep with him if ii stopped. i don't know what to do i want to keep babysitting carly because shes kind of attached to me, but i dont want to be pressured when her brothre comes home.pleae help me. (link)
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You should definately stop and if he keeps bothering you then tell someone... even if you are scared. More than likely he isn't going to run around telling people because with your age difference that is considered rape even if it is consensual. This isn't your fault. He is taking advantage of a young girl and he could be in serious trouble for that. I wouldn't even want to babysit for people with a son like that. Good luck!
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Okay, so does anyone know name of the poem below:
"Back to back they faced each other, drew their swords and shot each other. A deaf police men heard the noise and came to see the two dead boys."
I'm not sure about the last line. And I don't really know the rest of the poem, but I know it goes on. Does any one know the name? Or at least the rest of the poem? (link)
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It's usually called "Two Dead Boys" or "One Fine Day in the Middle of the Night." There are many versions and it's been attributed to many people over the years. Here is one common version...
One fine day in the middle of the night
Two dead boys got up to fight
Back to back they faced each other
Drew their swords and shot each other
One was blind and the other couldn't see
So they chose a dummy for a referee
A blind man went to see fair play
A dumb man went to shout "hooray!"
A paralyzed donkey passing by
Kicked the blind man in the eye
Knocked him through a 9 inch wall
Into a dry ditch and drowned them all
A deaf policeman heard the noise
And came to arrest the 2 dead boys
If you don't believe this story's true
Ask the blind man, he saw it, too!
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Any tips for giving head?
I think I got it down, but once the guy cums..
Is it bad.. to keep pleasuring them?
[I've heard stories.. that it hurts the guy?]
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It can hurt the guy because it's just really sensitive. Plus, there is really no point to continue then. You can always ask the guy if he wants you to stop or not.
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ok well i dowloaded all of my itunes stuff onto my dads computer at his house and all of the songs are on my ipod now but i was wondering if its possible to get the songs from my ipod to my computer without transferring the songs on his computer to cds and then putting them on my computer... if this doesnt make sense just let me know and i will clarify thanks in advance! (link)
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You need another program besides iTunes to get the songs from your iPod back onto a computer. This article is really great and lists several programs that will work (and a lot of them are free!).
http://macs.about.com/od/ipod/a/copy_from_ipod.htm
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I was with my boyfriend, and we were just in the mood, right? And he kind of stuck his dick in me, but pulled right out. It was between 2-5 seconds. The thing is he says he didn't cum, but we don't really know. But would you really know if the sperm got out?
Is there any chance I might be pregnant?
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If you are really worried, go to your gynocologist (or planned parenthood if you don't have one), tell them what happened and get the morning-after pill. Use a condom next time so you don't have to worry like this again. Good Luck.
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This is probably going to be a dumb question, but I have no idea what I want for my birthday. It's June 11th. I want some money, but like I don't NEED anything. I mean I do, but uh?
My boyfriend keeps pestering me asking me what I want, and I have no clue what to tell him. (Him, 17 & I'll be 15.) If that helps at all. I just need some kind of a ideas.
Please + Thanks. (link)
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Are there any books, cds or movies that you want? Think about things that you like to do and something you could use for it. Practical gifts are always great if you don't really "want" anything. Also, if you really can't think of anything, ask for a gift card to the mall or your favorite store so that you will have it when you DO want something. It's a little more personal than money so the gift giver will feel better.
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I'm looking for the artist and title of this song.
Yes, I have tried google.
This is the poart I heard:
I don't need no man and I don't need no loving.
I don't need no man and I don't need no loving.
I don't need no man and I don't need no loving.
I don't need no man, and I don't need no man
and no loving, no man, and no loving, no man.
I don't need no man to hold me through the night.
I don't need no man to tell me it's alright.
And I don't need no man to promise me the world.
And I don't need no man to call me his little girl.
That's all I heard.
Thanx to all that answer. (link)
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That song is "No Man" by Nina Storey. Enjoy!
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