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Q: What EXACTLY IS a vibrator? And what does it really do and what's its purpose? lol...I'm 15/f...and I don't even know these things. :P
Go to www.urbandictionary.com & type in vibrator. I know this probably isn't the answer you're looking for, but that site offers more defintions than I could ever come up with.

Q: My best friend and I had the biggest fight we've ever had. She has a new boyfriend. I don't like him. So she's mad at me for "spoiling her happiness". Should I apologize to her, or wait for her to apologize???
I love her a lot. way more than is normal. I tend to get really attached. Help?
Apologize. There's no shame in being the bigger person. By apologizing you can hopefully put this fight behind you. It seems like you really value this friendship, so why waste time being mad? Sense this boy makes your friend happy, try giving him a shot. There must be somethinggg good about him. But if you know something really messed up about this guy, let your friend know & warn her. As a good friend it's your duty to protect her and that means giving her all the info (even if she'll dislike what she finds out). Let her know that you still want to hang out as much as possible! Just because she has a boyfriend now doesn't mean she'll abandon her best friend, so don't worry!

Q: this may be long but i need your helpp please!!
my friend of one year, we became really close and we became a group with 3 other girls. so anyway, this year shes starting to be really rude to me, ignoring me, and treating me different than my other friends. i have talked to her about it at least 7 times and she does not listen. if i had the choice, i wouldnt be friends with her.. but we're in a group. AND shes in my lunch, and my only friend there and she totally ignores me. what can i do, or what can i do to not make me so upset?!!
Ignore her right back. I don't mean that as childish as it sounds, but seriously. Ignoring her will take your mind off the drama. I know you guys are in a group, so that is tough. Talk to your other friends about the situation. Maybe they can knock some sense into her. If that doesn't work try spending some one on one time with the other girls in the group. This way you won't be dealing with her immatuirty, but you can still keep up friendships you have with the others. As for her being in your lunch... this is your chance to socialize with new people. New potential friends.

Q: do guys ALWAYS have an orgasm when they come?
When a guy cums, he is having an orgasm. Or vise versa. Both events take place at the same time. There is no way for one to happen, but not the other. If that makes sense. Girls on the other hand can have many orgasms without cumming. Hope I helped clearify.

Q: 16/f

My boyfriend is always doing really cute things, like showing up at my house at 2 a.m. just to tell me he loves me and to give me flowers.

PROBLEM #1:
He does things like this ALL the time and I want to do some things for him in return, but I have no idea what to do!!

PROBLEM #2:
I'm not as creative as he is.

I would love it if anyone could give me a list of really sweet/cute ideas! :) or maybe websites?!

Thank you so much!
First of all, It sounds like this guy is head over heals for you so I'm sure anything you do he'll appreciate. Try writting him poems/notes/etc. It doesn't have to be something spectacular, just anything expressing your feelings towards him. You could always check out a craft store and wander around. After walking up and down the isles, I'm sure you'll find something cute you can make him. You said he makes suprise visits... You could always stop by his work or house and say hello randomly. If you want more, drop a message in my inbox & I'll try to come up with a few more ideas.

Q: is pete wentz in a relationship?
I didn't know--but I saw this picture with him and this girl at a new year's party and she has her hand on his leg.

Any ideas who it is?

http://www.iheartpete.com/gallery/displayimage.php?album=116&pos=1
I tried to find some info for you online, but there was nothing about his dating status. The girl in the picture is probably just a friend.

Q: i take spanish 1 in school, and we recently started doing paragraphs in spanish. i have a hard time figuring out which verb - ser or estar - to use. what's the difference between the two verbs and is there an easy way to remember which one to use in a sentence?

please help!
Estar is used for temporary situations & Ser is used for long term.

Check out this website:
http://uts.cc.utexas.edu/~annw/ser-estar.html

It might help a little. And remember to ask your teacher if you ever want some after school turtoring. He/She is the best source for Spanish help.

Q: Well. . dont take this as self hatrid, because I dont hate myself.
But I really think I'm stupid, because..I just do horrible on everything, even when I try, even when I study. Its depressing. I dont get math, or science,or language (spanish) I'm not good with things like that.

Any good study ideas?
How to learn those subjects?

:( i feel so crummy.

Because I found out I failed my spanish exam.
I didnt fail the class, because this was first semester. But what do I do?
First of all, don't put yourslef down. Just because you're doing bad in a couple of subjects does not mean you're stupid, you know that. I know it can be really discouraging to study and still get a bad grade on the test/quiz/etc. Try getting a tutor. They're there to help you with your specific problem. Ask a teacher to stay after school and go over some work. They'll make sure to explain the stuff that will most likely be on the next test. Good luck!

Q: Is there a very helpful site that could give me words that sound really effective with a New York accent? Such as, instead of mustard-mustid!! I need the accent for an audition.
I looked for a website, but couldn't find anything... sorry =/

I do however know a couple words that can be spoken with thick New York accents. Water, coffee, world, orange, etc.

I also recommend renting some movies set in N.Y. I'm sure you'll pick up on more lingo there.

Haha, Good luck!

Q: ok,well my favorite brand of all time is pacsun
Here are a couple outfits I put together, if you have any more questions drop one in my inbox...

1)
http://images2.pacsun.com/is/servlet/izoom/PacSunProducts/3447166_01_070?$detail_product$

http://www.hollisterco.com/hol/images/store/collection/16399_01_b.jpg

2)
http://www.hollisterco.com/hol/images/store/collection/16047_02_b.jpg

http://images2.pacsun.com/is/servlet/izoom/PacSunProducts/2569853_01?$detail_product$

3)
http://www.hollisterco.com/hol/images/store/collection/15736_01_b.jpg

http://images2.pacsun.com/is/servlet/izoom/PacSunProducts/3315975_01_010?$detail_product$

I hope I helped a little & remember to look online @ www. hollisterco.com and www.pacsun.com and when you find something you like... click on it! Under that item it will say something like "You may also like.." This will help you find other things similar to these items & clothes that will most likely appeal to your taste.


Q: my mom said she heard delia's (the store) was opening in another mall in new jersey. well it is in the willowbrook mall but i usually don't go there. usually i go to garden state plaza or paramus park (idk if anyone is familiar with any of these but hopefully there's someone out there that knows) i looked on the website but it only said new locations opening soon. i got a gift card for christmas because my aunt goes to the willowbrook mall but it is just a hassle to go there when instead i could go to a closer mall. well if anyone knows thanks soo much =]
First of all, I love love love delias. I don't have a delias near my house either & it really sucks. Anyways, if the website doesn't mention WHERE exactaly the new stores are opening, I would call up the mall closest to you. I think you said that was the Willowbrook mall? Look in the yellow pages or dial (1800)Free-411 to get the number of the Delias in that mall. They should know if another store is opening up anytime soon.

Q: Ok, well sorry if this question is asked constanly.. but I was wondering, is there anyway to view my history on mysapce? Like to see who all has been to my site? I'm really curious to know. Someone posted a bulletin, but it was just some advertisement. If anyone could tell me, that'd be great! Thanks! =D
Those bulletins you're seeing are spam/viruses/etc. There is no way of checking profile views, yet. I'm sure within the next couple of months a feature on myspace will allow that. But until then, you'll just have to guess. Sorry =/

Q: I was taking my usual ballet class...and while doing a split...I felt pain in *that* area. I'm 15 btw. I went to the bathroom to see what was going on...And I started to bleed...and was sore and that *area* hurt. But it wasn't my period. Because the time didn't come yet. Could it be possible that my cherry has "popped" un-sexually? (I haven't ever engaged in sex). Does this mean I'm not a virgin anymore? ;_;
Your hymen can break for many different reasons. What happened to you during ballet class seems like something that could have trigered the break. No worries. If your still sore in a couple of days, you might want to make a doctors appoinment... But I really wouldn't worry about it anytime soon! & Yes you are still a virgin. Good luck!

Q: when you give a guy a blow job and the cum goes in your mouth? do u spit it out? or swallow it? if you use a condom, does the cum still go in ur mouth.?..can you get an std from it?? hehe thanks soo much!
You can spit OR swallow. Depends on what YOU want to do, so don't let the guy dictate what happens. If the guy uses a condom during oral sex, cum shouldn't leave the condom (but there's always a posibility)... But Honestly, I wouldn't have him use one during a blow job. I think it would kind of defeat the purpose. You can't get an STD from swallowing cum, so don't worry. But remember to be careful because when you're fooling around with a guy cum or pre-ejaculation can easily come out unexpectedly & you don't want it to go anywhere that can cause pregnancy.

Q: which do you think is the best movie for a girl's 13th year old party?

- Epic Movie
- Happyfeet
- Dreamgirls

or have any others? I mean like.. movies that are out in the movie theatres now, not movies you can get on DVD or something.

kthnx. :]
I'm not sure if your mom, or friend's mom, will allow PG-13 movies. I guess it all depends on the particular parents' restrictions. Here are some movies out in theatres, sorted by rating:

PG
Happy Feet
Eragon
Rocky Balboa
We are Marshall
Night at the Museum
Happily N'ever After
Arthur and the Inivisbles

PG-13
Dream Girls
Stomp the Yard
Freedom Writers
The Pursuit of Happiness
The Holiday

I really want to see The Pursuit of Happiness and The Holiday, but it's all up to your personal prefrence. Check out www.fandango.com and you can read summaries on all the movies. Good luck & Have fun!

Q: how much and were can i buy Too Faced Lava Gloss eyeliner in black?
www.ulta.com & www.beauty.com & www.Toofaced.com

All of these websites sell "Too Faced Lava Gloss Eyeliner." As for a store selling this product, I didn't see anything =[ sorry. I think if you really want this specific eyeliner, you'll have to purchase it online. It costs 16.50. A little pricey, but the reviews online say it was worth it.

Q: I use the computer too much.If I use the computer for longer than five minutes I will have to make my family punish me.Only we can't think of a punishment.
Going from hours on the computer to a measly five minutes will take some time getting used to. How about limiting your online time more and more everyday? Start of with an hour, then 30 minutes, then 15, etc. Then once you get down to your goal of 5 minutes, you can start thinking of "punishments." I personally don't see the need for punishments, but if this is really what you want... How about; groundings, no tv, limiting time with friends, paying a fine, or something else along these lines. If worst comes to worst you can always turn off your computer or cancel your internet. This way you have no choice but to lead a computer-free life.

Q: I know this sounds really weird, but my makeup smells really bad! Its powder. Ive had it sine maybe November. But, it smells like eggs..whats wrong?!
Some foundations, powders, etc. have a naturally unpleasent smell. Any other reasons for the smell I'm unsure of. I know this probably isn't the answer you're looking for... But I'd say buy a new product. Try a different brand, or if you really like the way this powder works.. buy another of the same kind. I hope things work better this time around!

Q: are there any foods or drinks that are not fattening and will not make you gain weight that quickly fill you up and make you feel full? i have a major problem with binging and throwing up and im trying to quit. please help (dont tell me to get help. ok thank you)
I usually eat things like; 100 Calorie Packs, Granola Bars, Yougurt, Jello, Apples, Oats n Honey Bars, etc.

They all satisfy my hunger and help me watch calories/fat intake when I'm on a diet.

Q: What are some good ways to let your creativity flow? I know that I'm really creative and I have some insane ideas deep in the back of my mind;I just have trouble utilizing these ideas and putting them together.
Writing, Poetry, Singing, Dancing, Drawing, Painting, Designing, Building, Acting, Speaking, Photography, etc.

I know it's basically just a list of verbs, but I think one or two might jump out at you and spark an idea.

(EDIT: If you want your creative juices to flow art wise, try walking around a crafts store and trying something new.)

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