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Q: ok my bestest friend i new scence i was in dippers she took my boyfriend.one day i was walking to my boyfriends house,and i open the door and they were kissing i just broke down and started crying.i miss him really much .what should i do get a new boyfriend?im not my friend lisas anymore

You shouldnt let a small thing like a guy ruin your friendship. But yes my advice is to get a new boyfriend because if he is a two timer then he really didnt love you like he said he did. But i think you should patch things up with your friend. Friends that long shouldnt break up for such a stupid thing like that. Friends first boy friends second. Maybe she feels guilty for it and is sorry just give her a chance if she does it aain then dump her. Hope iv helped a little, dont be afriad to write back and good luck boy friend hunting. Hope it all works out.
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Q: what songs can a group of girls ( lets say abt 4 or 5 pple ) sing for a school contest ?
( rv idol ) preferably a simple song with a good chorus and a easy solo ? ( or none at all )

Im not quit sure what a good one would be for a group of girls. Because i dont think a brittney spears one would work but go at it if you think it is right. Hope iv helped a little dont be afriad to write back.
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Q: AHHH !!!! my calves are really really short . they aren't fat , but because they are short , they kinda of give that image . not only that , my calves are very curvy , as i have small ankles , but a normal amount of fat around the centre part of my calves . i'm about 5 or 5'1 , 13 years old . my calves are about 30 cm long ,when you bend your knees and measure the part behing your knees until your ankle bone at the upper side of your foot . is this normal ?? help !

Yes but if your worried you should go to a docter just to be sure. Not all people are built the same im 5"4" and when i was that height i had calves like that. But they grow as you grow. Hope iv helped a little dont be afriad to write back.
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Q: my sister is a pain in the ass and i cant make it stop . she never listens to my mom or my dad and when ever you try to talk to her and she doesnt like what your sayin she likes to drown out the sound of people by repetin the word la over and over again . she calls me names like bitch and ass and other stuff like that . how do i make her stop being that way . oo yeah she also does bad stuff and blames it on me !!!!

thanx

That is the way sisters are. My sister is like that to, the only thing you can do is stick with it and i dont want you getting introuble or nothing but when my sister blames stuff on me. I go and i blame stuff on her and if it means you both get grounded or something that is a risk youll have to take. But for the act of her saying lalala yes that does get annoying. But maybe someone needs to knock scence into her or just yell at her when she says lalala. And keep talking to her because soon or a later she will stop. Hope iv helped a little bit dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: See, i'm gay, and thats why i have a gurly user name, i am really a man! my boyfriend just broke up with me, and i am really depressed, i look so straight in gay bars no one aproaches me, what should I do!? please help!

uhhh well i dont know how you look when you go in them. So i dont know much but why dont you try aproaching someone, its probably not the fact that they think your straight its probably the fact that they think your shy. Im glad that you put your self out and dont care what people think of you. My friend Jason is gay and this used to happen to him but after he went up to someone then it stopped. Just try it wear something you think that they will think your cute in. And aproach someone with confidence. Hope i helped a little and dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: Oh okay, because I was going to say, damn! That's terrible though that you were raped! May I ask what your son's name is?

Brian Micheal Gohan, he has a twin sister named Heaven Alyssia Maree but she died RIP. from rsv

Q: Okay, I was reading your column... let me get this straight, you're in 10th grade and you have a two year old son?

Yes, im not a "slut" or anything its a rape baby. But i still love him.

Q: well im not sure if i can say i like him.. but i have feelings. His name is Chris and i always see him in school and he usually looks at me when we are passing eachother in the halls. theres just something about him that , i dont know hes just my type. well the other day i took my friends bus and he was on it and when i looked back at him he was looking at me like in the eyes. one of his friends sits in back of me in my study and he sits alone so should i say somethin to him? i was just going to say sumthin to chris but we like dont know eachother.. and i dont know how to talk to him and i dont want to soudns weird.. id take my friends bus and what should i say when i first talk to him, should i sit near him and smile and say hir os tumhin or ask him if hed wanna hangout? i dunno:-\thankss

So let me get this straight you like this guy named chris? but youv never talked to him before am i right?

Q: Hey y'all... thanx for the advice, but i left out one minor detail... i start varsity for a team in western pennsylvania... we are kickin some ass this year, and we are 10 wins and 1 loss... yea pretty fucking good huh? well neways... my coaches suck, and all my friends are on the soccer team... but i love volleyball.. and i think the only reason i am playing is so that i can play Junior Olympics volleyball(J.O.s)... so my mom wont let me quit volleyball and then play j.o.s b/c she says that i wouldnt have the experience that the other girls have, so i am not allowd to do it... i am so pissed off.. and our season is going to last longer this year b/c we are going to playoffs and i really dont want to... i just want it to end... its horrible,,, neway whati am asking is if i should play soccer or volleyball again... i know sum ppl answered, but i need some more feedback... please and thank you... HELP!!

Me personally i think you should continue playing volley ball.. why? because its something you love to do it doesnt matter if your coaches are ass holes. Its something you like if your friends all wanted to get tattoos would you? dont follow what your friends are in or do or like. Do your own thing stick with it and youll probably be a really great player. I was on football team and my coaches were ass holes but i stuck with it because i liked to play. But anyways what im saying is just go for it dont quit and have fun. good luck dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: It is possible to be in love at the age of 13???
Rainbowcherrie

It is possible but it is a slim chance that you truley are in love at a young age your crushes may seem like the real deal but its just a feeling when you get older you will find out that that one person you thought was your true love really isnt. And dont settle for the first guy that you go head over heals for there is a right person out there for everyone. Just takes a few years to find them. Im 15 ingaged and have a kid so it is true that you can find your true love.

Q: me and my bf recently slept together and now i fink i mite be pregnant but im wondering can somebody under 16 have an abortion whitout their parents knowind thanx

Yes, they can but tell your parents anyway because a baby is a big deal its not something to play around with and think its a game. Well good luck with that and i hope you pull through.
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Q: well everyone in my school has a bf! even my ugly bff has one and hes hott! i dont no what to do b/c it seems like no guys like me. i wouldnt say im ugly but im not exactly pretty. what could i do to attracted guys???? thx

Just be yourself. I ts a proven fact that not most guys look for a gurl because of looks and if they do thern there only wanting sex. They look for personality and how pretty there smile is! so give it some time and youll get one. And hell like you for you dont be someone your not. Thats just not attractive. Well hope iv helped a little good luck and dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: Ok I was having a convo online with a person i adore and I had my BEST friend EVER over.. I asked him if he liked me as a friend."Hell no" If he was my friends "HELL ya"She asked him Who would he rather go out with (My friend Only likes him as a friend..)He said Tori My friend..
She asked him who was prettyer ME ! But he HATES me Not just a little hate i mean HATE..I dont know what i should say to him ! :(

If he hates you then 1. he wouldnt talk to you anymore and if he does hate you and he imes you then just tell him that remember you hate me. I guarentee hell change his mind about what he said. And as for your friend it kinda seems like she wants to go out with him just a wild guess i had friends like that. Good luck hope iv helped and dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: Ok HeReS HoW It StArTeD:

I WaS OvEr At My FrIeNdS HoUsE(aka person) AnD ThIs iS OuR CoNvO.

Person: Ummm I need To Tell you Sumin Serious But you Cant Tell AnYbOdY!!!
Me: Ok You Can TrUsT Me
Person: I think I mite Be bi
Me: Bi as in Bisexual
Person: Duh
Me: Wow
PersOn: I kno
Me: So r you atrracted to any of our friends?
Person: yea
ME: Are you attracted to me?
Person: Maybe

So Thats It. So Im confused cuz it kinda grosses me out cuz what if she invites me to sleepover and since i cant tell anybody about it she'll get invited to sleepoers nd stuff so she could try to make a move on me nd my friends i need help
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No no if she was really your friend and valued the friend ship then she wouldnt hit on you if she knew thaqt you didnt like her in that way. If she wanted anyone else to know then she would hit on your friends. But i dont think you have to worry about anything because she doesnt want anyone to know so most likely she wont hit on you or your other friends. And if you dont want her hittin on you just tell her that your not like that and you dont wana be more than friends. Hope iv helped dont be afraid to write back.
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Ps. Good luck i had a friend like that to!

Q: Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:

I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.

My hgonest opinion to this is.. Get over him. Someone that liked you wouldnt keep on trying to break your heart like he is doing. I know it will be hard but you can do it i have faith in you. It was hard for me to get over my ex boy friend to he did the same thing except he did it with my best friend. Any waysd want a secret to get over him? try your hardest to not hang around him or talk to him at all. and i know that it will hurt for a while and it will take at least a few weeks to get over him but you will get ove him. And once you first get over him and see him the feeling will come back but its only temporarly. But try your hardest this guy doesnt seem like hes going to change and you seem nice you dont need to be getting hurt like that. Good luck i hope iv helped and dont be afraid to write back if you need to talk about anything here is my aim sn - vampiregoddess54 and my yahoo is shortieblonde2002 good luck and stay tough.
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Q: everytime i close my hand into a fist, something pops in every finger. it never hurts but im scared its something that'll lead to something ill need surgery with later...is this normal?

No not really it might just be that you need to keep your hands busyer to get them strangthend. Or it might be something diffrent my guess is to go to a docter before it gets worse. Hope iv helped good luc kand dont be afraid to write.
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Q: Ok well my sister is a cosmotologist and she does my hair and stuff. Well I want to dye the bottom layer of my hair dark and I'm not sure what color 2 get. I am naturally a strawberry blonde, and my mom would freak out if I got black hair. so PLEASE HELP ME! if u could include pictures that's b great. Thanx. i rate.

Maybe you should put blue thats the darkest i can think of right now thats not black blue or purple. Hmmm well i have blonde hair with blue streaks in it. But im sorry i dont have a picture hope i helped a little dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: Well... I've been really depressed lately about my brother. He got shot exactally a year ago from today... I'm really sick of being sad... Does anyone have any advice on how I could possibly cheer up??!

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Im sorry to hear that.. But you should try getting out and doing acticities and stuff i dont think your brother would want you to mourn over his death. Or just sit there being sad all the time i bet your brother would want you to be happy and live your life full. Go out with some friends or go play a game or something youll never forget your brother but i guarentee you your brother would want you having fun not be depressed all the time. Hoep i helped a little and dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: You seem really cool and you seem to be the onlyone who really understood what i was trying to say cuz i think everone else who answered my question was a prepp lol. Im me sumtimes my sn is
ycbabiegrll06 (stands for yellowcard)i'v had it forever and i need 2 change it but im juss 2 lazy lol.

Lol thats ok i did but i guess you signed off from it but yeah i have a bunch of friends just like you described. But iv been called alot more then skater and iv gotten alot worse then just looks haha its kool some the stuff i do to show people how freaked i am lol. Ok well talk ya later

Q: I went to visit my aunt and met this guy and i guess he says he lieks me and when we were in the car he asked when i was going to be his gf and i said i didnt no well i havent seen him for awhile and i call him and talk to him on the phone and i really really like him what should i do becuz i really want to go with him

Then say yes and go out with him. If he lives farther away then if you really love him it will work out. Hope iv helped dont be afriad to write back.
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Hey, my name is Kelley, a little bit about my life: Im 24 i have a 4 year old daughter, when i was younger i got into alot of trouble because i felt unwanted and picked on alot in school. As i grew up i got into several bad abusive relationships. Now that i have gotten out of my old life im crawling up from the ashes and making a new life. Im a great listener and i love giving advice, if youd like to give me a shot id try my hardest to give the best advice i can give. The reason some people dont like me is because i tell it how it is i dont sugar code anything and im very opinionated. Id love to listen to your problems and help out that best i can.