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I'm a mom of 3 kids in a long term relationship. I like to think I'm fairly smart(IQ 131), but I definitely don't know everything. I work a regular job, finished high school, but dropped out of my first year of college. I'm not religious, but I think of myself as pretty spiritual. I'm always watching and reading new things that interest me, because I love to learn new things. I guess you can really ask me anything, I love to give advice. I'm sure the people that will benefit best from my advice are other people like me, but don't take my word on it ;)
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hey i really need help. i made a big mistake and i cant fix it now.im sorry that this is so long but please i dont know what else to try.
I was with this girl for a little over a year. we were friends for a long time before we started dating.but i made a stupid mistake..i always fought with her and called her some mean things. things she never deserved to be called. and i made our relationship horrible. but i never meant the things with her..i had something else bad going on in my life and it kinda got to me and i fliped at her every chance i got. i didnt mean it. i called her pretty much eveyrthing you can think of and i left her at a dance not long ago and she gave me alot of chances and this time shes sick of it and wants us to be done..i only left her that day because the problem i had stuck me like 2 mintues before i left to go with her and i got mad at everything she was doing there..i just really dont want to lose her over something as stupid as this..she really wants to be with me but shes afraid that im going to be like that again and she cant trust me and she just cant let herself be with me again..she cant talk to/hang out with me because she still has strong feelings for me and shes afraid she'll wanna be back with me and we hung out the other day and she kissed me twice..she said it was for closure and then she did it again and then pretty much made out with me..(idt u make out with someone for closure) but please i just need some advice on how to get her to trust me again and give me another chance (like girls put urself in her shoes and what would u want right now) please im begging at this point..this is the girl i want to be with for the rest of my life and its killig me..i messed up alot and she gave me many chances and now that the problem is out of my life she wont give me another one. how do i get her to trust me..how do i get her to hang out with me and let me show her i changed..i messed up and i really need help please. only answer if you think you can really help.
thanks so much
Before you can make it work with her, you need to get your feelings under control. No matter how big or little the problem was you were having, it shouldn't have been put on her. Even if this problem is over, what about when another one you can't handle happens? Will you go off on her again like you have been? If you want to make a relationship work with anyone, you are going to need to get yourself some help getting things under control. It is not normal for people to deal with problems the way you have been, I really urge you to talk to someone and find out what is happening. You could have some underlying condition causing this, like being bi-polar for example, that is fueling you. Good luck, and please look into it for the sake of your relationship.
ok. so i'm a skinny girl, but i do have meat on me.
but Anyways guys are always talking bout if girls vaginas are fat and stuff?
is that bad if it is?
and how can you getrid of some of the extra fat in that area?
plz help
There is no reason for fat in that area, it just all depends on how your body stores fat, what your weight is, etc. Men don't care how your genitals look, they are just happy that are getting some haha. Kegal exercises help your pelvic muscles, but im not sure if it will help any fat on your vulva you don't like. Losing overall body weight in general will help some, but that might just be how your body will be. Women in today's society have hard enough times excepting their bodies the way they are, and the genitals is a taboo thing no one talks about. All I can advise is to try and learn to love your body the way it is, it couldn't hurt :)
so i was in hot topic today.
and i heard this song that i didnt know.
i wrote down some of the lyrics i heard.
the band had a male lead singer, and there was some 'screaming' in it, (hardcore/emo/screamo music-type)
and here are some lyrics that i wrote down.
they dont go in order..
"say oh my god, its keeping you gone, keeping you quiet"
and
"with all they said"
and
"your the one next to me"
I input the top line of the lyrics on youtube( if you want to find any song, input lyrics on youtube, you can usually find it) and I found this song:
Title: In Oceans
Artist: Agraceful
Album: The Great I Am
Has screaming and everything, check it out, I bet this is it.
So i thought this was the right category. Well my boyfriend is 17 and bi-polor. One minute he will be happy and the next we will be fighting but then fine again. I don't think he takes anything and i don't think he wants too. but how do i deal with this? anything will be helpful, except dumping him, because thats not gonna happen. THANKS!
Bi-polar is a difficult thing to deal with, mostly because it is caused by brain chemical imbalances that are out of the person's control. Medication helps, but it's not a cure. The best way I can think of, is to know what triggers his mood switches. If he is having a great day, avoid anything that may trigger him as much as possible. If you guys do start fighting, you need to remove yourself from the situation and let yourselves cool down. Nobody is in their right minds when they are fighting, it is best to remove yourself and reflect on why you are fighting in the first place, then you can diffuse the situation.
ok so ive been home schooled for 2 or 3 years but now i go to a normal high school (im 13/f) and my cousins go there to so i hang out with them and there friends but i dont like there friends and there to old for me and im to shy to make some other friends so what do i do??
It is really hard to get over shyness, especially if this is your first time in a real school. The easiest way to make friends, is with the other students in your classes. You have those classes with them all year, and should have plenty of chances to talk with them doing group activites during those classes. You just need to open up a little more to the classmates that you feel more comfortable with, and eventually you will form a friendship with them.
i recently just turned 15 years old and i am not underweight yet not overweight. I had c or d cup breasts and they seem saggy to me. My breasts have 2 and a quarter inches sag underneath. Like if i stick four fingers underneath they reach the bottom of my middle finger. There is no .. ompph unless i wear a push up bra... Well ive always seem a big vein on each boob around the areola going up to the top of my chest but tonight i took off my bra and tooo my fear.. I saw many tiny green bright and noticeable veins from my chest to my breasts all the way down my upper arms and around my upperarms..its nasty.. It just happened tonight and now i ican see vains onnnn my areola.. Im sadd.. Im so old. Yet only 15.... My family will never take me to a dermatologist because its too much money for just the skin. My family is ignorant white trash. Im angry with them bout that. Theyd never take me to a dermatologist.. My gramma says.. Well i have them i got them when i was 40 and i broke down crying and said.. Im 15...
You are not old :) When your breast get bigger they will sag, because it is more weight for your skin to hold. Everyone's skin is different, some people have more elasticity then others. For your age your breast are fairly large, mine are the same way. When I was in high school I had D cup breast, and they still are of course. They are going to sag more over time, all you can do is wear very supportive bras all the time. A bra supporting the weight, instead of your skin, will prevent sagging as long as possible. And about the veins, breast just have a lot of veins, you probably have more closer to the skin. The blood flow is needed there for when you are older and you have babies to breastfeed. You could definitely see a doctor, but just know ahead of time, they most likely can't do anything about it. Sadly, the only women with "perky" breast are smaller breasted women. Even women with implants, the skin sags after some time. Only thing you could do is a breast reduction and lift, which I wouldnt advise at your age.
Hi, Myrrha. I have a question for you regarding one of my past answers...
In reference to this question (my answered which was followed by your answer):
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=558484
Did you know that sperm CAN live in the body for up to two weeks, apparently? There has been cases documented where a female has been ejaculated in and then swabbed and what-not two weeks later and live sperm have been found. It is unknown as to how common this is because of the following information:
The female egg is not fertilized in the uterus but, rather, in the fallopian tube. This being said, if a man ejaculated in you while you were on your period, the sperm just need to make it into your fallopian tube (the one with the egg in question) to fertilize you. The fallopian tube is not shedding lining during menstruation so once sperm make it that far--it's pretty much "over" for the egg if it has been released.
So, nobody really knows how common 2 week old ejaculated sperm is because they go into the tubes to fertilize the egg (and this takes a great deal of time and effort to check fallopian tubes for those few live sperm). Since they swim against currant (obviously since orgasms tend to push quite a bit of fluid out) having a period isn't really a big deal in regards to making it upward in the body.
In regards to the 14-day ovulation day for ("normal") cycles, you must realize that the egg being released is actually for the following month (yes, it takes awhile for the egg to make it down the fallopian tube). So, even if a person has been following their ovulation date and what-not this month, it doesn't mean they have an idea of whether they can or cannot become pregnant on X day.
When I was 15, I had periods with a week and a half between them--it ended up that my body was releasing eggs very frequently--would I have been "safe" to have unprotected sexual intercourse during my cycle then?
The reason that most women do not become pregnant after engaging in sex during their menstrual flow is because the uterine lining is still slightly fragile and may break away when the egg tries to attach. It is also a theory that the sperm have less life-span in these conditions because they have more "obstacles" to make it through before they reach the egg--meaning less sperm actually wind up making it TO the fallopian tube with said traveling egg. You have to take into consideration how many sperm will eventually make it to the CORRECT fallopian tube anyway.
And though the lining may be thinned and fragile during this time, some eggs can attach despite that. This is equal to women who have full-blown periods while pregnant (yes, it happens, I know women who have done this and were shocked to find out they were pregnant). The egg CAN attach and hold on to grow, it's just less likely is all.
So, anyway, even if conditions aren't wonderful and the sperm live, say, the average of 7 days (which, yes, is the average) then consider the following:
What if the woman's cycles are not predictable? What if she experienced a major increase of stress than usual the previous month and the egg has be released early and is in perfect position in the tubes? What if the woman has released TWO eggs--one from each ovary--because of a sudden hormonal imbalance (increasing the possibility of twins even)? It simply cannot be calculated unless the woman herself is being very, very mindful of her own body (and what is the percentage for of women who are successful with FAM? very small because many women do not take the time to even attempt FAM).
You can very well become pregnant during your period though. There have been hundreds, if not thousands or even millions, of cases documented on women who have become pregnant during their period. I, personally, know of various women who have become impregnated after engaging in sexual intercourse while menstruating, and plenty of women who have continued to have menstrual-type bleeding during pregnancy.
You know, especially so it sounds like, that you have to take into account of varying factors when it comes to your ovulation day. This includes checking discharge daily, if not more frequently. It only takes one time to "oops" miss checking a day or two to have ovulated.
Misinformation being spread on Advicenators can be devastating, especially when it will encourage a girl to have unprotected sexual intercourse because it is then considered "safe" to a very small number of people. I have no hard feelings in you "calling me out" from the question; however, I do hope that you will realize that most of these girls are 15 year olds that have no idea how in the world to even calculate their ovulation day in regards to outside factors let alone understand why they can or cannot become pregnant on X day because of varying factors in themselves.
No, you didn't necessarily provide "wrong" information but you didn't supply ENOUGH information in your response. You are, technically, wrong about there being no risk whatsoever with engaging unprotected sexual intercourse during menstruation, but I think I've already covered that above.
I think it's great that you have a handle on your own body and can figure out when the safest time for you to have unprotected sexual intercourse is, but majority of the users on this site have no idea how the female body works even. Promoting FAM is great, but not when it's given with as little information as possible.
The risk may be less but there is still a risk of pregnancy, which varies from woman to woman based on a large variety of factors.
I hope that you are not offended with my supplying you with additional information. If I came off as rude, I do apologize and hope that you will forgive that. I am simply concerned about the health and well-being of my fellow humans and saw a danger within your response that I felt should be addressed immediately.
Lastly, my question: Am I still "wrong" in your eyes regarding pregnancy risk during menstruation?
I have done plenty of research on many things. Sperm live 2-5 days. It is extremely rare for them to live longer then that, I've never heard anywhere of them living longer. Womens eggs live only for 2 days. Ovulation is 14 days before the beginning of your next period. If your period is spot on, you will always know when this is, but if it is irregular you will not. So, a woman with a normal cycle of 28 days will not get pregnant from sex during menses. If a woman has a cycle of 24 days or less then it would be possible yes. Most of these young girls asking questions are using protection, they are just curious, and if someone does not state their age, you do not know if they are teens or not. I was merely stating the answer she asked for with the information I know. No, I did not go looking for rare cases of things, because those are not normal people. I gave my answers of what is medically average for women, if you feel more concerned you can talk to her more straight forward. I gave her the same answer my doctor explained to me. If a woman does not have an average cycle, it is up to her to learn her body and know when she will be at risk. She should not be having any sex for that matter is she does not understand things.
can you get pregnant if you have unprotected sex while you're on your period?
Actually Peeps is wrong. There is no possible way to get pregnant while menstruating. The uterus is shedding it's lining, hence the blood. It will take a week or more for the new lining to form, then you will ovulate. The 2 weeks in the middle of your period are when you have the possibility to get pregnant. Sperm can survive only a couple days inside your body. So even if you had sex on the last day of your period, you still will not get pregnant. I've been using a family planning method to NOT get pregnant. I know from experience that the whole week of your period and 5 days after are safe. I have never gotten pregnant in 9 years during that time.
so me and my boyfriend were fooling around.and he only had boxers on adn i only had underware and we were dry humping and he came and it was all over.i mean all over.my stomach my underwear....i am on teh 2nd day of my period. and i had a tampon in, could i be pregnant?sorry this might be a really stupid questoin but i don't know and it's kinda big dealll....
you can't get pregnant during your period. You're uterus is shedding it's lining during you're period. When you're period is over, it takes about a 1-2 weeks for the new lining to form, then you will ovulate. This is the time you can get pregnant, in the middle of your cycle. It is hard to tell the time when you will ovulate, it may be a short time during the middle of your cycle, or a long time. So use protection whenever you are not menstruating, but technically you could use no protection if you chose to have sex during your period. I wouldn't advise this unless you really trusted your partner.
There's a mouse SOMEWHERE in my apartment. I have a cat, but I have the distinct feeling that she wouldn't do anything about the little squeaker if it walked past her face (I could be wrong...but yeah). I have no mouse traps, and have basically no money to spend. I could call maintenance, but it's 10pm, so I'm gonna have to sleep here with it...
What do I do about this?
HELP!!
First of all... RELAX! It is just a mouse. It is not going to get any where near you, bite you, or anything like that. They try to avoid people, they usually only come out at night to find food. Easiest way to kill it would be some poison, but you need to keep your cat away from it. Put out some traps too. If you wanna be humane, you could call animal control and they will come put some live traps most likely.
I found out i may be pregnant around 2 weeks ago, its 2 days before my period should show.. and i had sex today and started bleeding, and its not like my period. It is practically done bleeding now though. Whats wrong? Miscarrage? Or too rough, and made a tear? (It hurt pretty bad during).
Ahh whats wrong?
I believe a miscarriage would bleed for a while like a period. Most women that get pregnant and miscarry at the time of their period, never knew they were pregnant. It is possible to have cramps and stuff while you are pregnant. Most women have spotting or light bleeding during the beginning of pregnancy when the egg implants into the uterine lining. Did you show positive with a pregnancy test? I would take a test to see the results. If it's positive you should wait 2 weeks+ and test again. After a miscarriage a test can be positive still for that long. Good luck.
13/F
I cant stand my body! When I was in elementary school I was a little over weight until 7th grade when I got a litte bit taller then everthing sorta evened out and now Im in 8th grade and Im rapidly getting bigger. I have hypoglycemia, which is just a big word for low blood sugar, and Ive had to add carbs to my diet. But I went to the hospital last month because I was having muscle spasms, which havent gone away yet, and they weighed me and I had gained about 30 lbs. in 2mths.(since I started adding carbs) Ive kept the same weight for 3 yrs. (125) and now Im about 150. I have these huge strech marks on my thighs now and I cry everytime I see them. Ive tried dieting but I can never stick to anything. I love water, and I exercise everday in gym. Ive stopped eating so many carbs and I tried to stop eating my normal amount which is usually no breakfast, a calzone or nachos with cheese, milk and a cookie and dinner. How do I lose this weight? Its like no matter what I do I keep gaing weight! Thank you so much.
don't be scared to talk to your mother or your doctor. Go to your mother right away and let her know you don't like the way you look. For the carbs, you are eatting very bad carbs, that is why you are gaining weight. You need to eat "healthy" carbs. Whole grain breads and pastas, brown rice, sweet potatoes, skim milk, etc. Eat lots of vegetables and fruit, and some meat also. Stay away from calzones and nachoes!
So this guy i've been seeing for a while is totally awesome and i like him so much. he is usually really cool with whatever i do and doesnt protest against anything. if i drink every once in a while he doesnt think its a big deal. basically he is just very chill and cool wtih stuff.
This past weekend my friends wanted to doo hookah and i was texting him and decided to ask him how he felt about that. ive never done it before and i was interested in his opinion. basically he went off about how i might as well be smoking pot. and i told him they are completely different blah blah blah and we get in a bit of an arguement. first arguement we've ever had i might add.
So were texting back and forth and he just kept saying "just dont do it" and i responded that i can do what i choose. and then he said he wouldnt want what we have to end over something as stupid as smoking because he doesnt put up with that.
i would just like to once again add that he is so not like this usually! he is usually so cool with everything. but for some reason when it comes to smoking of any kind, even as harmless as hookah, he just wont put up with it.
He said that i respect myself and that is one of the reasons he really likes me. And he said i am better than that. Now he is a few years older than me so i understand he is looking out for me and doesnt want me getting into bad habits.... but... its HOOKAH. its virtually harmless. i don't know... is he being way irrational or simply caring about me? opinions/experiences would be appreciated! (sorry for the length) thanks!
hookah isn't harmless, if you are smoking tobacco, its addictive. If its pot, its illegal. Most people don't blow up about nothing. Maybe he despises smoking so much because a family member died or is dying because of smoking? Any kind of smoking is very bad for you. It poisons your body with carbon monoxide, which causes a lack of oxygen to your brain and slowly kills brain cells. This person obviously really cares about you, so I would sit down and find out why they got so upset(without arguing) and see how you can fix it. When you are young you are going to try things and make mistakes, just really think about things before you do them, and try not to let peer pressure get to you.
I'm a 17 year old guy..
About a year ago I lost one of my best friends who I hung out with all of the time. We quit being friends because I was an annoying obsessive suffocating friend. Recently I became friends with a different person. How can I be sure not to annoy this one like last time?
give them a little space. And learn to read people's body language. Look at the small details of things, and you will be able to tell if they are annoyed, happy, relaxed, etc. I wish I could tell you how to learn this, but some people are just more prone to these things, and others are clueless. So stay aware, and goodluck!
so im 16/f. and im 5 foot nine inches and weigh 160 lbs. is this good? is there like a chart with this information on it? just wondering where i am, if i'm healthy and everything =]
thanks advicenators
your height and weight is just fine. There is so much stigma in the media about looks, but those skinny girls arent healthy. You are pretty tall, and if you feel comfortable with yourself, then you are just fine the way you are. :)
well im falling so hard for this guy and im like almost in lovee with him and love isnt a term i use often or ever abuse.but we dated and he broke up with me for his first love which is understandable. but during that time they were together she broke up with him 7 times in one month and nothing was working out. so finally he told her he was done. and through this whole time he still talks to me. and still lets me know in little ways he still cares about me, and i obviously care about him too. and we hung out superbowl night and things went so much farther than they should have, and the next day him and her were back together again. then the next like 3 days they were on a break and werent together. so weve been talking for two nights now because he told her he didnt want to be with her anymore bc shes always saying how she is falling out of love and stuff and she tells him he needs to change or she is dating this other kid. and he is like in love with her because it was his first love and stuff. but today after school i went to his house and we hung out for a couple of hours and he told me how he wanted me to be his everyday and we kissed and were all over each other and stuff. and then i get home and like everything crashed again and she is trying to get him back and she is his biggest weakness and im scared he will leave me AGAIN for her. and things with them seriously are never ever going to work out. and he still tells me like right now that he doesnt know whats going to happen. and he isnt ready to be with me yet but he doesnt want to let me go and he doesnt know and all this stuff and i cant let go of him ive tried sooo hard it just wont go away. im stuck in this muddy situation wanting to be with him soo bad but i could never compete with the person he loves =[ i dont know what to do. ive tried telling him bye but he pulls me back innnn. sorry it was soo long =/ but should i let him slip away or fight for him?
tell him straight up that she is using him and walking all over him. She doesn't want to be with him, or she wouldn't keep breaking up. If she says she is falling out of love with him, she is, and is not worth his time anymore. You tell him to decide, its either you, who loves him and wouldn't yo-yo with him, or its her who doesn't want to be with him.
how do i make my butt bigger without it getting big from gaining weight?
i wouldn't suggest plastic surgery, but its possible. I think the only way to do it, is to exercise your butt like crazy. 20-30 mins a day doing exercises designed for your butt muscles. It will take a long time, but it will firm your butt and eventually the muscles will grow slightly bigger just like your arms do.
14/f
So there is this new guy I like. I recently broke up with my boyfriend and I'm over him, its weird but yeah I get over things quickly. I'm weird like that but anyways. I'm just starting to like this guy and I talk to him sometimes. He rides my bus too and I sometimes talk to him then. I have a couple classes with him too. What should I do? I can't sit by him on the bus because I sit with my friends and in class he isn't near me but when I walk by him he does say something to me. Is there anything I can do to talk to this guy more or have something happen? Thanks so much!
Pass him you phone number when you pass him on the bus.
17/f
Over the weekend I met a guy. He cheated on his girlfriend with me (not sex) but at the time I had no idea that he had a girlfriend. When he told me he basically poured his heart out to me and explained how he screws everything up. From there he told me he has done hard drugs and has been involved in a fair bit of criminal activity.
Basically, he is bad. I'm not though. I'm a straight A student, a virgin, and 'good' compared to him.. although I'm really not a 'goody two shoes.' He told me a lot about all of the things he has screwed up in his life and how he just wants something to look forward to and something to go right. He immediately broke up with his girlfriend and explained to me that he rushed into a relationship with her and hadn't talk to her for three weeks. Either way, cheating is cheating. I would never put up with that. So why am I still interested in him?
Would it really be that bad to go on a couple of dates with him? Okay, he cheated on his girlfriend (first time apparently) and is practically a criminal. I'm not though. I don't do stupid things like that and I know from experience that I have no difficulty saying no. I would not rush into a relationship with him and I have no reason to trust him. My friends all think it's a horrible idea and I would feel the same if they were in my position, but he really did pour his heart out to me. He told me all about his past. He worked really hard and graduated early and will be going to college in September. I don't need to save him, there is no way to save the 'bad boy' but maybe he could use at least one good influence in his life. I'm interested in him and I want to try this. I think he is looking for another relationship to fall into so I would spend a few weeks or months getting to know him better. Perhaps from experience, could you tell me if this is absolutely a bad idea? Thank you! :)
He is bad news. It seems like you already know how you feel about him. I would say dating is a bad idea. It sounds to me he just really needs a friend, and he felt comfortable with you. I say work on a friendship with him, maybe he just needs someone to keep him outta trouble.
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year. I'm 15 he's 18. I was wondering if this was cute for a Vday gift?:
Bake him a chocolate cheesecake or regular cheesecke because he does like cheesecake haha(:
And then fill a glass jar with pieces of paper telling him what I love about him and cute quotes.
I don't know if the second one is good or not? I'm not sure if guys would like it haha. He's a really sweet guy with a sensitive side but then he is also like a rock at times. So if you have input I would love to hear it! Thanksss(:
Fill the jar with "coupons". Free foot rub, free back rub, free kiss, etc. You can put whatever you want, and tell him he can use them whenever he wants.