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is it better to have sex with lights on or off? dont give me the "it depends, or either" just sayy wich is better. lights on, or lights off.
i would say lights off.
it's more relaxing and sets the mood better.
also, if you're not tsuper comfortable with your body that could always help.
JOBROLOVER
Are you supposed to shave your hair down there
I am a female
you aren't "supposed" to do anything. it's your body and you should do whatever you choose. you can shave it, or you can leave it there. most guys prefer if girls shave it, but you should do whatever you're most comfortable with. if you try shaving it and you don't like it, it will always grow back. :)
JOBROLOVER
i really like this guy that is bi-racial. (black and white)
and i don't know if my family would accept it or not but i'm not sure that i care..
is there anything wrong with a white girl dating a bi-racial boy?
no there's nothing wrong with that!
you should date someone because you like them, not because they of what race they are.
every human is 99.9% alike genetically and people make too big a deal out of that .1%. race really shouldn't matter.
JOBROLOVER
15/female/sophomore in high school
Lately I feel so stressed to the max, like I'm to the point of breaking. The new school year just started a few weeks ago, and I already feel like I'm drowning in most all of my classes. I've always thought of myself as smart, but it just seems that my new classes (which are all either Honors or AP) are just too hard for me- basically impossible. I can hardly ever focus on my work, and if I even try I don't understand what to do- which prompts me to lose focus again.
I've missed four days of school already, all of which have been because of working so late into the night (it takes forever for me to complete my work, since it's so difficult for me) that I either don't get it all done (and repercussions for unfinished homework are brutal in all of these advanced classes) or I'm simply too tired and feel awful the next morning.
I had a similar problem last year, which caused me to get way behind in school and miss 30 days. I ended up making it all up with all A's and B's, and began to feel fine just like I did before high school started over the summer, but as soon as school started again last month all my issues came rushing back to me, despite my vows that this year would be better.
These problems have had affected my mental health in strange ways. I find myself crying all the time over the littlest things, I can't find any motivation to do what I know I must at times, I'm always feeling nostalgic towards the times when school wasn't so impossible for me, and I hardly ever do anything social anymore. School just seems like a giant looming tower whose shadow I constantly live in, threatening to crash into my unstable life. I think I may be depressed, but I have no idea what to do about it.
My mother is at her wit's end with this whole scenario. I don't think she fully understands how I feel- to her, I simply am too lazy to do my work, and would rather stay home and watch TV all day. She's been resorting to a somewhat "tough love" approach, which is in all honesty making my situation worse. I know she's trying to help, but I don't think she understands (nor wants to understand) what I'm going through. I'm not sure she would even listen if I told her everything from the paragraph above- she would just start screaming and tell me that the only thing I can do is just be normal and do what I need to do.
I really think I need to look into alternative options besides traditional schooling. High school really isn't working out for me, but I have a lot I want to do with my life, and dropping out is absolutely not an option I even want to think about. Of course, I really do think that there is also something wrong with my mental state that needs taking care of, though I have no idea how. I just need some help to get my life back on some sort of track (even if it is a slightly non-traditional track) so I can start living the kind of life I want to live.
you might want to talk to your counselour and see if you can drop down (instead of taking honors or AP classes, taking regular ones).
good luck
JOBROLOVER
when im texting the boy i like i alway run out of things to talk about. around him its like im always shy. the conversation consist of a "hey how are you" "good and you". "i miss you, i miss you too"
whats some better things to talk about.
talk about what's going on in your life.
school, friends, family, etc.
what you did over the weekend
what you're gonna do over the weekend
something funny that happened that day
just try to open up a little more and don't be scared to say stupid things. just be yourself.
and make plans to see each other soon!! :)
JOBROLOVER
i dunno if this is the right column..
butt anyways.
i jet ski quite a bit.
&& i was wondering if that could break my hymen
or pop my cherry or whatever?
i mean it could, but it most likely won't. sports that are more likely to break your hymen are ones like gymnastics, dance, etc.
JOBROLOVER
ill ask a doctor! thanks. im sure im not the only one right?
god im only 15 and i have this problem. i wish i didnt, i cant even swim because of it.
Phoebe
no you're not the only one. :)
JOBROLOVER
heey. i don't know if you'll be able to answer my question but i noticed that you're very active like i am so im really hoping you can . :) so, ive been dancing for 8 years now and i DO use tampons but i'm a virgin. people say that if you're as active as i am sort of thing, you're hymen will probably break before having sex, what do you think that chances are for that ? sorry if this is a really dumb questionn. thanks for your time !
i'm not really sure what the chances are, but i do gymnastics and stuff so i'm guessing mine's already broken. dance is sorta similar to that so yours probably is too. i'm not really sure how to tell.. but you could like ask your doctor i guess next time you go? haha. sorry i couldn't be more helpful
JOBROLOVER
thanks for the advice. i was just getting paranoid. but no semen or sperm came out and i took the pill. so i should be fine right?
yeah you should probably be fine.
i mean,
- you didn't actually have sex
- you didn't see any semen come out
- and you took the pill
so there's a pretty good chance you're totally fine.
JOBROLOVER
I hear that guys like girls to be shaved down *there*.
Then i heard guys like the 'landing strip' better.
Do you like guys to be shaven? Do you ever shave yourself?
any input?
thnx!
1. i've heard that guys like girls to be completely shaven - but i guess it depends on the guy.
2. i don't really care if guys are shaven or not. i know it's kinda sad that they expect girls to shave and then don't want to shave themselves - but whatevs. as long as they like trim or something.
3. yes. i shave it all. or get it waxed - which is much easier and lasts for longer.
JOBROLOVER
does anyone know where you can chat for free and like flirt online w/ ppl???
that's weird.. but if you're gonna do it make sure you never tell anyone where you live or anything like that. you could try like isketch.net or espin the bottle or something like that
JOBROLOVER
my boyfriend and i were fooling around and his penis was next to my vagina but he never pre-ejaculated or ejaculated, nor had he prior to us fooling around. i took the morning after pill that morning just to be on the safe side because i got paranoid. i know its a stupid question cause you need sperm to get pregnant, but i cant get pregnant from that right?
you wouldn't know if he pre-ejaculated. but most likely you're fine. especially since you took the morning after pill
JOBROLOVER
Okay, I really want to get money for stuff my parents won't get me. I'm only 12 gonna be 13 in October. I really want money!! Do you have any suggetions on jobs i can do at my age?? PLEASE!!! Oh, and how old do i have to be to be a babysittier??Would you hire me???
you could try babysitting once you turn 13.
if that doesn't go well you could try:
doing chores around the house
pet sitting
dog walking
doing chores for other people
raking leaves
shoveling snow
etc.
JOBROLOVER
16/female
How long should you wait after hooking up with a guy and not recieving a phone call before deciding if he's used you or not? Sorry if that was a little confusing to understand, but it's been a week now and im not sure if i should just forget about him and move on, i really just can't stop thinking about him and i know after having sex the guy should at least call if he cares about the girl at all right? i mean if he dosent.. does that mean he has no feelings for her whatsoever?
you never know..
maybe he's busy. or he just plain doesn't like calling girls. maybe he's shy/scared to call you. it doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you. guys can be oblivious to girls expectations sometimes. you could try calling him? if he's rude or he tries to avoid you then he probably used you. actually, text him.. that's less straight forward. especially if you're one of those girls that doesn't really like calling guys and thinks the guy should call them.
JOBROLOVER
Okay. Ive had my ears pierced for probably a good two months, or at least the six weeks needed to heal. So I can change my earrings as long as theyre straightpost. When can I start wearing the nice big hoops, and cute dangling earrings?
Anyway. Ive kept cleaning the holes. When I take out my earrings to clean/ change them, sometimes I notice something stuck to the post. It looks like a teeny bit of flesh, though! Just a sandgrain big.
Around my holes, you can feel something hard under the skin. It feels like a bit of cartilage even though I only have my lobes pierced. My mom said it could be scar tissue. Like, when you press the back of my ear with the thumb, you can see it come front.
Also, it hurts to put my earrings in! Sometimes I can barely get them in at all.
Im assuming theyre not healing properly.
Sorry, this is a bit long! But it was sort of hard to explain, and I had a few questions :/
this happened to mine too. it stays like that for awhile but eventually it goes away. your ears might be really sensitive like mine are and they might be allergic to anything that's not 14 carat gold. so make sure you wear those type of earrings. after my ears healed i could wear whatever type of earrings i wanted. or you might have an infection. you could go to the doctor, but i don't think it's that big of a deal where you NEED to because as i said, the same thing happened to mine and it went away eventually. :)
JOBROLOVER
im like 110 pounds or so. and i have this friend. shes on the bigger side. im a tall person ( like 5'6ish) and shes like 4'11. she always thinks taht shes smaller than me. when everyone knows shes not. she yells at me for thinking that im not fat. she really makes me feel bad because i used to be like 90 pounds in like 7th grade and then i gained that weight as i got older ( im in 10th now ) what should i do about this girl and her 'your fat, im not' thing?
don't feel bad.. 110 pounds is skinny for 5'6. you're at a good weight. she's just jealous of you. pay no attention to her. don't let her make you feel bad because that is what she is trying to do. if she sees that she is getting to you it will give her satisfaction.. so act like you don't care.
JOBROLOVER
okay so you guys know the song by medic droid, i forgot what it was called.
but at the beginning it talks about jeffree star but just at the very beginning
and it goes JKJKJK LOLOLOL i heart your effing makeup oh my god i love your hair
i could look it up in a second
but where do you get it? i dont go on limewire and the song wasnt on itunes
and i dont want to be illegal so yehhh :D
love that song!
it's callled fer sure by the medic droid
you can get it on itunes or limewire
JOBROLOVER
ok 17/f my boyfriend nd i were making out nd he started going for my neck.. nd he kept kissing me.. well now i think i have a hickey but im not sure. because whenever i look in the mirror u can't really see anything but everytime i touch the side of my neck it hurts alot! so is it a hickey or not?
nope it's not a hickey unless you can see it.
it might just be sore from him sucking on it.
JOBROLOVER
so is it true that girls find gay guys kissing hot?
yes, some girls do. others don't. it's basically just preference.
personally, i don't understand why.
because if a girl was watching two hot gay guys kissing.. neither of the guys would be attracted to the girl. so i don't understand why they would find that hot?
just like i don't understand why guys think lesbians kissing are hot.
the only way it might be hot in my opinion is if the guys were bi. that would make more sense. ha
JOBROLOVER
16/f
i'm in love with this guy, hes the same age as me and everything about him is amazing, except one thing- he smokes pot. this is my #1 turn-off in a guy. he doesn't do it alot but i still don't like it. we've only been technically "dating" for a few weeks and i just recently found out- he didn't tell me, idk if he was going to or not, but i dont know what to do, should i stay with him?
tell him you don't like it when guys smoke. see if he is willing to give it up for you. i mean you can't really expect him to give it up if it's something he does.. but you can try.
if he doesn't want to stop..
you need to decide if there are more good things about him than bad.
for example
bad- smoking pot
good- good personality, cute, etc.
you did say everything about him was amazing :)
just decide if those things outweigh the bad (smoking pot).
sorry if this was confusing
JOBROLOVER