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Bad boy & the good girl?
17/f
Over the weekend I met a guy. He cheated on his girlfriend with me (not sex) but at the time I had no idea that he had a girlfriend. When he told me he basically poured his heart out to me and explained how he screws everything up. From there he told me he has done hard drugs and has been involved in a fair bit of criminal activity.
Basically, he is bad. I'm not though. I'm a straight A student, a virgin, and 'good' compared to him.. although I'm really not a 'goody two shoes.' He told me a lot about all of the things he has screwed up in his life and how he just wants something to look forward to and something to go right. He immediately broke up with his girlfriend and explained to me that he rushed into a relationship with her and hadn't talk to her for three weeks. Either way, cheating is cheating. I would never put up with that. So why am I still interested in him?
Would it really be that bad to go on a couple of dates with him? Okay, he cheated on his girlfriend (first time apparently) and is practically a criminal. I'm not though. I don't do stupid things like that and I know from experience that I have no difficulty saying no. I would not rush into a relationship with him and I have no reason to trust him. My friends all think it's a horrible idea and I would feel the same if they were in my position, but he really did pour his heart out to me. He told me all about his past. He worked really hard and graduated early and will be going to college in September. I don't need to save him, there is no way to save the 'bad boy' but maybe he could use at least one good influence in his life. I'm interested in him and I want to try this. I think he is looking for another relationship to fall into so I would spend a few weeks or months getting to know him better. Perhaps from experience, could you tell me if this is absolutely a bad idea? Thank you! :)
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i disagree with the answers below me.
maybe he is bad news, but maybe he's not.
everyone should get somewhat of a chance. i would just get to know him...not necesarily commit to a relationship ..or yet at least but you should really get to know him and when YOU see the tiniest sign of distrust or anything from him, thats when you call it quits so no one gets hurt.
people can change...
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Its absolutely a bad idea. Pouring their hearts out
and making you feel special for having heard it is
a ploy as old as the hills. Makes you feel like he
trusts you more than anyone and that you are special to him. In reality, he will take what he can get from you and then pour his heart out to the next girl. Bad idea.
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He is bad news. It seems like you already know how you feel about him. I would say dating is a bad idea. It sounds to me he just really needs a friend, and he felt comfortable with you. I say work on a friendship with him, maybe he just needs someone to keep him outta trouble.
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